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redefining myself - 12/17/2010 7:07:52 PM   
salemartist


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From: Salem
Status: offline 		its become clear to me by perusing these forums, that i do not wish to be labeled a "Dom" and be lumped into the same catagory as some people claiming the title. SO... lets just say I am 'kinky' you can capitalize that if you like, I am 'dominant' but lets not go with 'Dom' for short. I am sadistic, but lets not call me a Sadist. I am an artist too, I suppose we can just wrap this up and generalize it... I am just a freak... no,... a Freak!
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RE: redefining myself - 12/17/2010 7:28:39 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Take some heart, Dude.  Granted, we've got a few around here (higher than average, actually) that seem a little off.  Some I wouldn't want to be lumped into the same category either.  I don't know.  Maybe some folks are going through their own personal strife, battling their own inner demons, and not doing well with their own frustrations.  Who knows?  It could be that the holidays are coming and when looking around their life or what stares at them from the mirror, they just aren't liking what they see.  Might not exactly be the best time to decide to start publishing all of those thoughts to the public at large.

I've seen some of the threads we've both posted on.  I can say that I can't blame you.  Whether it was intended to be a light comment or something you meant because of seeing some bad examples, I'm afraid I just don't know.  Just in case, I thought I'd throw My two cents in here.  I can give you My word as based on My personal opinion.  Most of the folks around here are not anything like the impression you may have gotten.  I happen to think the world of quite a few of them.

In case I forgot to mention it as we were passing each other on a few threads, welcome to the forums.


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RE: redefining myself - 12/17/2010 7:47:33 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		why not just say Your a top that enjoys the sadistic side of life and have fun. welcome to the forums

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RE: redefining myself - 12/17/2010 7:51:41 PM   
BigDaddy723


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Status: offline 		I agree with you and LadyPact totally, OP. *Plants his Freak flag in the ground and puff out his chest* It is time to let our Freak Flags Fly.

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RE: redefining myself - 12/17/2010 8:34:12 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		I like the word freak, especially super freak. That way you keep people off balance since they don't quite know just how freaky you can be.

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RE: redefining myself - 12/17/2010 8:37:06 PM   
gungadin09


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quote:

ORIGINAL: salemartist

I suppose we can just wrap this up and generalize it... I am just a freak... no,... a Freak!


Superfreak...
Superfreak...
He's super freaky!

pam

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RE: redefining myself - 12/17/2010 8:38:23 PM   
gungadin09


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Status: offline 		Big Daddy! Where 'ya been?

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RE: redefining myself - 12/17/2010 8:53:40 PM   
salemartist


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From: Salem
Status: offline 		*proudly promclains his freakdom, I am the Superfreak!*
I shall judge you all and decide weather or not your freaky enough to wear the capital F

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RE: redefining myself - 12/17/2010 8:55:34 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		You folks act like saying you are a freak is some kind of big announcement.

(It's ok.  We already knew.  )


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RE: redefining myself - 12/17/2010 8:57:40 PM   
Twoshoes


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Status: offline 		For some reason, I have this desire to improve others' sentence structures.

E: So, I changed my own a couple of times!

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RE: redefining myself - 12/17/2010 9:40:15 PM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		I have no interest in redefining myself. Neither am looking for some different label to identify myself with. I learned long ago that every label has limited value to express who I am. In some way or another, it just doesn't cover all that is me it except for one label. It's actually a label that I grew into and honestly it a label tht I continue to grow within. It's a label that is not defined outside of myself but is influenced by those outside of myself. It's a label that I treasure because to me it is worth more than anything that one person or more could give me. But it is a treasure I can share in some small measure with others. Some see more of the various aspects of this label than others and usually that is beause some they are valued and more significant to me than others. I think the label that is best suited to me isn't Master or Dad, Son or Brother, Sadist or Lover, it isn't Integrity or Honor, Passionate or Insightful. For those labels are just glimers of me. Only the Label that is my name can best express who I am.

