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Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 4:54:45 PM   
femasoslave


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Status: offline 		I read a profile where a Master is selling the services of his masochistic subby to other Dominants, it states that he is looking for one or two regulars.

It got me wondering about that scenario.....if his subby started seeing another Dom (or two) on a regular occasion, even if it is for money, would there be a chance that she could get mentally attached to another Dom?  

If it were me, I'm not sure how I would handle it, I can get so deep mentally during the extreme play with my Master that if I were to even feel a bit like that with another Dom, I think it would make feel guilty of having feelings for another man.

I know there is probably a lot more going on than what has been said in the profile but it just got me wondering about the repercussions which could happen.

What do others think and do subbies have more than one Dom?
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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 5:01:48 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		It's just as much a possibility as anyone becoming attached to someone else. Personally I see all kinds of problems with this scenario not just her becoming attached to someone else.

If he decides to do this I don't see their relationship lasting very long at all.


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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 5:12:18 PM   
lonelyblueboi


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Status: offline 		Sounds like pimping to me. And potentially prostitution. In addition to the emotional repercussions, I can only imagine the legal issues involved with such behavior.

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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 5:14:13 PM   
Nnytheangel


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Status: offline 		I haven't got much of a comment on someone else's preferences and kinks, but I will try and put things from the perspective of my own experiences and feelings.

To begin, I have no issue with someone who is poly. I recognize fully that no matter how I try, I cannot be everything that someone desires physically. That is the point though, that it be an entirely physical experience if it is outside of the relationship. It's at this point that I have to trust that they can keep emotion separate from the physical. If I cannot reasonably expect that, I would ask that they refrain until that trust is established.

That is relating to just sex though. I know how deeply a connection can be formed in a scene and how attached two people can become because of it and to be quite honest, that would concern me as a Dominant. An exception to that is if I am there and likewise participatory and as I said, if the trust had already been established. These measures may seem somewhat draconian but what is important to me is that my submissive is mine, especially on the emotional level.

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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 5:20:20 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I once loaned out my sub to a local Dom, no pay involved.  I set rules regarding how they were to play, which were ignored.  She dumped me for him a week later.  Never again.

I'd have no problem renting out a sub for domestic service like cleaning, etc.  But for play?  That seems wrong.



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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 5:23:34 PM   
January


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Why did you do it? Was it by her request? The Dom asked and you were secure? You were detained elsewhere and weren't interested in that sort of play?

January

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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 5:25:33 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		I was new to the scene and the other Doms were loaning out subs, so what the hell?  He had a good reputation in the Colorado Springs community, and I trusted him.  I was not present.


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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 5:33:59 PM   
January


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So the Dom asked, and you agreed? What was the sub's initial response when you told her? Why was loaning subs such a common thing in Co Springs? You met this Dom at a play party? Online? I'm just trying to understand the culture, and your relationship with these folks.

January

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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 5:43:44 PM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		I lend Chael out for service pretty often... and I bottom to others pretty often. Neither have ever caused either of us to think about leaving our relationship; at worst we didn't do whatever it was again, at best we had a really nice time with others. Same as any get-together, really, BDSM or vanilla.

As to the OP, without knowing those involved I couldn't even begin to make a guess at how it would/will go for them. Too many variables, not enough data given.

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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 5:52:06 PM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		masochistic sub does not necessarily equate to playing with another dom. it just mean that she gets off on pain; it doesn't mean she has to be a physical masochist. maybe she's an emotional masochist, and for him to send her to clean anothers home or any other thing that makes her feel humbled is how, in the end, she gets her release.

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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 5:56:40 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		It sounds as though he's setting her up as a pro sub. In which case, he's probably nearby to make sure she's treated properly and all negotiated limits will be observed. I see no reason she will automatically be attached to the new dom any more than a prodomme automatically would become attached to a new client. Hell, people play casually at dungeons all the time as regular play partners but nothing more than that.

