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mimi400400 -> Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 11:32:29 AM)
Good Afternoon! I have a few questions about collaring that i hope someone could help answer. Thank you in advance for all your help! Can anyone please share any websites that carry jewlery or other forms of collars that can be worn even in the vanilla world on a daily basis? Can anyone please explain the process of a submissive requesting a "release" from her Master if she has already been collared by him? Thank you, M

Jeffff -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 11:36:28 AM)
You say. "We have to talk" All men, I mean ALL men fucking HATE that. Then you say, " I don't like you anymore, here is your collar". Then you go home. Try and not gloat till you get to the car. We men are not without ego's ya know

lally2 -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 1:09:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mimi400400 Good Afternoon! I have a few questions about collaring that i hope someone could help answer. Thank you in advance for all your help! Can anyone please share any websites that carry jewlery or other forms of collars that can be worn even in the vanilla world on a daily basis? Can anyone please explain the process of a submissive requesting a "release" from her Master if she has already been collared by him? Thank you, M ill happily be corrected but im yet to see any Ds or Ms collars that dont look heavy and obvious - personally i think so long as what youre wearing has been chosen carefully you can wear a simple necklace and it would mean just as much. i find it a little odd that youre asking about collars and release in one post [&:]

Glasgow -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 1:11:53 PM)
quote: You say. "We have to talk" All men, I mean ALL men fucking HATE that. Best way I've found yet to break up with a guy: "We need to talk." "You're breaking up with me, aren't you?" "Yup." Out of curiosity, do any subs ever choose their own collars?

SimplyMichael -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 1:24:56 PM)
Requests for release must be submitted to me in triplicate with the signature of at least one person who is no longer living and must be signed in the blood of a virgin. Otherwise a nationwide alert will be sent out to BDSM groups all over the nation to be on the lookout for an escaped submissive... Ya just say "hey, this didn't work out"

leadership527 -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 2:04:27 PM)
sighs Jeffff, Jefffff, Jefff..... You missed the most important step. #5) Come onto collarme and write a long woe is me missing trashing the guy and explaining in excruciating detail how it is that he dealt with you poorly.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 2:10:46 PM)
quote: Can anyone please share any websites that carry jewlery or other forms of collars that can be worn even in the vanilla world on a daily basis? Tiffany's Cartier quote: Can anyone please explain the process of a submissive requesting a "release" from her Master if she has already been collared by him? "Master I want to be released" "OK." The process of release is up to the people involved, it will be different for each situation.

lally2 -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 2:12:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 sighs Jeffff, Jefffff, Jefff..... You missed the most important step. #5) Come onto collarme and write a long woe is me missing trashing the guy and explaining in excruciating detail how it is that he dealt with you poorly. by book ending the entire thing, from finding a collar on the net to being clued up on the release ettiquette, the actual relationship seems to be an irrelevance - im confident we shall be spared. [:)]

peppermint -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 2:25:46 PM)
My everyday collar was purchased at Sears. Mine is about 3/8 inches wide. It lies flat on the skin and is made of many many tiny pieces of silver woven together. Any jewelry store or counter will have examples of necklaces that can be used as an everyday collar. The process is that you tell him it's not working. He may then decide to release you. If he doesn't release you, you just walk out. If he does release you, you walk out.

camille65 -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 2:30:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Glasgow quote: You say. "We have to talk" All men, I mean ALL men fucking HATE that. Best way I've found yet to break up with a guy: "We need to talk." "You're breaking up with me, aren't you?" "Yup." Out of curiosity, do any subs ever choose their own collars? I chose mine! He told me to find one that I really liked, so I did. ChaoticCreations and the service was great. I don't think it is obviously a collar but it is definitely a collar lol. It could pass easily as just a pretty necklace but anyone looking for a collar would likely recognize it as one.

whiteslavebitch -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 3:25:02 PM)
http://www.bondagecollars.com/collar

whiteslavebitch -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 3:29:42 PM)
quote: Out of curiosity, do any subs ever choose their own collars? I was lucky enough to be permitted to choose the collar I wear (he owns it, so it's his). But he allowed that because I have to wear a discreet collar. It looks much like a regular necklace except for the locking clasp.

peppermint -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 3:34:35 PM)
quote: Out of curiosity, do any subs ever choose their own collars? He found my fancy dress up collar in a store, then took me to see it to make sure I liked it. Of course I did. It doesn't look like a BDSM type collar but it's not something that can be worn all the time because of how it's made. Just before the winter holidays last year he brought home another collar for me, one that can be worn in vanilla company.

