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RE: Looking for a few suggestions - 2/25/2011 5:14:47 AM

mistoferin

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Thanks MaamJay! It will certainly take me a minute or three to get used to my new reality. You are right about my friends. Those who fit into that category (and they know who they are) are THE BEST!

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RE: Looking for a few suggestions - 2/25/2011 5:17:30 AM

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Hiya Mist, long time no see. Get well soon, heya!

We've done something similar recently. She's had a lot going on, hasn't been able to deal with the harder physical aspects of a relationship with me, to the point where things were becoming problematic.
Shrugs.
No big deal. We sat down, talked it through and I decided to focus a lot more on the mental aspects of D/S than sadism, see what happened.
She got all slavespeaky, and but master, master, what if you don't like it (as if I won't like anything that makes her squirm, twist and scream) and all sorts of blah blah blah.
Me, I just aimed at finding other areas to exercise dominion.
And ya know what? Right now, there are many many times when she would eagerly trade the mental torture for a lil physical sadism in a heartbeat. I can be a cruel mother in many a way.
And yes, it still gets her wetter than Alabama post Katrina.

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RE: Looking for a few suggestions - 2/25/2011 6:00:29 AM

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Of course people remember you, erin. I'm very sorry to hear about your injury and I hope you will feel better soon.

I think some of the comments have been very good. This might be an opportunity to allow yourself some new exploration. The other types of play may not have done it for you in the past, but that might not be the case now if you can't play as hard with resistance as you have done before. I really liked what Kana had to say about working more with the mental aspects. It might be the key to enjoying other things more. That could be especially true if the injury itself is going to take some time to heal.

I know you've been around long enough that nobody needs to lecture you about the big picture (your health) being more important than intense play right now, so I'll spare you. I mostly just wanted to wish you a speedy recovery.

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RE: Looking for a few suggestions - 2/25/2011 8:34:21 AM

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I haven't helpful advice, as am a softie.

Hugs and wishes for a speedy healing.

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RE: Looking for a few suggestions - 2/25/2011 8:38:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I haven't been on much lately but I'm hoping that at least a. few of you will remember me. Those of you who do will probably also remember that I am not the most graceful s in the world......ok....so I'm a total klutz...and I've done it once again. Did it pretty good this time too. A few weeks ago I slipped on some icy stairs and broke my back in two places. That makes for a total of three times I've nroken it now. Fortunately.....or maybe unfortunately....my body doesn't process the pain in a normal way so I'm not TOO miserable right now.

Ok...on to the questions....

Those of you who know me know that I fimd my way to that squishy place is through very rough body play/heavy impact play. So now, if I have to look at this realisticly...which I do.....I'm rather uncertain that will be logistically possible to the same degree in the future. I want to make it clear that I am not looking for medical advice....that is what doctors are for. What I want to know is.....has anyone had to drastically alter your play style due to an injury and if so, were you successful in finding a fulfilling way to get you to that same place? I should probably also mention that things such as needles, wax, fire and electricity....while they CAN be yummy and fun....just don't get me there.

Any suggestions???

mmm why think so far ahead..instead of let it happen?

My (ex)slavegirl had MS. She had bad moments and good moments. There are so many things to try.
For us..they just popped up....because we talk a lott about our interests.
If she did really bad...we just skipp a day.

Fast recovery.

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