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Letmespankyou -> New Dom (12/1/2010 6:13:52 PM)
I am new to the life style and I am convinced that I am a Dom and would want to be a master one day. Although I know my role in life in relation to me and my Sub, I luck the experience. I am wondering if anybody can suggest a means or way I can get exposed to different kind of experiences within the life style. Thanks

MasterFireMaam -> RE: New Dom (12/1/2010 6:23:17 PM)
There's a search button at the top right of the page that can dig up lots of great conversations here. Also, go to google and search with the acronym BDSM and the name of your nearest big city, then look for some local groups. Go to events and demos... meet people. Go to national events, if possible. Check out Our signature for non-fiction books about some topics. And, ask more questions! :-) Master Fire

DesFIP -> RE: New Dom (12/2/2010 4:35:16 AM)
What she said. Plus, fix your own life. Are you patient or do you fly off the handle before hearing people out? Do you keep your word no matter what? Exceptions permitted for being in a car crash if it wasn't your fault. If it was, then you are trusted to drive anyone. You want to be the leader in your interpersonal relationships, which means you have to be a good leader. You want to play all night but she needs to be rested for a big project at work? Better be able to tuck it back in your pants instead of making her lose her job.

Focus50 -> RE: New Dom (12/2/2010 10:56:34 AM)
It's about control.... You start by addressing things you can control because everything you say or do represents who and what you are. Your profile. What little there is that isn't gibberish has basic spelling mistakes - shows you're sloppy. We don't talk in glyphs anymore and there is no 't' in "enough". You've chosen a naked chick as your male/dom avatar. Even your screen name has a hint of begging to it. Little things that make BIG impressions about you. Focus.

lizi -> RE: New Dom (12/2/2010 11:31:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 It's about control.... You start by addressing things you can control because everything you say or do represents who and what you are. Your profile. What little there is that isn't gibberish has basic spelling mistakes - shows you're sloppy. We don't talk in glyphs anymore and there is no 't' in "enough". You've chosen a naked chick as your male/dom avatar. Even your screen name has a hint of begging to it. Little things that make BIG impressions about you. Focus. What he said. I recently had someone who listed himself as a Dom contact me and ask if we could start talking with the idea in mind of getting together. His profile and emails had many little things in them that were unsure, lacked confidence, and very confused. The end result to me seemed childlike and submissive. I suggested he find out what a 'collared sub' was amongst other things and also do some work on figuring things out for himself - then go forth and present himself as more of a finished product. Get out and talk to people in RL, read books, read on the internet....CM is a great place to gather material. As you are doing this solidfy what matters to you in your head and then you'll eventually be projecting it so that others can see it. Be aware as Focus pointed out that every thing you do reflects upon you - what is the image you want to project to others? Just be sure that it is honest and not an act. No Dominant puts his/her Dominance on and off like a suit of clothing.

DarkSteven -> RE: New Dom (12/2/2010 4:54:25 PM)
Focus is right. Your profile basically states "I've seen a lot of online porn and read a couple of books and decided that I'm a Dom. But in the bedroom only". D/s is about much more than playing. You're an aspiring Top if you don't care to be Dom outside the bedroom.

Kana -> RE: New Dom (12/2/2010 8:57:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 You've chosen a naked chick as your male/dom avatar. Easy, Tiger.

SpiritedRadiance -> RE: New Dom (12/2/2010 9:36:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Easy, Tiger. But your avatar is hot and screams do this to me....

Kana -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 5:34:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Easy, Tiger. But your avatar is hot and screams do this to me.... Is that a volunteer I see?

poise -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 7:16:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 Your profile. What little there is that isn't gibberish has basic spelling mistakes - shows you're sloppy. We don't talk in glyphs anymore and there is no 't' in "enough". Focus. Is it only those with a dominant nature that can decipher his profile? When I look, it's all pictures and symbols. I must have missed the class on decoding this [:(]

sunshinemiss -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 7:43:09 AM)
Poise - It's because you are a fake! Here's what it says (I put it on my word program and changed the font) I am new to this life style. I have seen and educated myself about the lifestyle enought to know my role and appreciate the power of submission and now I am convinced that I am ready to meet Submissive women and live the experience. I am looking for a sub who is willing to explore her sexuality and her limits with a newbie dom. I am looking for casual play partner only in bedroom and not serious relationship for the time being. I am happy with my life and looking to spice it up and explore my kinky side with like minded. I am very open to almost anything- some of my fetishes include but not limited to Spanking, role playing, breasts, ropes, gags, deep throating, anal sex, orgasm control,....... I think it is better to discuss the specifics in private. I am a gentleman and live a normal professional life outside bedroom. I don't have pictures here for a reson but I have picture to show for the interested Thanks and good luck

poise -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 10:16:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss Poise - It's because you are a fake! gasps I am no such thing!! Come on.....pinch me and feel my realness! please?[:D] Thank you for decoding Sunshine. You haz skillz!

