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seaMist -> Question please (8/14/2010 11:44:36 PM)
Greetings A/all, My name is seaMist. I have been collared to my Master/husband for nearly 9 years. We married 6 years ago. I didn’t want to because I was afraid of the dynamics of our relationship changing. They did, and I lost myself not knowing if I was slave or wife half the time… About two months ago, He told me that if a certain friend of ours ever wanted to use me sexually I was to please Him well…. Well I was drawn to this friend, He was a Dominant and didn’t realize it… He knew about our lifestyle but that was about it.. Well it happened that I ended up getting stranded about 40 miles from this Man… and He helped me out and because of the time after He fed me because I hadn’t eaten all day from being stranded… He got me a room so I didn’t have to drive 2 ½ hours home that late… By early morning, I was having sex with Him… Now remember I had been told if He ever wanted me I was to please Him.. I never thought it would happen and blew it off when my Master told me this… Some where in this I fell in love with Him… I am still in love with my Master but at the same time the things that He does for me as a submissive rock my world like no one ever has. I found my submission again, I finally found peace within the relationships because I was on an emotional roller coaster after discovering I was in love with two Men, two Masters. Now my Master is not a jealous Man in the least… He took a risk that could have cost Him, me but the other Master is so honorable that He would never take me away from Master. In fact it’s a rule that I am never to leave my Master for Him. I wasn’t looking to replace my Master so that wasn’t an issue. I have talked to a few other submissive/slaves I know and some of them are doing the same thing, serving two Masters. One is even married to her Master as well. I am wondering if anyone has let their girl do this and why? And if they have done this and why? Now that I am involved with two Masters, I cannot think of not serving them both… I am committed to both of them.. My Master says He wont end it that the other one will have to if He ever decides to… Now comes the hard part… The other one I serve is in the military and is being shipped overseas in Oct. I am already going insane…. I cant imagine not seeing Him or hearing His voice for that long… or worst not feeling His touch… Now what is strange in all this is that my Master has tried to make a masochist out of me for almost as long as I have been collared to Him. Yet one session with the Other one and I now can handle pain… You see He is very new to this all…. Yet He understood the dynamics of what it took to get me to the point I could take the pain.. I found subspace something I had never experienced before. I am so drawn to this Master, need Him and want Him and He has told me that I have a Master. He will step in when its needed but that He is who I am collared to. He took me to a munch, something I had never been to…. And I watched at a play party of a girl up on a cross.. I was so fascinated that He actually reached across and pushed my jaw up cause I was staring hard.. I was totally enthralled as the day before was when I learned I could take pain, but I am not an exhibitionist and asked for another drink because I knew I couldn’t go up there unless I had a drink in me lol a few drinks really.. He said no and I didn’t ask Him again… but my heart is set on Him doing this for me, putting me on a cross… because for some reason He has figured out what makes me tick in the sense that He can get me to subspace and for me not to feel it. My Master on the other hand even though He instructed the Other one how to go about it, cant get me to the same point. We have talked about if this is because the relationship is so new… I don’t see that being the case… I am rarely drawn to any Male that I trust as much as I do Him. Right now that trust in Him is far stronger than my trust in my Master in getting me to that point.. its not that I don’t trust my Master. I do.. very much so… but what the other one can do for me is amazing. I would appreciate any comments anyone has unless Y/you are judging me. God alone has that right… I am simply a slave following the direction of her Owner. seaMist

Whenready -> RE: Question please (8/15/2010 12:17:42 AM)
If everyone is happy, good for you all. I don't share - I don't see how it works - but - if it does for you - and everyone is happy - carry on. Am not acually sure what the question was - unless it was - comments, please....

