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MistressSophia1 -> Financial Slavery (1/3/2011 8:54:41 AM)
I have noticed that on this forum people are very judgmental and negative about Financial Slavery. I thought that everyone on this site had their kinks and that was why we're all here. Financial Slavery serves that purpose, and I think a lot of people a quick to dismiss it. I have been a Financial Mistress for about 4 years, and having seen most sides of I can understand how it may have negative connotations, however I don't see why people are so quick to just call it sad, or to insult Mistresses themselves.

Lockit -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/3/2011 12:02:42 PM)
Unfortunately I think that many kinksters into financial slavery or agreements get lumped up with people that aren't really kinksters and are just players stealing from others that are kinksters. Do keep in mind, many people have been here for a while and you tend to get to know one another and might have history you are unaware of. As for in email and journals and all the things said there... its a combination of things. I think a lot of people are angry and use each of these things to make a statement or punish someone.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/3/2011 1:14:11 PM)
Congratulations that you're 24 and for 4 years you practice financial slavery... Sure we all have our kinks, FD doesn't float my boat (to be honest, I would feel like I'm begging instead of working, others see it differently) but if people want to indulge in FD, all the more power to them... But sometimes there are posts and profiles that make me wonder how much of it is really a fetish and how much is just "I want my bills paid" Stuff like that tends to make us think not so great about the fetish, though it doesn't seem to work all that well, or else a proper manicure and not so laddered tights might be an option... Seriously, sitting there, expecting people give you money for nothing somehow just isn't a fetish.

LadyPact -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/3/2011 1:21:52 PM)
After that introduction that was made, how exactly are you not understanding that folks aren't seeing the kink negatively? Come to these forums and show your ass, don't be surprised when people paint a target on it.

mummyman321 -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/3/2011 1:24:58 PM)
hmmm.....you are 24 and claim to have been a finacial mistress for 4 years. So you have being a FinDomme since you were 20? And you really want us to believe that? Keep on dreaming.

plushiecat -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/3/2011 1:31:27 PM)
Wow...yeah, I read your link, and I must say that is just such an...amazing introduction. [8\|] I've never been able to read "financial slavery" as anything but a thinly disguised euphemism for prostitution.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/3/2011 2:14:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: plushiecat Wow...yeah, I read your link, and I must say that is just such an...amazing introduction. [8\|] I've never been able to read "financial slavery" as anything but a thinly disguised euphemism for prostitution. Not really, I know people who are into it, on both sides and they get off on it, but they don't show that "give me money for nothing, you dirty pig" attitude...

rosanegra -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 12:45:03 AM)
I've always wondered how it was supposed to work. As in most things kink, some people change the initial meaning or intention to benefit them, and only them. What was the original idea/goal/thought behind financial domination? Was it just the control of assets, and not necessarily the "taking" of money from people? Was it more like paying a Pro Dom/me? I see the ads all the time for "Financial Dominants" and I read it the same way most do.. "pay my way in life for free." I've also noticed, and perhaps this is a skewed view, that it tends to be perpetrated most often by people who are supposedly women about my age. I say supposedly because a part of me thinks that the fantasy "Domme" for a lot of people is a woman about my age, which is why a predator would choose those statistics in order to have the best chance of succeeding in fleecing people.

CherryNeko -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 1:13:15 AM)
Hmm... People can tell you what to wear, and how to spend your money; but you have a legal right to wear whatever the hell you want, as well as spending your money in your preferred fashion. Legal rights are obligations too, and having the legal right to call something yours means that you won't be calling yours something that is someone else's; you cannot take someone else's choices for them unless of course, they agree. So IF slave agrees, it's done. It's the only way to do it. However I don't believe in contracts and that sort of things, even when they're not really legal. I think it's part of slave's prerrogative for when they 'use a safeword.'

LadyConstanze -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 2:04:59 AM)
The way I've seen it done was between people who had a real life connection and the guy wanted to do something for her and it was much more harmless, say they were meeting before lunch, she took his lunch money and she made him go without lunch, they both loved those kinda games, or she made him put money aside for stuff he wanted to see her in. It's a valid fetish, it's just some people see it as a way to use it as a cash cow....

crazyml -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 2:13:41 AM)
Hello Sophia, Personally, if you get your kicks from making someone your financial slave and a sub type gets his or her kicks from being your financial slave then that's fair enough. The problem is (I think) that this site has a goodly number of out-and-out scammers who see "Tribute" and "Financial Slavery" as a way to make some easy money. I wouldn't put your profile into that category,though, as you seem to be fairly clear about what you will and wont give in return. But, your kink (assuming it's a genuine kink) is fairly "niche". On reading your profile my reaction was the same as DarkSteven's reaction on your intro thread.. quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven If I don't pay, ya won't speak to me. Win - win! Reading the introduction to your intro thread: quote: ORIGINAL: MistressSophia1 I'm too good for you and I'm not ever going to speak to you unless you open that wallet, worm. Make life easier for your mistress, worship me, and shower me with gifts. If this doesn't apply to you then fuck off and don't waste my time. If it does, reply already softcock, and don't waste my time. I hope you can see how some might view this as a fantastically rude and arrogant thing to say. I'm sure some might read that paragraph and and immediately want to send you money, but my personal reaction to this intro wasn't positive. My negative reaction comes from the very first clause "I'm too good for you". How the fuck do you know that? I'm pretty fucking "good" myself and still wouldn't dream of presuming that I'm too good for someone I don't know. Then, you tell me what I can do if this doesn't apply to me, you tell me to "fuck off". What the fuck? I've taken the trouble to read your post, and now you're telling me to fuck off? Can you guess what my immediate thought was in response to that? So you're pursuing a communication style that is bound to alienate a very high proportion of people here, so you can expect a little disapproval. But, it might really key into some deep need or desire in some, so if it works for you (and you're not going to whine like a baby when people like me find it offensive) then fill your boots!

