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question - 1/24/2011 5:47:57 PM   
Samii


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Status: offline 		have you ever met people in the lifestyle who dosent like to have sex?
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RE: question - 1/24/2011 5:54:56 PM   
saltie


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Status: offline 		For me it is not a lifestyle but wanted to answer anyway. I done want it anymore due to a med I take and could need for a few more years.

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 5:55:05 PM   
osf


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Status: offline 		some say it's not about sex but I wonder about their sanity

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 6:00:30 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		I don't nessesarily like or care for sex myself. It has its moments and its uses but for the most part sex is a non interest for me.



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RE: question - 1/24/2011 6:03:36 PM   
CaringandReal


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Status: offline 		This is an interesting question. I've seen such people post online, in collarme or places like it, but I've not known them personally, so I can't really say much about it except that it was something someone posted on the Internet.

Salty made a good point. You can really love bdsm or dominance and submission but then have to take a drug (or else have really bad health, such as an illness that causes chronic pain) that interferes with your ability to take sexual pleasure in what you do. But even in that situation, you can still like it emotionally and mentally. The people who really confuse me are the ones who say, I don't like being someone's master (or slave) sexually, emotionally, or mentally but I still do it. Why? I always wonder that. Why?

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 6:10:08 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Yes.

There are also plenty of people in the lifestyle that don't have physical sex as a part of their dynamic.

In addition, there are folks that might just not be interested in a sexual relationship with a particular person.  I know some great people, but I have absolutely no desire to screw them.


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RE: question - 1/24/2011 6:10:13 PM   
gungadin09


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RE: question - 1/24/2011 6:20:19 PM   
0ldhen


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Yes, it is more common than you think. For some it is just about the power exchange, or the scening, or the service. You get the idea.

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 6:21:35 PM   
saltie


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Status: offline 		I meant to say I  dont want it anymore, not done. This started out as kinky sex but now is just the kink.

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 6:22:08 PM   
Hillwilliam


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Status: offline 		The lifestyle and sex are totally different.

that said, I and most others like both.

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 6:52:11 PM   
Samii


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Status: offline 		well i guess i am not alone, i married a non d/s guy, but neither of us care about sex, I am still into D/s but not sexual, but now i feel better thanks

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 6:59:24 PM   
osf


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Status: offline 		I have no desire to dominate my ducks, but I do desire to dominate a woman

I think about sexuality differently than most I guess

Our sexuality permeates our whole existence

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 7:01:08 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		as my Mistress said there are folks in the lifestyle that do not have sex as part of the bdsm lifestyle. my Mistress and i started like that. now i serve Her as She wishes. i see sex as a activity enjoyed by those having it. the lifestyle or dynamic can include sex but not required

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 7:10:45 PM   
Sanguinarian


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Status: offline 		Sex tends to be the absolute last thing I consider in a relationship. I don't require it to maintain my life, so thus, it is never a consideration until everything else is dealt with. If the subject never comes up, it doesn't matter to me.

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 7:24:50 PM   
mummyman321


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Status: offline 		I must admit that early on my involvment in BDSM was very sexual in nature. As my hunger for BDSM deepened over the years, and with the help of some very talented Dommes I learned that a place I call sub space, can be achieved without sex. So I do have friends I play with where no sex is involved.

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 7:33:23 PM   
Samii


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Status: offline 		we really dont think/talk about sex, i take meds that lower my hormons plus my depression meds, he isnt really a sexual person but he likes to cuddle n stuff, if we do have sex its just usaily playing around not much intercorse,

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 7:48:17 PM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		My masochism is not linked to sexual intercourse. The few who I do play with on occassion, I do not have sex with. And those who I have sex with, I don't play with.

So for me, the answer would be that I don't like sex when it's linked to my kinks.

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 7:54:58 PM   
Samii


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Status: offline 		My hubby likes pain but not in a sexual way,

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 7:57:02 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Samii

My hubby likes pain but not in a sexual way,

For me though, pain is very sexual. I actually get off on the pain itself. I don't need or want actual sex during or after.

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RE: question - 1/24/2011 8:21:10 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I relate to different people different ways.  I have had some relationships that were strictly discipline and mentoring, no sex.  I've had a service sub.  And of course I've had play partners with no sex.  But a full relationship to me would involve kink AND sex.

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