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What was the attraction? - 4/9/2006 6:45:53 AM   
MistressDiane


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Status: offline 		Alot of interesting topics on the boards and here's a question they bring to mind and I don't know if this has been a topic or not already, if it has forgive me.......
"Why did you get involved in BDSM?"
Was it purely for the physical things you could experience, did you enter it with finding a perfect "mate" as your intentions or was it something else, curiosity maybe, acceptance?



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RE: What was the attraction? - 4/9/2006 6:52:53 AM   
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RE: What was the attraction? - 4/9/2006 6:59:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Mistress Diane,
 
Honestly for me i think it was to find myself. i always felt i did not know who i was until i found out about the BDSM lifestyle, i felt i was never myself, i did not know who i am. So when i experienced my first  time... i was able to see and find who i was. i was able to  be the true submissive that i hoped was within. i found this very pleasing. and now i have a wonderful protector who continues to guide me.




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RE: What was the attraction? - 4/9/2006 6:59:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hi Diane!  I thought maybe I'd make the foray into the forums here.  BVeen here for a while since BH told me about them a while ago, but jyst as a lurker...

I think my original introduction into the concept of D/s was a girlfriend I had many years ago.  Sexually, she was very submissive.  I didn't realize it at the time (I don't think I did eaither) that she was "naturally" submissive and I was naturally Dominant).  She would never ask for anything, but was always willing to give and do - and the more pleasure she gave me, the more she enjoyed it. 

Years later, I found out that I had some friencs who were "in the scene" and they introduced me to more aspects of it.  I just grew from there.

Not a very interesting story - but it's how it happened for me...



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RE: What was the attraction? - 4/9/2006 7:03:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Honestly, I don't know if I could sum that up to one definitive answer. There are so many aspects of BDSM it makes for a tough question. For me, I think initially it was maybe just the desire for some of the kink without the guilt of it being abnormal. After having been in it for a long period of time now though, I have to say that there is so much more to it than that, the honesty, trust and the open communication that goes with BDSM relationships, makes life in general more rewarding..or so it seems.

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RE: What was the attraction? - 4/9/2006 7:29:02 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterCoyote

Hi Diane!  I thought maybe I'd make the foray into the forums here.  BVeen here for a while since BH told me about them a while ago, but jyst as a lurker...


Hi Coyote! Great to see you coming out of lurker mode.

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RE: What was the attraction? - 4/9/2006 7:50:35 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDiane
"Why did you get involved in BDSM?"
Was it purely for the physical things you could experience, did you enter it with finding a perfect "mate" as your intentions or was it something else, curiosity maybe, acceptance?


For me, BDSM is something that I include in what I do... what is that inane acronym... wiitwd.

With that said, maybe I can answer this if asked in this manner... Why did I get involved with an alternative lifestyle that includes BDSM? (or something like that)

For me it was a natural course. My dominant personality has been part of who I am for as far back as I recall & my family supports this when I hear them tell me about stories of when I was a little girl. I was the only girl born within my generation of the family. I have all brothers & all of my first cousins are boys(about 20 of us in all). Two-thirds of them were older than me yet I was somehow the one running things when we all got together.

I recall having daydreams/visions/deeply rooted feelings of physically overpowering my "love-interest " by methods of bondage & discipline starting at around 10 to 12 yrs of age & as I got further into puberty these feelings & visions become much more defined.

I began to explore various types of BDSM interaction with partners at around 19 yrs of age. I was a late bloomer so to speak since I was pretty damned confused about why it seemed that I was the only person in the world that had these thoughts. I was shy about having a boyfriend or anything like that because it was obvious to me that none of my guy or girl friends in high school had these types of thoughts. My first serious relationship was with a man older than myself & a real ruff-neck type biker. We did all the biker stuff & he really put on his tough stuff biker persona when we were out & about... but when we got back home things were much different. This was when I first got to try out all of these things that I had envisioned for many years.

So there it is... BDSM is a physical activity that I was naturally inclined to & I have managed to be able to incorporate it within most of my personal relationship to some degree or another my whole life. It has not validated the fact that I am a dominant woman it more like something fun & interesting I do with my partner.

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RE: What was the attraction? - 4/9/2006 12:15:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		Mistress Diane,
 
Great question. For as far back as i can remember (even back to my first sexual thoughts) i have envisioned myself as submissive with a strong urge to serve that goes beyond words to the deepest parts of my soul. It took me a very long time to act upon these fantacies and it wasn't until i was 28 that i experimented with my first Dom (at least that is what he called himself). i thought that this can't be what it is all about and i reluctantly tried again with a Dom who was better than i could have dreamed. He showed me that these feelings (more like longings) were ok and that i wasn't alone. Now, only 3 years later, i am happy to have it be part of who i am and very excited to learn and grow within the community. The possibilities are endless.

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RE: What was the attraction? - 4/9/2006 12:17:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's something I hadn't thought a lot about until now.  It was a slow evolution along side my sense of my sexuality.  It just became apparent that bondage and power games were something that was really quite thrilling on their own or combined with sex.

At one point I had a mentor kind of help accelerate the learning process.

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RE: What was the attraction? - 4/9/2006 12:20:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		Originally it was only because the man I set my sights on happened to be interested. As time went on though, I found that there were so many areas that I enjoyed. Right now, my interest is purely in the physical. I love the pain aspects that are associated with S&M. Who knows, as time goes on, I may expand even further.

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RE: What was the attraction? - 4/9/2006 12:51:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've always been submissive in relationship, I even submitted to an abusive relationship when I was very young for many years. That relationship was charged with lots of kinky sex so I could credit it for my initial introduction into play aspects as well, even though no bdsm words were used. It wasnt till my late 20's, in my next relationship,  that I was introduced to bdsm concepts by my first Master. That was a very revealing time for me, realising I could be submissive and yet not be abused. So you could say I just fell into bdsm, perhaps it was inevitable, it just "fitted".

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