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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/3/2010 9:31:30 PM   
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Sometimes I see things happen to men or women either one and think "Holy shit! That must really F'ing hurt!!" but I don't feel the need to rescue them, cause if they're masochists they must really like it deep down. Myself, I would like to up my own pain threshhold, so maybe I'm not as sympathetic as I could be. I don't know. Plus, I'm a nurse and I kind of know what will actually injure the equipment as opposed to just cause a lot of pain.

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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/3/2010 10:26:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Rescue ? LOL no.  If I find the boy attractive, I would enjoy hurting his pee-pee, apart from really severe stuff like driving nails through it or grilling it on the barbeque.  If I don't find him attractive, I just think "Hey, its your slug.  Salt it if you want. Just don't show it to me if I didn't ask.

It would be really entertaining (though not appreciated) if you and Dark Steven started a vigilante group (in spandex suits, of course) that burst into dungeons and "liberated" CBT "victims".


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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/4/2010 1:14:55 AM   
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You say that you are a little masochistic.  When you are enjoying your play time, do you really want to be rescued?  Guess what?  They feel the same way.  Why would you want to relieve them of their delicious torments?


This made me chuckle...God help anyone who tried to rescue me!  I'd beat them senseless! 

And I'm with the other ladies.....those pics of bound, purple breasts just make me cringe......I know how my nipples feel after removing small clamps, can you imagine the pain of the blood returning to the tissue?  OMFG...it makes me want to cover the girls and run like hell!

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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/4/2010 3:52:25 AM   
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That's funny.  I have the same thing! I love seeing women tied up, breasts clamped, and spanked, but when I see the same thing done to a man, I just think that that looks wrong!



i am in no way bisexual it is a very hard limit for me however to see pics or films of women tied etc is different. i totally agree with you on this one to me it looks and feels very wrong to see men in this position but its purely a personal view ,

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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/4/2010 5:42:04 AM   
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lally, I remember that clip well! It was one of my favorites! Not because of what it showed, because that was hard to take and I did wince(!), but because of the responses of men all over the site! ROFL! They even started a thread on that one! Men all over in journals were bitching and wincing and doing all sorts of contortions! It was funnier than anything else at the time! I still laugh thinking about it. I wanted it gone until I saw the response to it! lol


 - i missed all that whoha - it was horribly fascinating and unwatcheable all at the same time.  i would imagine it would have created a rumpus with the men - ive noticed a great deal of male sympathy go out for any guy whose knackers get in the way, they can even go quite pale at the thought of it - i remember once almost kneeing a guy in the balls when we were in bed together and got a major lecture on how not to ever get even close to risking it again - just makes you wonder when you see something like that how its even possible for someone to take that level of pain when it clearly causes so much distress for any man to even think about it happening to them.  hey ho, each to their own as we say

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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/6/2010 6:46:13 PM   
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interesting. i posted a similar thread once offering my opinion that male doms represented the pinnacle of creepiness (a position which i defended quite masterfully), and was subsequently banned for many months.


How would that thread be similar to this one? I didn't say(nor do I believe) that any side of the equations, male Dominants/submissives, or female Dominant/submissives are "creepy".  I don't see a similarity.

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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/6/2010 8:06:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: submissivemale22

interesting. i posted a similar thread once offering my opinion that male doms represented the pinnacle of creepiness (a position which i defended quite masterfully), and was subsequently banned for many months.


How would that thread be similar to this one? I didn't say(nor do I believe) that any side of the equations, male Dominants/submissives, or female Dominant/submissives are "creepy".  I don't see a similarity.



odyssey, I agree with you.  Stating that male Doms (or anyone else) are creepy is a pure value judgment.  Your post does not give a value judgment but instead describes your reaction to a situation.  Entirely different, not to mention that you are commenting on a situation and he was commenting upon people.


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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/7/2010 3:41:26 AM   
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Your post does not give a value judgment but instead describes your reaction to a situation.

Exactly-even the title of the thread makes it pretty clear that this reaction is a quirk of yours rather than an actual criticism of anyone practicing cbt.

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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/7/2010 5:55:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'd say it's a normal reaction, based upon your own general personal perception of right and wrong. My guess would be that you feel it's disrespectful for anyone to treat a male like that, because you generally hold all males in high regard.

