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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

It CAN BE, however the real question is how condusive two people are to one another to begin with?

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ORIGINAL: MsMillgrove
When children arrive, it appears that the d/s has to go into the bedroom or be an "outside" evening at a club. D/s is not something that you want to put away.. to put into a drawer, take in and out.

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ORIGINAL: MsMillgrove

I find that the two dynamics-marriage and d/s work best for marriages later in life when the children are out of the house, or for marriages with no children at all.

When children arrive, it appears that the d/s has to go into the bedroom or be an "outside" evening at a club. D/s is not something that you want to put away.. to put into a drawer, take in and out.

Yet, in front of children, you model a behavior. If you're lucky to be in a culture where it's a tradition to have one partner in charge of the household, to be the authority, this is easier. In homes with Mid-Eastern or some Latin or Asian roots, the women can acceptably behave in a submissive fashion. In a Jewish household, the woman is queen at home. A male Jewish sub is therefore in a great spot. So it's possible if the cultural-ethnic roots are already present for the couple, they could have an easier time of keeping their d/s out in the open in front of the children.

Every couple has to find their own way to adjust and adapt. Personally, I find it hard to be my sadistic self or to discipline a person I am deeply in love with in a romantic sense.
That's just me, I would never marry a slave.