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hausboy -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 11:36:58 AM)
Hey Hotch Well... given how much I dislike shopping and how much my former Domme loved shopping, just the act of bringing me along to carry the bags was torture enough. In my own way (no, I'm not disclosing here) I managed to get into enough "trouble" that she cut the shopping trip short, took me home and paddled me. (relax, purists--it was funishment for both of us) I like your idea! gotta have a sense of humor sometimes. I did something similar with football-- I love football--she used to hate it--then she started watching it when I explained all the rules of the game. Fascinated by the "penalty" flags, she managed to invent her own set--the number of strokes delivered would be in accordance with points scored, penalty flags, yards penalized etc. If my team won, I got paddled their points. If they lost, I got paddled both scores. I think the worst one was a 41-34 loss. I never got bored during halftime ever again, that's for sure.

Hotch -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 12:47:29 PM)
The dreaded "Hold my purse while I go try this on.". AUGH! Well, we like hockey, so the paddling wouldn't be to impressive, even with the worst blowout of a game.

DesFIP -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 12:49:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Too funny, Jeff. Sounds to Me like the situation is full of win no matter which way it plays out. Shows our different viewpoints. Looks to me like a lose/lose situation no matter how it plays out. Either he's disappointed that I buy anything to be punished for or I'm upset at being punished for doing what he told me to do, to shop. Like Carol, I don't think much about setting someone up to fail or having to justify your desire to spank someone by dressing it up as her fault for you enjoying it. OP you seem to think that telling someone who longs to please you that she's displeased you is a game. For lots of us, it isn't. The worst punishment you can normally give is to tell a sub that you're unhappy with her. And that's what this is. You setting it up so she can't please you. If you want to exercise your sadism, then just do it. Don't fuck with her self esteem to get over your own guilt at enjoying what you do.

Hotch -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 1:06:19 PM)
The dreaded "Hold my purse while I go try this on.". AUGH! Well, we like hockey, so the paddling wouldn't be to impressive, even with the worst blowout of a game.

Hotch -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 1:21:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Too funny, Jeff. Sounds to Me like the situation is full of win no matter which way it plays out. Shows our different viewpoints. Looks to me like a lose/lose situation no matter how it plays out. Either he's disappointed that I buy anything to be punished for or I'm upset at being punished for doing what he told me to do, to shop. Like Carol, I don't think much about setting someone up to fail or having to justify your desire to spank someone by dressing it up as her fault for you enjoying it. OP you seem to think that telling someone who longs to please you that she's displeased you is a game. For lots of us, it isn't. The worst punishment you can normally give is to tell a sub that you're unhappy with her. And that's what this is. You setting it up so she can't please you. If you want to exercise your sadism, then just do it. Don't fuck with her self esteem to get over your own guilt at enjoying what you do. Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn what you think. You're completely lost on the concept of light hearted S&M. I wouldn't be caught dead in the kind relationship you discribe. Although I respect you right to live however the hell you want to. I don't spank anyone, even children, in anger or for the sake of legitimate disipline. I wouldn't be with an adult who needed me to meld out actual disapline. Luckly, that's not the case.

agirl -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 1:32:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Too funny, Jeff. Sounds to Me like the situation is full of win no matter which way it plays out. Shows our different viewpoints. Looks to me like a lose/lose situation no matter how it plays out. Either he's disappointed that I buy anything to be punished for or I'm upset at being punished for doing what he told me to do, to shop. Like Carol, I don't think much about setting someone up to fail or having to justify your desire to spank someone by dressing it up as her fault for you enjoying it. OP you seem to think that telling someone who longs to please you that she's displeased you is a game. For lots of us, it isn't. The worst punishment you can normally give is to tell a sub that you're unhappy with her. And that's what this is. You setting it up so she can't please you. If you want to exercise your sadism, then just do it. Don't fuck with her self esteem to get over your own guilt at enjoying what you do. I think it's meant as a bit of silliness, lightheartedness.....not an exercise in fucking up someone you care for. The whole scenario isn't serious. It's a game..a cat and mouse thing. M hasn't one iota of guilt about having at my arse.......... but he DOES have a great sense of humour and as big a silly-side as I have. How can he be displeased if I buy nothing? He can just wait until we get home and spank away just because he wants to anyway. If he wanted to be a destructive arse, I'd HOPE he'd choose a far more effective method, like choosing between him and the darling offspring etc...as that would work. Possibly we are too silly for M/s ....LOL agirl

poise -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 1:41:43 PM)
So this is what all that neverminding on the other thread was about! [:)]

Nineveh -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 1:48:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Too funny, Jeff. Sounds to Me like the situation is full of win no matter which way it plays out. Shows our different viewpoints. Looks to me like a lose/lose situation no matter how it plays out. Either he's disappointed that I buy anything to be punished for or I'm upset at being punished for doing what he told me to do, to shop. Like Carol, I don't think much about setting someone up to fail or having to justify your desire to spank someone by dressing it up as her fault for you enjoying it. OP you seem to think that telling someone who longs to please you that she's displeased you is a game. For lots of us, it isn't. The worst punishment you can normally give is to tell a sub that you're unhappy with her. And that's what this is. You setting it up so she can't please you. If you want to exercise your sadism, then just do it. Don't fuck with her self esteem to get over your own guilt at enjoying what you do. I don't do the punishment dynamic and I still got the game he was into playing here. Just because it is not something you enjoy doesn't mean it is cruel or wrong. It's a win win, the sub gets to shop and get a beating, which, I am guessing with the type of sub that would be playing this game, is something she enjoys but doesn't like to admit she enjoys.

