Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship?

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Firebirdseeking -> Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 10:35:51 AM)
I would be interested in knowing what others think the differences are between a HoH and a D/s relationship. I understand that not all D/s relationships include kink, though many do; and some vanilla HoH relationships involve some kink. Both may involve "correcting". If there has been a thread about this previously, I have not seen it....

DarkSteven -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 10:42:56 AM)
In both relationships, one partner leads the other. I find HoH relationships to be more well-defined and less flexible than D/s ones.

IronBear -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 11:26:28 AM)
I'm going to be jolly dumnassed at this ungodly hour of 04.25, and ask what HoH is?

lally2 -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 12:29:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IronBear I'm going to be jolly dumnassed at this ungodly hour of 04.25, and ask what HoH is? me too [:D]

amanii -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 12:34:33 PM)
Excuse my ignorance but what does HoH mean? The only thing I can think of is 'Head of Household'

LafayetteLady -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 12:39:43 PM)
Yes,it stands for "Head of Household" Folks around should think 1950s style in comparison. My understanding is that HoH doesn't really involve "correction." That would be more Taken in Hand. HoH is pretty much the "old" type of household where the husband is in charge and the wife accepts this without question. She's responsible for keeping the house and all that "fun" stuff.

aldompdx -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 12:42:39 PM)
The acronym HOH has become popularized with the American reality TV series, Big Brother -- Head of Household. The position is won in a weekly competition, which immunizes one against expulsion. So, it is quite different from D/s. A "50's household" implicitly incorporates a dynamic of control and surrender. Not all D/s relationships necessarily include every aspect of BDSM, such as bondage, sadism, physical pain, leather, latex, etc. However, the "D/s" term itself indicates some degree of interaction polarized by control and surrender.

Jeffff -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 12:46:47 PM)
I had an HoH relationship for 16 years. I worked, she spent. You can keep it.

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 1:35:23 PM)
I think that the biggest difference may be that a D/s relationship may not -have- an established household, which means that the dominant party may -not- be the head of the household... or, in a situation like our household, there may be multiple D/s relationships within one household, where the head of the household is not involved in the satellite relationships, and the dominants in the satellite relationships are not heads of the house. Hope that made some kind of sense... Calla

IronBear -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 1:56:46 PM)
Ahhhhhh bloody nora, should have woken up to it myself.. Thanks guys... Ahhhhhhhh well we have a HoH at BC and that is lil ol' Me. Actually, the term HoH has been around a long time and was (is) used in Gorean Role Play to designate the Head of a room (City/Camp etc) if a Ubar/Ubara is not elected for war time activities.

DesFIP -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 3:55:20 PM)
HoH tends to be heavily Christian, if you look up sites espousing it. And there seems to be a huge emphasis on punishment as far as I took away from perusing such sites. She didn't make the bed because the dog was throwing up? Spank her. Dinner burned because hubby showed up two hours late? Spank her. Very tiresome reading for me. And since I am a cynic, it makes me wonder strongly if it isn't an excuse for men who get off on spanking women to do so without coming to grips with the fact that they enjoy it.

jujubeeMB -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 4:11:21 PM)
D/s makes me enormously horny/happy and HoH makes me want to run screaming into the woods. Is that a good enough difference?

laura2161 -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 4:19:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking I would be interested in knowing what others think the differences are between a HoH and a D/s relationship. I understand that not all D/s relationships include kink, though many do; and some vanilla HoH relationships involve some kink. Both may involve "correcting". If there has been a thread about this previously, I have not seen it.... To me there is a difference; a subtle difference. I would have to write 10 paragraphs to explain myself fully (And no I won't bore you with all that) In my eyes (and the different Men I have spoken with) HoH is more geared toward authority whereas Ds is geared toward the kink aspect. I used to say I was looking for a Ds relationship and VERY quickly the conversations would always go something like this: Him: So you want a Ds relationship? Me: Yes Him: Call me Sir. Now tell me your fantasies. Me: Excuse me? Him: I'll tie you up...blah blah blah. Now I state I am specifically looking for a HoH relationship and the conversations are well....actual conversations about likes,dislikes, authority, how would we manage a HoH if both of us are working etc etc. Anyhoo, long story kinda short- I do see a difference. Laura

Firebirdseeking -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 4:31:02 PM)
LOL, Bear, it indeed means head of household.

Firebirdseeking -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 4:33:21 PM)
Des, I agree with that totally. However, they deny it, and so do the women.

DesFIP -> RE: Differences between a HoH and D/s relationship? (7/2/2010 7:48:52 PM)
Well yeah, because to admit it would mean they would have to accept in themselves things they disapprove of in others. I don't get why people get so riled up about strong sensation sex when nobody goes around claiming it's ungodly or whatever to like strong sensation taste. I've never heard of a group saying they're going to boycott chili festivals, or write food companies complaining about them using pepper or hot sauce in a dish. But if the spice is with sex, everybody gets up in arms.

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