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bdspirit -> RE: fantasies (6/2/2010 5:41:33 PM)
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Hi Op. I guess the easy (and generally correct) answer is that fantasies are enough to create momentum or initial action but not enough to sustain a relationship over time.
I had a thought in reading the responses that may merit mentioning. In my experience, there can be a pretty fine line between fantasy and visualization - seeing the life, relationship, experiences (fill in the blank) that you believe represents something you truly want/need to create in your life and then holding those things in your mind and heart while you move forward with creating the life you want - literally creating reality from "fantasy."
While I fully agree that the dream of a perfect lover soon begins to pale in the harsh light of real life experiences, the concept of feeling empowered to visualize what you want to create (perhaps as a loving couple) and then doing the necessary work to get there is pretty important if you desire to build an extraordinary life. I say this because I am fortunate enough to have married an amazing women who was naturally vanilla, loving and open. After 15 years, we have managed to blend her vision of the "ideal" relationship with mine and then work our butts off to create something very unique. Without the "fantasy" or vision, I think we would have settled for far less than we became.
Bound.
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