Zevar -> RE: Question please (8/15/2010 12:56:18 AM)
Greetings seaMist: In reading your words it appears as though you did not present any questions that you wanted input on. However you did ask for comments but restricted them also. I have a question for you as follows: If you believe that you are obeying a directive from your Master and that God alone is the only judge of your life then why did you present this personal information for strangers to read? I asked the preceding devoid of judgement yet needing clarity as it seems as though you simply wanted to express your choice AND do not wish for any discussion; with the exception of comments that are devoid of judgement. I look forward to your reply of clarity if you would be so kind. Take care!

kiwisub12 -> RE: Question please (8/15/2010 1:28:26 AM)
So ......................... Your husband/master doesn't do it for you any longer. The new guy does. The new guy is being posted away, and................ You want to know how to get the husband/master to the point of being able to do what the new guy does. One thing that occurs to me is that since the two of them are ok with each other, perhaps if they both worked on you, you would come to associate your husband/master with pain/pleasure and subspace, and find it easier to go there with him alone. Sometimes you have to play tricks with your mind. During the joint play, if you heard your h/m's voice and touch, your body would come to associate this pleasure with him , as well as the new guy, and your mind would allow you to go there with his input. good luck, and i'm glad you found a way to go past your limitations with your husband/master.

DarkSteven -> RE: Question please (8/15/2010 1:43:22 AM)
Maybe ask to have them cotop you at the same time, and hope that they learn each other's ways?

seaMist -> RE: Question please (8/15/2010 2:16:39 AM)
The questions were if some else had ever done this, both as a Dominant or a submissive/slave... sorry they were in the middle somewhere S The reason I asked not to be judge is simple, I am doing as I was told to do. It doesnt matter if anyone agrees or disagrees with what He told me to do. I listen to Him. The dynamics of this is strange I know.. I wouldnt have thought to ever find myself in this position yet here I am and I am content with it as well. I am finding myself again and for me that was worth everything. Yes I would love for my Master to be able to do the same for me, who wouldnt? sea

delicatelydirty -> RE: Question please (8/15/2010 3:31:52 AM)
I don't think your dynamic is that unusual at all, have you read the poly threads ... having two Masters might not be as common as two subs but a poly relationship is just that a poly relationship, if everyone is happy then yay for you all. At the moment I have a ldr with a Dom and I serve a local couple... everyone involved knows about everyone else, everyones needs are being met everyone is happy... Why do people do it, some people are just wired for poly relationships, they can love more than one person, they see it as a way of fulfilling needs that cant be meet within a monogamous relationship and rather than ending it or cheating they open it up. My advice is just accept what you have and be happy... it doesnt matter why it works.. it just does

juliaoceania -> RE: Question please (8/15/2010 12:23:14 PM)
quote: The reason I asked not to be judge is simple, I am doing as I was told to do. It doesnt matter if anyone agrees or disagrees with what He told me to do. I listen to Him. I have seen some suggestions, but no judgments... Good luck to you

DommeKeliDallas -> RE: Question please (8/16/2010 6:10:21 AM)
This sounds like a "normal" relationship. You fall in love with someone...the sex gets a little boring...you meet someone new that makes your toes curl...but don't want to leave your security for a guy who is shipping out. It happens all the time...except the tie-me-to-a-cross part. You have to follow your own instincts here. You can't bet the farm on a guy who will be leaving soon... Good luck to you. If you have kids, you have to think of them too.

seaMist -> RE: Question please (8/16/2010 7:24:18 AM)
I am not looking to leave my husband. He is the one that told me to serve the other Master and I have no issue doing so. Yes, the other Master rocks my world like no other. I hadnt thought about it being Poly until someone said its just a reverse of what is normally seen. I was curious about if others have done this, seen this, etc, what their thoughts were on it. For as long as They both agree, I want to serve them both. It has helped my own relationship with my Master/husband in that I can now tolerate pain that I hadnt been able to before. Yes I am in love with them both. For as long as They allow it, I want to continue serving them both. Yes He is going overseas, and I will wait for Him to return... IF i could cut myself in half I would.. because they are both wonderful Dominants. sea

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