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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/3/2010 7:55:40 AM   
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I've heard anecdotal information that bi-polar disorder appears in the BDSM/Leather community more frequently than in the general population.

Agree? Disagree?


I agree that you have probably heard anecdotal information that bi-polar disorder appears in the BDSM/Leather community more frequently than in the general population. In the absence of clinical or statistical data to support same I am unconvinced from my experience that this is the case.




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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/3/2010 5:33:42 PM   
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Edit to say I disagree about not sharing what works for them. If you're in a place with few psychiatrists, you may not have one knowledgeable about this, who may not know there are newer meds with fewer side effects. Learning about other medications, and bringing it to your doctor's attention could be a godsend.



I agree - it's just that this thread, in this place is not the best place for that discussion.  I'm just a little tired to go start a "How my bi-polar meds are working" string under Health & Safety.

PLEASE do so!


Sorry Lance, I misunderstood you. And yes, H & S is the better place for it.

But I'm unipolar, not bipolar. My oldest is bipolar although not into wiitwd.


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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/4/2010 10:44:00 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LanceHughes
I've heard anecdotal information that bi-polar disorder appears in the BDSM/Leather community more frequently than in the general population.

Agree? Disagree?


As with so many things in BDSM, anecdotal experience combined with our own is the limit of informational accuracy.

I will say that D/s relationships can certainly be used in the wrong way; the authority dynamic can be abused / misused quite easily by those who have no business having it in the first place—and I think that the easily twisted domain BDSM / D/s leads to sometimes attracts those types. I dont' have any scientific data to back that claim up either, but I suspect more than one person reading this thread will be inclined to agree.

I don't know how big the "BDSM" demographic really is in society, but I'm guessing it's a mere fraction of the much larger social pie. With that considered, I'd be willing to wager that this claim about bi-polar being more prevalent in the BDSM population than in all other populations combined—even if we could pin that down into reliable statistical information—is inevitably mathematical nonsense.



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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/4/2010 8:22:03 PM   
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DesFIP- just want to remind people to be CAREFUL about all psychiatric medicines. To get FDA approval, all a psych med provider has to do is show two human trials that indicate a slight improvement over passive placebo. Most drug trials are 8 weeks or less, and there are no controls on what data the researchers can delete, hide, or ignore when they publish the results. Xanax, for example, has been on the market for 30 years (antianxiety med) based on a study showing patients had fewer panic attacks at four weeks- deleting the information that at 8 weeks, those on Xanax had more attacks than those on placebo. In independent studies with active placebo, no psychiatric med except lithium shows more than 5 or 10% improvement. Most have rebound effects worse than the original complaint- antianxiety meds cause extreme anxiety, antidepression meds cause extreme depression and insomnia etc.
If you do take meds, check the Chochrane Reviews. Pretty much everyting else published is paid for by the manufacturer.
Research your disease or issue, and look into alternative methods. Pretty much all psychiatric disorders respond better to therapy long term than drugs.
I've lost one too many friends to suicide caused by psych meds to take them lightly. Those few who would benefit need to know what they are taking and what the consequences are.

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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/4/2010 8:39:11 PM   
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I think it appears more in the BDSM community because more people are transparent about their issues,however; that doesn't mean that the BDSM community has more people that have bipolar disorder. IMO it simply means more people are willing to admit their issues privately and or publicly.



This was my thought as well. Can't know for sure of course, without studies and whatnot, but I would imagine there is an overwhelming percentage of people in the general (non-bdsm) population who deal with mental disorders as well, but maybe they aren't as apt to talk about it.


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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/4/2010 9:15:57 PM   
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Marc Esadrian let me thank you for mostly have written down, what i wanted to write down.

The examples of people who try to solve hardcore psychological or psychiatric probelms via SM are vivid in my mind and like you i guess in the mind of everybody, who has spend some time with wiitwd.

But to me they remain the exception, not the norm of the SMller i met along the road.

As bad news are generating a lot more coverage and attention than good news in the news trade, the same goes for bad relationships, unlucky people and general fuckups in wiitwd, therefore some people get the impression, that the percentage of very disturbed partipants is higher, which i do not believe.