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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 6:43:50 PM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: January

DS,

So the Dom asked, and you agreed? What was the sub's initial response when you told her? Why was loaning subs such a common thing in Co Springs? You met this Dom at a play party? Online? I'm just trying to understand the culture, and your relationship with these folks.

January


We had all met at a couple of play parties.  The request came jointly from her and him.  I don't know why loaning was common - keep in mind that the loan was supposed to be for impact play only, no sex.  (That's what was ignored.)

My relationship was that I was a very green Dom.  With a damn attractive sub.  I had been trained in flogging by Master RainDance and his slave amethyste, and was impressed at how open and giving they were and assumed that all local kinksters were like that.


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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 7:02:30 PM   
wittynamehere


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder
It's just as much a possibility as anyone becoming attached to someone else.

If he decides to do this I don't see their relationship lasting very long at all.

Agreed 100% with the first half and 0% with the second. There's absolutely no way to judge someone's relationship as "doomed" when all you know about it is that they are into sharing. What a load of crap, littlewonder - you should know better. That's like saying someone's relationship is doomed because they're into poly, or switching, or S&M. Come on.


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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 7:08:38 PM   
daddysliloneds


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: January

DS,

So the Dom asked, and you agreed? What was the sub's initial response when you told her? Why was loaning subs such a common thing in Co Springs? You met this Dom at a play party? Online? I'm just trying to understand the culture, and your relationship with these folks.

January


We had all met at a couple of play parties.  The request came jointly from her and him.  I don't know why loaning was common - keep in mind that the loan was supposed to be for impact play only, no sex.  (That's what was ignored.)

My relationship was that I was a very green Dom.  With a damn attractive sub.  I had been trained in flogging by Master RainDance and his slave amethyste, and was impressed at how open and giving they were and assumed that all local kinksters were like that.



January
i'm finding that the local kinsters here are more open and giving, if you call want to call it that, of both their doms and thier subs, as well as their play partners. i have a primary play partner/friends with benefits. we go to the parties together and he plays me as do others. the 'others' are single doms and doms in relationships whose partners love when we play together because it's play, nothing more and most of the time it's stuff they don't enjoy but i do. i'm the one who approached them, not the other way around. one of those doms has been to my house for an impact play session, with her knowledge as well as with my play-partners knowledge. i do not, however, go with them because i'm told to and vice-versa. we play because we choose to. we never cross boundries and we're all on the same page. it's a common thing because we're secure enough in who we are and who we are in our relationships to not make a big deal out of something that's now worth making a big deal over. we're all adults and we're making choices that work for us. if anything, it has made all of our relationships stronger and more rewarding/exciting.

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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 7:25:10 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I didn't say it was doomed for sharing. I think it's doomed because he's using it as a kink, a fetish, prostitution, whateve you want to call it.

I'll leave sharing and poly to my own thoughts.


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RE: Master selling services to his sub - 10/17/2010 7:34:15 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: femasoslave

It got me wondering about that scenario.....if his subby started seeing another Dom (or two) on a regular occasion, even if it is for money, would there be a chance that she could get mentally attached to another Dom?  

Of course there is a chance. There is also a chance I'll win the lotto. The former is probably at least somewhat more likely.
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If it were me, I'm not sure how I would handle it, I can get so deep mentally during the extreme play with my Master that if I were to even feel a bit like that with another Dom, I think it would make feel guilty of having feelings for another man.

For me, if my owner were to do this with me, I wouldn't really guilty because I don't think he'd care. Otherwise he wouldn't have me doing that.
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What do others think and do subbies have more than one Dom?

I think as long as she's willing, more power to them. Hopefully they have researched this, the local laws and are providing for her safety. I offer my ass up as a practice bottom for free to the new tops/dominants in my community, getting paid to get the same would be awesome.

I, personally, don't see anything the post that points to prostitution over pro-subbing. If there is sex involved then it will be prostitution but - beyond the legal issues - I truly don't take offense. We don't know if the dom is forcing her or if she is entering into it willingly, perhaps even happily. Some women get off on that and there are women who are very pro-sex work.

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