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RE: Question about TPE - 7/1/2010 5:36:05 AM

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Focus50 = quality.

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RE: Question about TPE - 7/1/2010 5:36:38 AM

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I just find it too hard to believe that 2 adults sharing an intimate relationship don't occasionally discuss the weather or an upcoming event, for eg, as equal, sentient beings....

It does, Focus -- even in full-authority based relationships. Heck, I have philosophical conversations every single -day- with my servants where we disagree on certain points and debate them to a draw... but at the end of the day, when the time comes to make decisions about life, for my servants who have chosen to yield to me, those eyes look at -me- for the final word... in everything from makeup to supper choices to which toilet paper to buy for the bathroom... and that is the essence of "TPE"... and, for the OP, many of our servants do not live with us full-time. For those, we have a plan that is provided for them, which we use to facilitate management of their lives when they're not in the physical presence of the House or its Keepers. To us, it is the focus of the servant, and whether that servant has genuinely yielded authority that determines whether a situation is "TPE" (or, for us, "full-authority dynamic") or not.

Ummm, what "does"? lol

But otherwise, yeah, I don't have general servants but I do enjoy philosophical conversation (including differences) with the girl as equals. I regard that as her fulfilling all that I desire and expect of my slave; to be and make available ALL of her gifts. It's also why I don't necessarily embrace TPE beyond the reality that the relationship's TPE anytime I *need* it to be.

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RE: Question about TPE - 7/1/2010 6:01:05 AM

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On a totally separate note, I believe this is the first time that we've ever addressed one another directly. So I wanted to take a moment to say that I enjoy your contribution to the forum. You don't say a lot, but when you do, it is usually insightful.

Well thanks for that and back at ya. However, it's also the first time aldompdx has addressed me directly, too, and I'm not entirely convinced he thinks my posts are so insightful. Shrugs - 1 for 2.... lol

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RE: Question about TPE - 7/1/2010 6:45:52 AM

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Greetings everyone,

I lurk but do not post often, though I did post a short introductory note a short time ago.

Can someone please help me understand how a slave can desire TPE but not 24/7? It seems to me as though the very nature of a Total Power Exchange would require that the participants be in very close contact at all times. I do understand that trust is an important part of any relationship, but if one is to dictate each and every aspect of another's life, it seems as though living apart, or part time only would make this a bit difficult.

Thank you in advance to all who reply, your wisdom is greatly appreciated.

Cheers, Mistress Michelle

TPE has nothing to do with the physical side of a relationship. It has to do with the mental.

If a person 'feels' owned 24/7, then they are. If a person only feels owned when they are with their partner, then the mental aspect is missing and they are focusing only on the physical.

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RE: Question about TPE - 7/1/2010 7:31:37 AM

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Ummm, what "does"? lol

I think I meant to write either "It does happen" or "they do", but got distracted by news that I may be an impending grandmother (We'll know for sure this afternoon). *LOL*

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RE: Question about TPE - 7/2/2010 8:31:19 AM

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I want to thank everyone who took the time to share their thoughts, wisdom and opinions with me. I have been focusing on the words and not the true meaning beneath them all. Ideas have been expressed here that have given me much to think about and many times to smile about. I do not want to seem as though I am hung up on words. I have already moved passed most of the "am I doing this right" self doubt as there is no right or wrong, only what 2 or more people choose to embrace, share and enjoy. I do not wish to miss the forest because of all of the trees as it were.

Also, as someone with an IT background who has been on and off message boards and such for many years, it brings me a great deal of pleasure to follow interesting threads on this board and again wish to thank all who contributed to the discussion and helped further my understanding. This understanding has taken years to unfold. Better late than never.

Take care and I hope everyone has a wonderful 4th of July weekend. Mistress Michelle aka mikib

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