Hotch -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 2:03:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise So this is what all that neverminding on the other thread was about! [:)] Wow, you're pretty good... Very observant. I thought it was a little off topic for the other post.

poise -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 2:20:04 PM)
One letter can make all the difference in the world.

agirl -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 2:26:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Nineveh quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Too funny, Jeff. Sounds to Me like the situation is full of win no matter which way it plays out. Shows our different viewpoints. Looks to me like a lose/lose situation no matter how it plays out. Either he's disappointed that I buy anything to be punished for or I'm upset at being punished for doing what he told me to do, to shop. Like Carol, I don't think much about setting someone up to fail or having to justify your desire to spank someone by dressing it up as her fault for you enjoying it. OP you seem to think that telling someone who longs to please you that she's displeased you is a game. For lots of us, it isn't. The worst punishment you can normally give is to tell a sub that you're unhappy with her. And that's what this is. You setting it up so she can't please you. If you want to exercise your sadism, then just do it. Don't fuck with her self esteem to get over your own guilt at enjoying what you do. I don't do the punishment dynamic and I still got the game he was into playing here. Just because it is not something you enjoy doesn't mean it is cruel or wrong. It's a win win, the sub gets to shop and get a beating, which, I am guessing with the type of sub that would be playing this game, is something she enjoys but doesn't like to admit she enjoys. We DO have a punishment system but for goodness sake, having a lighthearted shopping trip mess-around, isn't remotely comparable to being punished. I'd accept that challenge from M without a single problem admitting what I do or don't enjoy.....As I don't like shopping as an activity, I can see him taking me straight to the shop that I buy most of my clothes from, and hover around the coat I am DYING to have, and watch, with a chuckle as I decide whether it's worth the whacks. It'd be amusing and as I'd probably be trying to outwit him too, I'd be sat in a coffeeshop afterwards, without the beloved item, saying * Masterrr, you're a right old meanie!!!* ........ and be smiling ruefully. Sadism takes many forms..lol agirl

Hotch -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 2:41:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise One letter can make all the difference in the world. Nice way to make an admitted poor speller paranoid!

Daddysredhead -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 4:24:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP So if she's going to be punished for shopping, what incentive does she have to do so? She could just go with a girlfriend and use her own money to pay for her own belongings. And if you don't tell her about it beforehand that's pretty low of you. This is just a joke, a "for-fun" thing. Let's all breathe deeply and exhale. It's all good. Dynamic relationships that would be all uber-serious would be a deal-breaker for me. Even with (as my Thing 2 calls DB) "Mr. Serious like Abe Lincoln." [;)] She just doesn't see His silly, playful side when He's around.

barelynangel -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 4:28:38 PM)
Okay lemme get this straight -- i get to go to the mall or shopping of my choice and spend someone else's money and the more money i spend (cause well hell i would NOT be able to say no lol) means the more my behind will get beat? But let me get this straight -- this is someone elses money and i get to keep all the stuff i buy? taps my chin and thinks -- you know i am not a masochist lol but this DOES have possibilities.[:)] I'll admit it, i love spending other people's money lol. The more i think about it, i think this scenerio should be put in a Master's guidebook lol. How to train someone to be a masochist -- shopping for beatings. Seriously, has some possibilities. angel

Hotch -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 4:58:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: barelynangel Okay lemme get this straight -- i get to go to the mall or shopping of my choice and spend someone else's money and the more money i spend (cause well hell i would NOT be able to say no lol) means the more my behind will get beat? But let me get this straight -- this is someone elses money and i get to keep all the stuff i buy? taps my chin and thinks -- you know i am not a masochist lol but this DOES have possibilities.[:)] I'll admit it, i love spending other people's money lol. The more i think about it, i think this scenerio should be put in a Master's guidebook lol. How to train someone to be a masochist -- shopping for beatings. Seriously, has some possibilities. angel Yup, that's the idea. Think of an economic risk/reward graph. There will be a point of equalibrium were the risk and reward are in balance. Slide down the graph and your at the "I think I can endure what's required to get this sassy little cocktail dress", move up the graph and you're at "God, I LOVE those pumps, but..." (shakes head and shudders).

BurntKitty -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 5:06:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hotch The dreaded "Hold my purse while I go try this on.". AUGH! Well, we like hockey, so the paddling wouldn't be to impressive, even with the worst blowout of a game. Even better. Add up the penalty minutes.

wandersalone -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 5:55:57 PM)
I get that this is a game but it would need to be changed a lot for it to work with me. I hate pain and also hate disobeying, so knowingly disobeying which is how I would interpret the you can shop but will get spanked etc based on how much you spend would mean that I immediately lose all desire to shop (yeah, who knew that would be all it took for me to not spend money [:D] ) ........ or if I was feeling particularly evil I would spend and spend and spend just to see the dominant's reaction and how far I could push him....and then I would run like hell ha ha

Daddysredhead -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 6:09:47 PM)
Wanders is WICKED!!! hehehe...

BurntKitty -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 8:43:30 PM)
Painslut for hire. Will take floggings/spankings/paddling, etc for shopping trip on a toppy type's credit card. edited for Freudian typo - chopping trip???

LadyPact -> RE: Speaking of giving salves money... (11/11/2010 9:01:10 PM)
I don't want to irritate the Mods with obsessive quoting, so I'll just address. Des, I know we have very different dynamics. I was looking at this from the fun, rather than a punishment angle. Since clip does love to shop and he is a masochist, it would have a whole different spin for us. Beating to him isn't a punishment. It's also not setting him up to fail. It would actually be rather funny to watch the dilemma that Jeff described above. Beating or shopping? Or shop to get a better beating? Shop to buy things for the beating? I might not get him settled down for a week. Don't think I don't see you up there, lil one. Get off this thread! LOL.

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