Concerning bipolar, i have had 3 family members who suffered being bipolar. All in all three very sad stories, where like PonyLiz wrote in one case all the tried medication and therapy not helped in the suicidal end, in the 2 other which lived some time ago, therapy and medication where not tried, they both resumed to alcoholism.

If i can avoid bipolar people i do it, becaus i am not well suited to them due to my own experiences. I really need equilibrium.

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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/5/2010 7:34:01 AM   
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If i can avoid bipolar people i do it, because i am not well suited to them due to my own experiences. I really need equilibrium.


I can certainly understand that. Equilibrium is hard enough to find among brains without major disorders, particularly equilibrium in the D/s sense, which in my estimation and experience takes a tremendous amount of maturity, intelligence and stability from both parties to make it work beyond the bedroom or weekend dungeon.

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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/5/2010 10:54:16 AM   
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Obviously you haven't attended a lot of PTA meetings.


Or been involved with many child sports organizations or child pageants! Ever seen a soccer mom or pagaent mom go nuts? THAT is skeery!

Thankfully, I've never met a pageant Mom....Have been to PTA meetings and many youth sports activities though.

Hmmm..... would that mean that a PTA attending, submissive, artist, brownie leader, soccer mom would likely be some previously undefined level of nutty?

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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/5/2010 8:29:09 PM   
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Of the 7 or so people I am friends with and regularly interact with who are into BDSM, 3 of them are bi-polar.  I do not know how that compares with general population.  

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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/7/2010 6:14:06 AM   
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DesFIP- just want to remind people to be CAREFUL about all psychiatric medicines. To get FDA approval, all a psych med provider has to do is show two human trials that indicate a slight improvement over passive placebo. Most drug trials are 8 weeks or less, and there are no controls on what data the researchers can delete, hide, or ignore when they publish the results. Xanax, for example, has been on the market for 30 years (antianxiety med) based on a study showing patients had fewer panic attacks at four weeks- deleting the information that at 8 weeks, those on Xanax had more attacks than those on placebo. In independent studies with active placebo, no psychiatric med except lithium shows more than 5 or 10% improvement. Most have rebound effects worse than the original complaint- antianxiety meds cause extreme anxiety, antidepression meds cause extreme depression and insomnia etc.
If you do take meds, check the Chochrane Reviews. Pretty much everyting else published is paid for by the manufacturer.
Research your disease or issue, and look into alternative methods. Pretty much all psychiatric disorders respond better to therapy long term than drugs.
I've lost one too many friends to suicide caused by psych meds to take them lightly. Those few who would benefit need to know what they are taking and what the consequences are.

Thanks


Totally disagree. I am fourth generation mood disorder. Which means that this is a genetic, neurobiological problem not something caused by bad parenting or any other bad experiences. As such talk therapy is useless except to help deal with problems caused by having the biological disorder making it impossible to learn normal skills at appropriate times.

Honestly, people like you remind me of the early reactions to the discovery of insulin as a treatment for diabetics. It was viewed as morally reprehensible, as that it would cause people to become human chameleons and other such laughable responses.

Normal bipolars who do not receive early effective medication treatment wind up in a psych hospitals on the average of every five years. My daughter, who received early treatment has never been hospitalized. One six week outpatient program to diagnose was all that was needed. Past bipolars in my family died of suicide despite years of talk therapy.

In past generations we had at least one suicide per generation. Today, we get early treatment and everyone gets on with their lives successfully.

The fact that you do not even know that modern bipolar medications were actually developed as treatment for epilespy, which they are also very effective for, shows your lack of knowledge about the cause of this disorder. There is no possible way, after your revealed ignorance, that I can put any credibility in your opinion over some of the top medical doctors in the area of adolescent psychiatry in the nation.


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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/7/2010 6:37:53 AM   
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Honestly, It seems to be on par with the general population from the people I know or have known over the years.

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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/7/2010 7:22:16 AM   
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On the forums I believe that there is a much higher percentage of people suffering from every known malady that can be acquired. The forums yes...Real world bdsm. Probably still a bit higher than the regular population.

Lots of whackadoooz running around in the community.