AquaticSub -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 3:50:26 PM)
~Fast Reply~ Our release proceedure is very simple. "Val, I'm leaving you because of X, Y and Z. I'm going downtown to file for divorce this afternoon." And hopefully we can divide our assets evenly without having to spend thousands and thousands in divorce court. As for collars, Valyraen and I don't hold with the idea that collars have to lock or anything like that. Not that there is anything wrong with that, we just don't think it's required and for us a lock or buckle is extremely undesirable for everyday wear. So, following the line of thinking that any ring is a wedding ring if you deem it to be one, Valyraen selected a lovely necklace and presented it to me as my collar. So your collar can come from any jewelry shop or source as long as you both agree on it. [:)] As for picking it out, I'd say he picked out my everyday collar and I selected my "formal" collar, a piece I fell in love with and he allows me to swap out with my everyday collar when I feel the occasion is more formal. Of course, this is all really going to come down to what people are comfortable with in their relationship. And that can change. It doesn't need to be set in stone.

baedwards -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 4:06:52 PM)
I don't mean to hijack the thread, but I have a general collar question. If you saw someone wearing a necklace with a small handcuff charm, would you assume that it was a collar? The reason I ask is that I have a necklace like that...one I bought myself. I thought it would be a nifty way to advertise my submissive status (or at least interest in bdsm in general) and most vanilla folks would think it was just a cute necklace...or that I wear it as a keepsake of my job (I worked in a law enforcement office). Now I'm wondering if its defeating the purpose I intended it for by suggesting that I'm collared.....

Jeffff -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 4:08:57 PM)
Some folks would think you were fucking a cop.

leadership527 -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 4:58:20 PM)
Just for the record, most people do not automatically assume "collar" when they see a collar. Carol's got an eternity collar which is a freakin 3/8" steel hoop. ONCE now she's gotten "nice necklace" from her hair dresser. Honestly, people don't spend that much time staring at other people's necks.

subbisherri -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 5:11:31 PM)
I'm not "collared" per se, but to me it's totally symbolic. He knows I'm his, he doesn't seem to have a need for me to wear a wide leather band all of the time; mostly during scenes or playtime. He gave me a gold Indian "Om" on a black braided leather strand and that's what I wear. Being military I'm supposed to wear dogtags and nothing else around my neck, so I hook the dogtags on the same strand and excuse it by saying the issued metal gives me a rash. It slides and adjusts enough so I can hide the tags and Om in my shirt in uniform, and snug it around my throat the rest of the time. My point though is, it doesn't have to be ostentatious and bold or gaudy or a Mr T starter kit, it can be subtle and symbolic as long as you both grok the connotation.

DaddysInkedSlut -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 5:32:18 PM)
I know ALOT of nilla folks who wear collars. To many it is simply a nice piece of jewlery even an eternity collar. I am not a personal fan of collars that lock. My play partner has this wonderful spiked leather collar that he has gifted me to wear. He actually purchased it at a local goth shop. (go figure) I agree with subbisherri collars don't have to be obvious or goddy, its about what YOU both are comfy with. We just happen to like spikes and the goth look. As far as begging release for me its simple. me: Daddy I want released because..... EQD2: ok

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Questions on Collaring (6/10/2010 5:36:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff You say. "We have to talk" All men, I mean ALL men fucking HATE that. Then you say, " I don't like you anymore, here is your collar". Then you go home. Try and not gloat till you get to the car. We men are not without ego's ya know [sm=rofl.gif]

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