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RE: redefining myself - 12/17/2010 10:03:27 PM   
delicatelydirty


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Status: offline 		I hate labels, labels seem to bring with them riduculous and unrealistic expectations and generalisations.
I am just me and I seek an equal yet opposite of myself .. whatever that may be .. And I have been flying the freaky flag for years, I love keeping my friends off balance

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RE: redefining myself - 12/18/2010 6:20:01 AM   
salemartist


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Status: offline 		congratulations to all of you that have applied for the title of Freak, all applicants have been accepted into my supreme freak kingdom and loyal order of the Freak. Your merit badges and oficial Freak ID's are being mailed out this week.

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RE: redefining myself - 12/18/2010 8:34:16 AM   
IrishMist


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quote:

I am just a freak... no,... a Freak!

Nothing wrong with that


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RE: redefining myself - 12/18/2010 9:08:05 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		I refer to myself as "twisted". It suits me because that is how I became submissive. Life happened and twisted me into this design

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RE: redefining myself - 12/18/2010 9:33:16 AM   
subinlife


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

I have no interest in redefining myself. Neither am looking for some different label to identify myself with. I learned long ago that every label has limited value to express who I am. In some way or another, it just doesn't cover all that is me it except for one label. It's actually a label that I grew into and honestly it a label tht I continue to grow within. It's a label that is not defined outside of myself but is influenced by those outside of myself. It's a label that I treasure because to me it is worth more than anything that one person or more could give me. But it is a treasure I can share in some small measure with others. Some see more of the various aspects of this label than others and usually that is beause some they are valued and more significant to me than others. I think the label that is best suited to me isn't Master or Dad, Son or Brother, Sadist or Lover, it isn't Integrity or Honor, Passionate or Insightful. For those labels are just glimers of me. Only the Label that is my name can best express who I am.


This

It is who I am, label me a submissive or a slave.
I enjoy pleaseing others, I always have.
Labels won't change who I am in my heart and soul.

OP sit back and enjoy the ride lol.

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RE: redefining myself - 12/18/2010 10:36:38 AM   
xssve


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Status: offline 		It is true that artistic types don't really fall in as well with the one-way crowd - to be an artist is to be an observer, which is a passive activity, artists are voyeurs, and that works best with somebody who is a bit of an exhibitionist - and, that can conflict to some degree with a control freak type thing, control freaks have a difficult time being passive and are likely to interpret it as submissiveness, and it's hard to get into the creative zone if you have to fend off constant attacks from control freaks, it's a distraction.

i.e., the creative zone might be similar in some respects to subspace, only you're being ridden by your muse, and not everybody understands that.



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RE: redefining myself - 12/18/2010 10:46:09 AM   
salemartist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: xssve

It is true that artistic types don't really fall in as well with the one-way crowd - to be an artist is to be an observer, which is a passive activity, artists are voyeurs, and that works best with somebody who is a bit of an exhibitionist - and, that can conflict to some degree with a control freak type thing, control freaks have a difficult time being passive and are likely to interpret it as submissiveness, and it's hard to get into the creative zone if you have to fend off constant attacks from control freaks, it's a distraction.

i.e., the creative zone might be similar in some respects to subspace, only you're being ridden by your muse, and not everybody understands that.





profound indeed!

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RE: redefining myself - 12/18/2010 10:49:10 AM   
xssve


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Status: offline 		I can get pretty snappish with control freaks who mistake outward passivity for submissiveness, behind that passivity lies an ego the size of Manhattan.

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RE: redefining myself - 12/18/2010 1:30:43 PM   
Whiplashsmile4


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Status: offline 		I think everybody goes through how to redefine themselves at various points in time, even more so when the risk of stereotyping is involved. I myself, am many things to different people. For what it's worth you might consider pondering things such the differences between being Dominant and Domineering are. You seem to have a solid grasp on the distinction between being sadistic and being a sadist. I am myself am sadistic but it does not consume/devour the very essence of my being and soul.

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