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MstrPBK -> Including Profession as part of the routine of M& (5/31/2010 12:57:25 PM)

I believe that this does not ... quite ... fit the general S&M Discussion Section - so I am posting this here:

Most serious participants in the S&M/Leather/Bondage communities consider bedroom play, and the household management as areas to be considered when discussing a possible partnership with another person. My question wonders about something further. Are their any out there who also include professional collaboration as an expected part of the relationship (as in working side by side the partner on a day to day basis) ... or ... am I really that rare of a bread of Master to set that expectation?

MstrPBK
St. Paul, MN USA




DesFIP -> RE: Including Profession as part of the routine of M& (5/31/2010 7:59:51 PM)

It limits your pool of potential partners if they have to have the same background and training as you. Besides that, it leads to difficulty in the workplace. Lets say she is in charge of HR and you're in charge of finance, then you could interfere in her work by ordering her not to follow the rules.

Not to mention that most people don't enjoy talking shop all day and night.




MstrPBK -> RE: Including Profession as part of the routine of M& (5/31/2010 8:13:19 PM)

There is some truth there. (nods)

There is also a mindset for work and a different mindset for home. IF I ask someone (slave or not) to disobey rules am I also endangering the safety of the corporate entity or risking an encounter with the legal system? Both of which are pretty serious. If I was any good value of a Master I must also adhere to set policies and laws for the greater good of order.

I agree separating work from general life is sometimes not easy. I think MOST of us have to find that balance somehow; but in this scenario that I conceive there has to be Work Topics and Home Topic. I think my life is diverse enough to have those difficult boundaries.

MstrPBK
St. Paul, MN USA




DesFIP -> RE: Including Profession as part of the routine of M& (6/1/2010 4:28:33 AM)

So she is allowed to tell you to stick it if you interfere with her work responsibilities? Beyond that, when you're in the habit of doing what someone tells you, it will be almost impossible to no longer be submissive when in one certain atmosphere or while discussing just one subject.

Besides, you won't get nearly as much insight from someone with the same viewpoint as you do. People with more diverse backgrounds can offer ideas that won't occur to you. Not to mention that many corporations prohibit dating within the corporation. And if you do so, and then break up, it will negatively impact your work assuming one or both of you aren't fired.




sunshinemiss -> RE: Including Profession as part of the routine of M& (6/1/2010 5:01:52 AM)

Hello PBK -
If you can find a fellow who is interested in the same recreational activities as you, the same wiitwd quirks as you, AND has the same work background, I do believe you will have own the triple crown!

Good luck!
sunshine

p.s. I'd hate that. I'd need some space. But good on you for knowing what you want.




LadyPact -> RE: Including Profession as part of the routine of M& (6/1/2010 8:30:34 AM)

I wouldn't want to suppose how rare it is, but I do know there are some situations from folks here on the boards where those involved in a dynamic do work together.  I'm not especially sure it would be something that I'd want.  I'm thinking of both the potential minefield that it could become from the employer/employee area as well as separating work life and home life as far as personal interaction.  Plus, I don't really think I have the personality type that would do best with this.  Thankfully, not everybody has the same make up as Me.




Termyn8or -> RE: Including Profession as part of the routine of M& (6/1/2010 8:37:13 AM)

As having been in business with a partner with whom I also lived I have to say it's a bad idea. This was a long time ago and I'm still surprised that we never shot each other.

I only know of one situation where something like this worked out. The owners of Wellman & Griffith are a Husband/Wife team who have been doing it for decades. It's a very upscale electronics place, the kind of place you need not go unless you have a black card. The antitheses of Walmart, and I think that is somewhat of an understatement. They tend to stay away from each other at work. Other than that I am not sure how they work it out, but apparently they do.

Even in a temporary partnership with friends, ala Jack and I remodeling a house, it wears on the best of friendships. And that is even under the best of circumstances. We did quite a few, and the rule was whoever got the job ran the job. In other words there has to be a boss and that would be the one who answers to the customer. We did work it out and thinking about it, that situation has analogiies to a switch relationship.

The switch relationship is probably hard enough to manage in the long term, but when you throw work into the mix, I think you're not just asking for trouble, you are begging for it.

And add the fact that no matter how good of a job you have, you get to a certain age when you just don't want to be there. I could have a job sitting on my ass drinking beer at the Taj Mahal and still want to get home. Why ? Because it is my domain. But even that doesn't work out 100% logically because even if I were boss I wouldn't want to be there.

To this day i have no idea how Jeff an Peg of Wellman & Griffith have maintained for so long. They might have strict rules against talking shop after hours or something like that. Next time I see them perhaps I'll ask. It would make a good case study. In fact such information might be valuable today because in this FUBARed economy, there are likely to be some strange bedfellows so to speak, in business together in this country, to simply make ends meet.

But my contention at this time remains, if you can avoid working with people you know, it is probably best.

Just my two cents. (now will someone please tell me the damn Alt+XXXX code for the cents sign ? )

T




switch2please -> RE: Including Profession as part of the routine of M& (6/1/2010 9:00:28 AM)

B shares a business with his ex. When they were dating it was the cause of quite a few fights, and now that they're not together it's the cause of quite a few fights - but when they're not fighting they work well together.
Good luck!




DaddysInkedSlut -> RE: Including Profession as part of the routine of M& (6/1/2010 10:55:50 AM)

There was a point that I owned a japanesse animation store, my now ex husband often worked with me there. We had different views on most things relating to my business. It caused ALOT of unnecessary grief between us. I would probably not work with my significant other ever again.




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