liks2plzlf -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 12:00:27 PM)
You would have to quit smoking. I won't buy smokes for anyone

KnightofMists -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 3:09:48 PM)
The saying goes..... " A fool and his money are soon parted"........ Well....... Did anyone think to consider the fool doesn't want his money in the first place!!! Is there a better way for the fool to give his money away than Financial Slavery!? Seems like a good cause to me! and everyone is having fun... including the fool!!!

KnightofMists -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 3:16:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze The way I've seen it done was between people who had a real life connection and the guy wanted to do something for her and it was much more harmless, say they were meeting before lunch, she took his lunch money and she made him go without lunch, they both loved those kinda games, or she made him put money aside for stuff he wanted to see her in. It's a valid fetish, it's just some people see it as a way to use it as a cash cow.... In the book "The Five Love Languages"..... the giving and receiving of gifts is consider an expression of love. I see financial slavery done well when this the motivating factor between those people involved. Some love to express their love by the giving of gifts and some see those expressions the recieving of love. I think when one is rather twisted.... they can take this to an area of fun and expressive of their kinky side..... short of that... I tend to see it as a fool and his money!!!!

willbeurdaddy -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 3:37:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: plushiecat Wow...yeah, I read your link, and I must say that is just such an...amazing introduction. [8\|] I've never been able to read "financial slavery" as anything but a thinly disguised euphemism for prostitution. Its worse than prostitution...the john gets nothing in return.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 3:52:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: willbeurdaddy Its worse than prostitution...the john gets nothing in return. If a guy gets turned on by giving money to somebody, hey, might not be your kink, might not be my kink, but the guy who's giving his money possibly gets a massive erection from it, all the more power for him, it's not your money, it's not my money, where's the problem. Btw what's wrong with prostitution? I'm for one am glad that there are prostitutes, they offer something that's apparently wanted, otherwise there would be plenty of really frustrated guys about.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 4:19:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze The way I've seen it done was between people who had a real life connection and the guy wanted to do something for her and it was much more harmless, say they were meeting before lunch, she took his lunch money and she made him go without lunch, they both loved those kinda games, or she made him put money aside for stuff he wanted to see her in. It's a valid fetish, it's just some people see it as a way to use it as a cash cow.... This kind of thing is fun, or he might give you his credit card and watch you shop. SO, you go buy some shoes, if he digs shoes, or lingerie or whatever. The RESPONSIBLE woman isn't going to smoke his card for real, though she might opt for the Manolos if he can afford them. [;)] The guys who want a financial manager... well, they talk big, but don't come through. Which is a bummer, since I am a good financial manager!

jessicaTS -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 4:33:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze The way I've seen it done was between people who had a real life connection and the guy wanted to do something for her and it was much more harmless, say they were meeting before lunch, she took his lunch money and she made him go without lunch, they both loved those kinda games, or she made him put money aside for stuff he wanted to see her in. It's a valid fetish, it's just some people see it as a way to use it as a cash cow.... This kind of thing is fun, or he might give you his credit card and watch you shop. SO, you go buy some shoes, if he digs shoes, or lingerie or whatever. The RESPONSIBLE woman isn't going to smoke his card for real, though she might opt for the Manolos if he can afford them. [;)] The guys who want a financial manager... well, they talk big, but don't come through. Which is a bummer, since I am a good financial manager! i am a submissive but i think i could be a switch for a guy who wants to watch me shop! [:)]

MarcEsadrian -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 6:15:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressSophia1 I have noticed that on this forum people are very judgmental and negative about Financial Slavery. Financial Slavery serves that purpose, and I think a lot of people a quick to dismiss it. I have been a Financial Mistress for about 4 years, and having seen most sides of I can understand how it may have negative connotations, however I don't see why people are so quick to just call it sad, or to insult Mistresses themselves. More curious still is the notion this is strictly the domain of the dubious Mistress or pseudo-Mistress. If slavery is what we are speaking of, there is no need to give it a "financial" qualifier. Now there is a saying about fools and their monies, and there's some credence to it without a doubt, but it's more the province of the sour grapes and bitter misogynists who attribute financial servitude solely to predator whores and pretty parasites. If a mere fetish is all we're really talking about, then why waste time or energy thinking about the naysayers? As the song goes, Do It ('Til You're Satisfied), and let the haters/moralists eat their bleeding little hearts out.

GotSteel -> RE: Financial Slavery (1/4/2011 6:39:51 PM)
I can't say that I really grasp financial domination as a kink or the difference between it and being a pro-domme. However I try to be open minded, that whole glass house throwing stones thing. That said, when you put something like what's below out there you should expect a common response to be, how about you fuck off. quote: ORIGINAL: MistressSophia1 I'm too good for you and I'm not ever going to speak to you unless you open that wallet, worm. Make life easier for your mistress, worship me, and shower me with gifts. If this doesn't apply to you then fuck off and don't waste my time.

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