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CherryNeko -> RE: Love Without Respect (1/9/2011 4:39:51 AM)
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
See, for me, I love that because I actually am both a slut and monogamous and both sides of me co-exist happily. So I love humiliation and I believe that I deserve respect because I respect myself for being true to who I am and for having the self esteem and confidence to actively embrace my dark side.
I was with a man (my ex) who was new to this whole concept and at the beginning, he was good with this. He said he loved me all the time. However, as time went on and he became more and more into what we were doing, vs. who we were, he allowed boundaries to disappear and began to only see me as a slut who did not deserve respect the rest of the time.
That was the end because I lost respect for HIM, not being able to get that you need to treat someone who you are engaging with in this dynamic, with respect. So him telling me he loved me was no longer valid since respect was not accompanying that statement or actions.
I will never allow that to happen, no matter how intense and fun the dynamic is, because in the end, if someone is disrespecting me outside of the negotiated dynamic, they are not for me.
I agree. There can't be a lack of respect in love. That was very intelligent. I'm sorry.
I know it's the right thing to do, but still... you are very brave.
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