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DarkSteven -> RE: Hi, mature newbie & aspiring dom from Oxford seeking advice (11/24/2010 5:27:06 PM)
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Hello there. I've heard of Oxford Dons before, but you're the first Oxford Dom.
No, you don't need to start as a sub. And there might be those that disapprove of you approaching younger women. Screw them - you're a Dom. Just make sure that you get to know them first. And a helpful tip - the women in their forties and early fifties will have less suitors and be more receptive than 20somethings. Although I have dated women that were more than 30 years younger than I.
Some profile suggestions:
1. Forget about a slave. Look for a submissive. There are more of them, and they're not as exacting in their requirements for experience.
2. Put some clothes on in your pics. Yes, you are in good shape and rightly proud, but a man who knows how to dress well has a certain sophistication.
3. Maybe this is because I'm on the opposite side of the pond from you, but I found your profile to be not written that directly. For example, "After all, the long tortuous journey is usually far more exciting and fulfilling than the fleeting arrival at the destination; don't you agree?" The "After all" qualifier strikes me as somewhat softening the impact of your words, which you don't want - you're a Dom! Similarly, the "don't you agree?" strikes me as a bit weak, as do most of the other questions - as the Dom, you lead, and you don't solicit input all the time.
4. Remove or tone down "Do you want to be tied, dragged, suspended, suffocated, thrashed, fisted, totally humiliated, kept on the edge for hours, and yet still come back for more?" That sounds like a cheesy line, and there's a good chance that you'd not even like humiliation Fisting and breath play are not things done lightly - promising advanced activities while being a newbie is a beginner error.
5. I love this: "You must be intelligent, articulate, into fitness, mentally strong, willing to suffer pain, and live near Oxford (UK)." Direct, clear, and somewhat demanding.
The good news is that your best bet to learn is also your best bet to meet - attend local functions and meet people. Many groups also have demos and seminars - attend them, meet, and learn.
Welcome to collarme, and thank you for using the language so well!
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