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MizChief -> RE: Ma'am...not? (5/6/2006 2:07:45 PM)
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It never ceases to amaze me that in a community of such creative and empassioned people we can spend so much time and energy getting upset over titles, names, You/you, etc.
I think its so difficult, as you said Lady Hugs, for some poor subbies to address a Dommie- its like they are doomed before they even put pen to ink- or, erm, finger to key. I would say, personally and without casting aspersions on anyone, that someone who got all tangled up right off on a form of address used within a context which could be seen as so absolutley respectful needs to spend a little more time using their meditation and relaxation tape.
I wish we could all just be a little more tolerant and just agree that until you get to know someone, you aren't going to get it right, especially in an electronic forum, and give people a little benefit of the doubt. KInd of like- Safe, Sane, Consensual, & Considerate* (Condsiderate being a limited time offer) [&:]
On to the point, perhaps, it might suit you to say Hello Ma'Am (as a Southern lad, an address I use as a form of respect and hope it is accepted as such) - but for flips sake, we already live in a world where we have to have disclaimers on hairdryers not to use em in the shower, do we really need to give an "oops, please forgive in case of accidental misunderstanding" clause every time someone tries to be nice?
Like there arent enough people out there putting names, titles and tags on us as it is- and we should be so worried about someone trying to be respectful. If someone addressed me in a way I found disrespectful but I could see by the context that no disrespect was intented, I would tell them, respectfully as I intended to be treated, that I preferred another form of address.
Reminds me of Pogo: "We have met the enemy and he is us".
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