Keep in mind that some sub males also do the same thing. They get squeemish and revolted at the site of seeing any woman in a downtrodden, beaten or otherwise compromised state because they in general hold all women in very high regard. They can't bear to see a woman getting beaten or humiliated, because it goes against the fiber of their very being, even though they're quite aware that the subject in question is doing so completely out of choice.

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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/7/2010 7:14:17 AM   
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when I see the same thing done to a man, I just think that that looks wrong!


It's not the genitalia that I like seeing bound up and abused on the lady folk - it's the expression on their face that I enjoy.



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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/7/2010 7:40:48 AM   
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interesting. i posted a similar thread once offering my opinion that male doms represented the pinnacle of creepiness (a position which i defended quite masterfully), and was subsequently banned for many months.
???  I remember that thread---similar to your thread the other day---and in what twisted...even for you...manner can you compare this thread to that one?  This thread concerns a female masochist who admits that she enjoys all the things that cause her pain but appears to be somewhat mystified by her "non-masochistic" response to seeing male submissives in what, I assume, are similar positions.  She feels the need to rescue them while admitting no such sympathy for fellow female submissives.

Your thread...as does so many of your posts within threads...deals with male dominants and how we are "creepy"...if we are hurting women, it is not because we enjoy it, it is because we are "creepy".  If we refuse to see the supremacy of females, it is not because we don't buy into it, it is because we are "creepy" misogynists.  If we choose to mar and mark the feminine form, it is not because we enjoy the sadistic pleasure of it, it is because we are "creepy" abusers of poor, helpless (yet somehow supreme) females.

I told you the other day and I will tell you again...you need to grow up and accept the fact that not all male dominants are creepy.  You also need to accept the fact that just because some of us men happen to think that the man SHOULD be in charge in HIS world and the women in HIS world should listen to/follow/obey him, it doesn't make us wrong...excuse me..."creepy".

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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/7/2010 8:58:43 AM   
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It's not the genitalia that I like seeing bound up and abused on the lady folk - it's the expression on their face that I enjoy.


Ditto that, with regard to my own male-bits, and re the expression on the tormenting lady's face . . .

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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/7/2010 12:57:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: submissivemale22

interesting. i posted a similar thread once offering my opinion that male doms represented the pinnacle of creepiness (a position which i defended quite masterfully), and was subsequently banned for many months.


How would that thread be similar to this one? I didn't say(nor do I believe) that any side of the equations, male Dominants/submissives, or female Dominant/submissives are "creepy".  I don't see a similarity.



Your thread is nothing like that.  He's just trying to get in the last word (mature!) on a thread and issue for which he can't seem to let go.

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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/7/2010 1:10:19 PM   
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interesting. i posted a similar thread once offering my opinion that male doms represented the pinnacle of creepiness (a position which i defended quite masterfully), and was subsequently banned for many months.


Ahh, when history gets rewritten.  Actually I thought you were remarkably intolerant and rude to people of orientations different from your own.  The site staff thought so too, which is why you were put on moderated status until you learned better manners.

The femdom lifestyle does *not* include belittling our brothers and sisters in the BDSM community who are of other orientations.  Hate is not a family value, so if you have nothing respectful to say about people whose sexual orientation is not the same as yours, then shut it, because I don't want you representing me or my community.  


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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/7/2010 5:22:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like to snuggle them after I hurt them. That way I get to indulge my sadistic side and be the comforting rescuer.

I think the rescue/nurturing fantasy is completely legitimate and enjoyable, as long as you don't try to impose it on someone who doesn't want to be rescued from his torment.


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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/8/2010 8:06:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank Y'all. I sure didn't want to come across as judging anyone else, only my own weird outlook lol


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RE: My weird double standard lol - 10/8/2010 8:39:29 AM   
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I can relate actually. There are scenes/porn/pictures that I simply can not view because some actions and words don't translate into my head as "play time". So my automatic impulse is to help. However, since it wouldn't be help at all but would be interupting a scene - both quite annoying and dangerous to those involved - I move to another area and simply don't look or listen. For the rest... I just click X and stop looking.

I don't know why your response is to cocks and I don't why why I have my response to the things I do but... meh. Unless it's causing you issues or you can't control the intital impulse, I wouldn't worry about it. Just avoid the pics and CBT scenes at play parties.

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