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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/7/2010 7:31:54 AM   
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Should poll the people of CM I bet most are on some form of medication legal/not legal lol

edits to add... I know a few cmers who huffed paint as teens

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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/7/2010 7:41:54 AM   
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"Huffed?" Is that what you CM kids are calling it these days? Yeah, if it can be transmitted a CM'er has caught it. Then they write about it. Complain bout it. Never treat it ...Then probably die from it. It's the circle of life courtesy of CM. It's fun.

(imho) YMMV

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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/7/2010 8:21:21 AM   
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Our world is sadly too goofy and I think it is goofy across the board not just here.



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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/7/2010 11:49:34 AM   
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Is it goofy or is just acceptable to talk about it?

When I was a kid, doctors didn't tell patients that they had cancer. Friends and family were kept in the dark also as it was thought too upsetting and no one would visit for fear of catching it. Today there is no stigma.

And today we mainstream children with problems, giving treatment and appropriate accommadations. Whether that's being seen by a psychiatrist who has a contract with the school system, or an aide to push a wheelchair. Personally I think this is better than shipping them off to various hospitals for warehousing. YMMV


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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/8/2010 12:51:06 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

quote:

ORIGINAL: PonyLiz

DesFIP- just want to remind people to be CAREFUL about all psychiatric medicines. To get FDA approval, all a psych med provider has to do is show two human trials that indicate a slight improvement over passive placebo. Most drug trials are 8 weeks or less, and there are no controls on what data the researchers can delete, hide, or ignore when they publish the results. Xanax, for example, has been on the market for 30 years (antianxiety med) based on a study showing patients had fewer panic attacks at four weeks- deleting the information that at 8 weeks, those on Xanax had more attacks than those on placebo. In independent studies with active placebo, no psychiatric med except lithium shows more than 5 or 10% improvement. Most have rebound effects worse than the original complaint- antianxiety meds cause extreme anxiety, antidepression meds cause extreme depression and insomnia etc.
If you do take meds, check the Chochrane Reviews. Pretty much everyting else published is paid for by the manufacturer.
Research your disease or issue, and look into alternative methods. Pretty much all psychiatric disorders respond better to therapy long term than drugs.
I've lost one too many friends to suicide caused by psych meds to take them lightly. Those few who would benefit need to know what they are taking and what the consequences are.

Thanks


Totally disagree. I am fourth generation mood disorder. Which means that this is a genetic, neurobiological problem not something caused by bad parenting or any other bad experiences. As such talk therapy is useless except to help deal with problems caused by having the biological disorder making it impossible to learn normal skills at appropriate times.

Honestly, people like you remind me of the early reactions to the discovery of insulin as a treatment for diabetics. It was viewed as morally reprehensible, as that it would cause people to become human chameleons and other such laughable responses.

Normal bipolars who do not receive early effective medication treatment wind up in a psych hospitals on the average of every five years. My daughter, who received early treatment has never been hospitalized. One six week outpatient program to diagnose was all that was needed. Past bipolars in my family died of suicide despite years of talk therapy.

In past generations we had at least one suicide per generation. Today, we get early treatment and everyone gets on with their lives successfully.

The fact that you do not even know that modern bipolar medications were actually developed as treatment for epilespy, which they are also very effective for, shows your lack of knowledge about the cause of this disorder. There is no possible way, after your revealed ignorance, that I can put any credibility in your opinion over some of the top medical doctors in the area of adolescent psychiatry in the nation.



... ... ... Ahem ... ... ... *clears her throat and perpares to give her opinion*

 
Now, let me just say a few things first;
 
Hun, I could not agree with you more in response to what she said about therapy working and such. And yes, I agree with the fact that, after her having said such things, I too can't not wholely give her credit with knowing anything about what we suffer through. And yes, I did just say "we".
 