Focus50 -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 11:08:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise Come on.....pinch me and feel my realness! please?[:D] Wellll, as one who doesn't mind taking on the dirty jobs.... Can't find this 'Thereabouts' listed anywhere, but.... Damned typical. Focus.

Focus50 -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 11:17:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss Here's what it says (I put it on my word program and changed the font) I am new to this life style. I have seen and educated myself about the lifestyle enought to know my role and appreciate the power of submission and now I am convinced that I am ready to meet Submissive women and live the experience. I am looking for a sub who is willing to explore her sexuality and her limits with a newbie dom. I am looking for casual play partner only in bedroom and not serious relationship for the time being. I am happy with my life and looking to spice it up and explore my kinky side with like minded. I am very open to almost anything- some of my fetishes include but not limited to Spanking, role playing, breasts, ropes, gags, deep throating, anal sex, orgasm control,....... I think it is better to discuss the specifics in private. I am a gentleman and live a normal professional life outside bedroom. I don't have pictures here for a reson but I have picture to show for the interested Thanks and good luck Perhaps I was a bit harsh on him. He's at least got all the twue dom big boxes ticked.... Focus.

Letmespankyou -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 12:14:15 PM)
Wow Interesting, thanks for your responses and wonderful and gracious welcome.

Focus50 -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 12:25:43 PM)
Perhaps you weren't specific enough as to what experiences you wanted to get exposed to...? Focus.

sunshinemiss -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 6:50:38 PM)
Hello LMSY - I'm not sure what you are looking for. Sometimes that's the thing, though, isn't it? Sometimes we don't even know the question to ask! If you are looking for BDSM techniques, then you'll want to consider attending some of the national / international events where people teach those things (or maybe you have local ones?). You say you know your role in relation to the person you are involved with, so I can only surmise you are asking about technique - learn from someone, books, etc. Practice, and go slowly with each thing. Poco a poco. Particularly learn about medical / psychological issues around any thing you want to do. If you could be a little more specific, we could perhaps help you more. Good luck, sunshine

dory007 -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 7:14:20 PM)
there are many education/munch groups in Georgia. Join them. Go to 1763 in Atlanta and watch and talk with others. and yeah, most of what everyone else said. take control of you first and get your life together. then learn techniques at demos or from other Doms. Read books. Find a mentor.

Letmespankyou -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 11:07:37 PM)
I should have been more specific I guess. I am trying to learn the techniques just to grow on the life style. If you could help only in that matter I would appreciate it. Thanks God My life in order and not looking advice on that. I define myself and don't need anybody to tell me otherwise.

sunshinemiss -> RE: New Dom (12/3/2010 11:36:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Letmespankyou I should have been more specific I guess. I am trying to learn the techniques just to grow on the life style. If you could help only in that matter I would appreciate it. Thanks God My life in order and not looking advice on that. I define myself and don't need anybody to tell me otherwise. Ok. Fair enough. (Sadly it's often not true.). Here's the thing - I have no idea what you mean by the part I underlined. And if I don't, others probably don't as well. Techniques for what? Mind control? Medical play? How to use a cane? What's the best way to clean leather? Are you asking.... What's the better kind of flogger - rubber or leather? How do you run an interrogation scene? How much outside the bedroom should I be in charge or - and how to do that? What kind of needles should I use for breast play? Is it ok to wake someone up by fucking her in the ass? What is the best funishment for naughty girls? Is there a book or two I should read about rape scenes? What about food? How can I use it in a scene? Is it really dominance if she wants to do it? See what I mean? I have NO IDEA how to answer your question because I have NO IDEA what the question is. I'm not trying to be difficult, I'm just trying to understand. best, sunshine

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