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just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 10:42:22 AM   
MrBKS


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Status: offline 		In My eyes slaves have no sexuality..I dont intend on using a slave for sexual need that need is satisfied My degree of understanding of a slave in layman terms is someone to do My bidding..In todays society it may come down to the totalitarian issue of sexually slavery would be the most influential yet I believe that if that same sexual gratification is the fixation for the slave then where is the true intent.

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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 10:44:08 AM   
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Their intent is to have a sexually fulfilling relationship? They aren't being forced into this, they are allowed to go for that... Just because it isn't your style doesn't make it wrong. Honestly, it's a bit hard to understand your post. You may want to work on it.

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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 10:44:15 AM   
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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 10:45:30 AM   
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All that being said, Carol is more service oriented. Our M/s dynamic is not eroticized. While that's not nearly the norm, it's far from unique to us.

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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 11:09:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MrBKS

In My eyes slaves have no sexuality..I dont intend on using a slave for sexual need that need is satisfied My degree of understanding of a slave in layman terms is someone to do My bidding..In todays society it may come down to the totalitarian issue of sexually slavery would be the most influential yet I believe that if that same sexual gratification is the fixation for the slave then where is the true intent.


That is contradictory to your journals which clearly describe sexual situations with a sub.

So perhaps you are here only to stir the pot and see what comes up?

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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 11:12:30 AM   
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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 11:14:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		OP. My opinion is you need some periods in there in a couple places, it was so ran on that I gave up trying to understand it.



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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 12:04:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: MrBKS

In My eyes slaves have no sexuality..I dont intend on using a slave for sexual need that need is satisfied My degree of understanding of a slave in layman terms is someone to do My bidding..In todays society it may come down to the totalitarian issue of sexually slavery would be the most influential yet I believe that if that same sexual gratification is the fixation for the slave then where is the true intent.


That is contradictory to your journals which clearly describe sexual situations with a sub.

So perhaps you are here only to stir the pot and see what comes up?


You have caught Me redhanded lol

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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 12:07:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MrBKS

In My eyes slaves have no sexuality..I dont intend on using a slave for sexual need that need is satisfied My degree of understanding of a slave in layman terms is someone to do My bidding..In todays society it may come down to the totalitarian issue of sexually slavery would be the most influential yet I believe that if that same sexual gratification is the fixation for the slave then where is the true intent.


Well... hmmm.. good to know i have no sexuality.

Now, for the reality... i do. But it takes a specific type of man to draw that out and make me hunger for his touch. I dont need sex, i can go years without. But, when in the presence of a man who can make me feel his control over me, that rings my bells and makes me ache.

Perhaps it is me who doesnt understand how a man can exert control over a woman, watch her respond, and not want to possess more of that woman.

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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 12:08:06 PM   
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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 12:55:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MrBKS

You have caught Me redhanded lol


I really don't understand why people do that. It just causes them to be taken less seriously. It's one thing to come in and say "Hey, what do ya'll think of X, Y, and Z?" but why present it as your own viewpoint? When I find out that someone did that just to stir things up, I find it hard to take anything they post as truth. For all I know, they are just pot-stirring again.


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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 2:07:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MrBKS

In My eyes slaves have no sexuality..I dont intend on using a slave for sexual need that need is satisfied My degree of understanding of a slave in layman terms is someone to do My bidding..In todays society it may come down to the totalitarian issue of sexually slavery would be the most influential yet I believe that if that same sexual gratification is the fixation for the slave then where is the true intent.


huh.

I google tried translator, accessed then double the speak interpretor, then realized did I the garbage man disposal my best option was.




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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 2:40:53 PM   
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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 2:50:31 PM   
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In My eyes slaves have no sexuality..I dont intend on using a slave for sexual need that need is satisfied My degree of understanding of a slave in layman terms is someone to do My bidding..In todays society it may come down to the totalitarian issue of sexually slavery would be the most influential yet I believe that if that same sexual gratification is the fixation for the slave then where is the true intent.


If that works for you, GREAT.  I've yet to meet many men or women...well, other than My ex-wife...who did not have a sexual drive.  While the idea of having a slave whose sexual fulfillment (or lack thereof) is totally under your control...and your idea of control & her sexual fulfillment is satisfying yourself elsewhere while she does nothing...I doubt that you will find many that want to live that way for long. 

There's many things that are wants and only a few things that are needs.  That has often been discussed on these boards.  Basic needs are considered to be air to breathe, water, food.  After that comes some sort of shelter from the elements (and yes, that can be as basic as clothing).  After that comes those things that are often argued about as to whether they are needs or wants.  Human contact is one of those things that is often argued about...do we want or do we need human contact.  Psychologists will tell you what happens to most people without human contact of a loving nature.  In my view, we all have a "need" to be touched by someone lovingly once in awhile.  It is even more effective when we know that person loves us.  Does that have to translate into sex?  For most people...no.  For most people...if pushed...loving contact of a non-sexual nature would be enough to maintain mental health (although emotional health is an entirely different matter).  That is...until they are denied sexual contact along with loving contact for a long enough period of time.  Then you begin to create all sorts of mental and emotional problems.

This is one of my big problems with those who love to enforce chastity on their submissives...for a time, great.  I've known of just a few who enforced it for long periods of time and I've met a couple of submissives who had put themselves through that.  Their viewpoint?  Both of them said "Never again".  And no, that did not make them less submissive nor less slave-like.  It meant that they'd been taken to a depth of mental and emotional barrenness that they did not wish to return to.

One of the problems with long distance relationships is the lack of mental and physical contact of any sort, of being able to just have vision contact...let alone sexual contact...with the one you want to be with.  I know...I had one relationship go away with that lack being a big part of it.  Why on earth would I want to subject a human being who is right...there...with me that contact?  Why would you?

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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 4:11:09 PM   
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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 4:16:51 PM   
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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 5:06:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		You want a service only slave. Nothing wrong with that.
Someone else may want only a sexual slave. Nothing wrong with that either.

Just make sure you communicate your interests so the other person knows whether or not you're compatible.


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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 5:19:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MrBKS

In My eyes slaves have no sexuality..I dont intend on using a slave for sexual need that need is satisfied My degree of understanding of a slave in layman terms is someone to do My bidding..In todays society it may come down to the totalitarian issue of sexually slavery would be the most influential yet I believe that if that same sexual gratification is the fixation for the slave then where is the true intent.


Ummm, was there a question in there somewhere?  The lack of any visible question marks leads me to think that there wasn't.

The lack of commas, and the odd use of periods also leads me to think that English is not your first language.  N'est-ce pas? 

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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 5:19:49 PM   
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RE: just wanted a few opinions on this statement - 10/20/2010 8:40:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MrBKS

In My eyes slaves have no sexuality

Harumph. Maybe YOU don't think so, but I'm sure there are countless slaves out there that would disagree with You emphatically. I call myself a sub, but Daddy says I have "BIG slave tendencies" and I can say that, without a doubt, I definitely HAVE sexuality. It doesn't mean I have to have it all the time, but it's sure as hell there. Maybe this asexual slaves stuff works for You, but good luck on finding a slave. lol

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