Now, supporting what she posted above me I will say this much;
 
I too am a gernerational sufferer of Bi-Polar disorder. I have read what each of my medications does. I have read the side effects and talked to numerous doctors both in, and OUT of the two mental hospitals that I've been in. I was diagnosed back in 2006 and was the first known person in my immediate family to be diagnosed. I then found out that several others in different generations suffer with it that are still alive. They range from those that merely take meds that are perscribed, to those that self medicate via alcohol or other forms of illegal drugs, ect. I myself have never paid money nor had the state pay for a psychyitirst, although it's been suggested by a few that I've known. I have had the good fortune of knowing a few very reliable and trustworthy people in my life that, to this day, are still there for me when I need to talk and keep up on the latest treatments for meds that benifit people that suffer such as me. I've had a pych. eval. as of late and they won't even consider me for S.S.D.I. (Social Security Dissability Income) because they say that I'm to birght, aleart, cohearent, and smart to qualitfy. Not to mention way to young. So, I'm stuck in the system. Like a lot of people are. For a long time my parents tried to convince me that I wasn't in need of my medications. That I should do other things to self medicate instead. And due to the fact that I was stupid enough to listen, I was hospitalized again recently for a few weeks because I DIDN'T stay on my meds like I should have. Now my whole family is fucked up and they NOW realize that being on my medication is the best thing I can do for myself as well as have a stable environment to be in. (Nither of which they're willing to provide for me because, I guess, they see me as old enough to be out on my own reguardless.... Whatever... that's another matter entierly... *sighs*)
I've also read plenty. I've read books on neurochemistry of the brain and body to see what it is in me that does and does fucntion properly. I've bought and read several self help books specifically for bi-polar individuals and learned much about myself. And now that I've had serval espisodes and lived to tell the tale, I now know how to see the symptoms in myself and know when I need help.
 
So for those of you who think that those of us that suffer with a "mental illness" are broken, deranged, "out there", unstable, or any other such nonsensical b.s. that you can come up with, I beg to differ.
 
That is all I have to say about that....
 
.... ..................... *bows out gracefully* ................................ ...

 


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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/9/2010 5:41:00 AM   
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I am highly suspicious of any such view, primarily because it seems an unlikely field for a proper double-blind study with enough specimens to draw meaningful results.

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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/9/2010 5:50:06 AM   
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LadySilver,

let me thank you for your open words and wish you a further way with laughter, peace and harmony.


What i did not mentioned in my earlier post about bipolar and my family members, is that i loved them all with all my heart.

In living with their condition and despite all the fuckups in their lifes they left me with such vivid memories of their being, when they had their good times and with such a lot of beautiful art.

I finally decided to go to a psychiatrist and clear together with her over the needed period of time, if i am bipolar too, but due to the family examples found ways to cope or if my ups and downs are more in the realm of PTSD.

HWK

PS And is should clarify, that i avoid unmedicated or unselfruled people with mental disorders, because i need my peace and made that decision a very long time ago.


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RE: Discussion thread for "BDSM and bi-polar disor... - 6/12/2010 6:48:39 AM   
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Hello I'm new here, but I'm going to take a very aggressive stance on this.

Here is something which I emailed recently in a discussion:

"We are all damaged, it is denial to claim otherwise. We merely have found the light shining through. Its very easy to lose sight of how bizarre D/s control is in vanilla life once you start to embrace thinking in those terms. Sadomasochism is generally diagnosed as something like bipolar disorder. Its just if you channel all of that into your private sex life instead of into cutting, or starving or destroying or whatever... no one else needs to know that you are "sick".

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Yes I realize that its a bit to get one's head around. I've had a sub get very angry at that notion because she has some social stigmas associated to the terms and felt accused. That is understandable.

I find it ironic however that she was so aware of those stigmas and yet has lost any touch with the very serious vanilla stigmas on the lifestyle. I'm not saying they are right, but I am saying that they think we are crazy. I think we are probably the healthiest people and that they would all like to be doing the same thing.

Sadomasochism is not a disorder as it is treated by society. It is a cultural disaffection as you probably know. It stands to reason that everyone in the modern world is suffering from it at some level. I became aware of this as a child but it wasn't till I took a passing interest in Cultural Anthropology that I started to understand it. I actually feel that everyone should understand D/s principles as it would better their lives, it has certainly bettered mine.

It made me understand that every vanilla relation I ever had was actually a D/s scenario and that I had been selecting only highly submissive women automatically just as they were selecting me. People need to understand all of this, but the implications for abandoned gender roles is too freaky for primetime."

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The bottom line is that if you go to a run of the mill shrink and tell them that you enjoy harming yourself or others they will diagnose you, and rightly so.   Only the very finest of them will diagnose you AND suggest you look into BDSM.


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