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Greetings All - 11/15/2010 8:54:59 AM

Kodidiesel

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I am a dominant male who has been on this site a while, have not really posted much, but have tried to find a local connection, but have had no luck in that endeavor. My tastes run far in wide with my desires for a submissive, a slave, but the one thing i am looking for most is one that is not looking for me to date her. I am not looking for romance, I am not looking to find my soulmate, my lifepartner, I am looking for a slave. I am sure many have read the romanticized versions of the lifestyle. That is not me. I hope this post sparks some responses, some questions, anything I have sent out countless messages to so many people on this site, and i have only had a couple even responding back.

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RE: Greetings All - 11/15/2010 10:58:39 AM

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Welcome to collarme. May you find what your looking for.
I can't speak for everyone, but I am looking for the whole package. I won't get involved with someone intimately if they're not also looking for a long term commitment.
The fact you have a girlfriend may put others off. They may want to speak with her first, to make sure she's okay with you having sex with other people.
In any event, "play safe, have fun and good luck."

Just an fyi, no response is a response. It means "no thank you".

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RE: Greetings All - 11/15/2010 11:21:57 AM

lizi

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Hello and welcome to the message boards

It is frustrating to have a fruitless search. In your case the fact that you are looking for such a specific type of relationship is limiting the women who may be interested. On one hand it's good you know exactly what you want and that eliminates a lot of miscommunication, but on the other what you are looking for is pretty much the opposite of what many women want.

There simply aren't going to be that many free women out there who want to be a third party in an established relationship and just have kink without any emotional ties. Women generally want to be invested emotionally in a relationship. That's just the way it is. For myself something such as you have described would not work, but I do hope you find what you are looking for. Good luck with everything.

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RE: Greetings All - 11/15/2010 11:55:48 AM

HisManegirl

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I agree most women want some kind of emotional connection, which usually comes from spending time together "dating" to see if You really are a match. Anyone with a brain would only meet You in public first, which would again appear to be a "date". Look at it as a small investment to give the person the chance to get to know and trust You- a BIG part of being a submissive or a slave is trust in her Master/Dom . Most women aren't just out there for grabs by the first Master/Dom that comes along- there are a lot of Master/Doms looking- a girl can afford to be choosy- very choosy! Good luck to you and welcome1

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RE: Greetings All - 11/15/2010 12:59:54 PM

Killerangel

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Hi, good luck in looking for what you want. I'd have to agree that you're going to be limited in who will be interested in your offer, but I certainly hope that she is out there somewhere.

Since you did say you haven't had much luck so far I would suggest posting a thread in another section of the boards to get comments on your profile, how to improve it, what might be happening with your approach, etc. Its a hard thing sometimes to take constructive criticism, but I've seen many people get helpful advice that way. The intro section is basically limited to saying hello and not set up for that type of thing. Something to think about.

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RE: Greetings All - 11/16/2010 4:54:35 AM

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Welcome Ko, the world of CM awaits your pleasure!

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RE: Greetings All - 11/16/2010 3:27:56 PM

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Welcome to the boards. Good luck with that thing. And you've been given good advice by seasoned posters, please take that to heart.

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RE: Greetings All - 11/16/2010 4:47:45 PM

DarkSteven

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Well, you DID ask...

1. Your pic looks grumpy.
2. You want TPE. That's a pretty tall order, and the slaves ready for it want an experienced Master. You have no experience.
3. You have a gf. How does she fit into the picture? Does she live with you, will your slave have any interaction with her?
4. You want TPE when you have the time, but you haven't described what the slave will do when you're not there (you have a gf, and will be spending time with her). TPE slaves need constant oversight.
5. How much is your gf on board with this? Is she simply indulging you until you score a slave, and then will raise holy hell?

To be blunt, poly is hard to make work. You not having any experience in poly, and having a non-kinkster included in the dynamic, and wanting a slave that will be ignored on a regular basis - you have a lot of strikes against you.

I would suggest you try to get your gf to submit to you first. Take her to kink meetings, etc.

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