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reynardfox -> killer profiles (5/7/2010 12:11:23 AM)
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At work years ago, when looking through job applications I was trained to spend most of my time looking at the "reason for leaving" box on the form, which, if it contained a rant about the last employer, got the applicant binned.
Right or wrong, it gave the impression that you might be hiring someone who was prone to go to war at the drop of a hat, and who wants to work with someone with issues from the start?
There's the background to this. Here's the bit that concerns today.
As a Dom couple, we get lots of enquiries, and are invited to look at lots of profiles.
A lot of these profiles are rants about time wasters/liars/fakes/players/ or just men.
It's a real turn off. People do their profiles and rarely seem to read them themselves, some of them are like little fountains of rage. I'm not about to take time off work to meet someone, drive miles, lay on entertainment and set up an evening, to meet someone who seems so embittered.
Likewise you may have had a rotten time in your relationships, that's a shame, but son't expect anyone to want to share it. We are looking for new friends, not new ex's.
Time wasters? I see this from people I have not yet met and it red flags the whole thing. Time wasters are those people who come to look at something you are selling and have no money and no intention of buying anyway. Hello? We are looking for people to have sex with for God's sake!! I'm not about to bring someone around, into my home, and to savour thier bodies, talents, and personalities until I have a grasp of what the FUCK I am dealing with. So, damn straight I take my time.
If your profile reads like a declaration of war. If the journal is full of bile about prospective Doms who've let you down (and obviously some will) guess who's not going to be looking for that initial coffee?
I'm not entering into a dialogue, no one ever wins an arguement.
Just asking people to look at their profiles.
It may explain a lot.
Pictures that look like killers don't help.
* tip - relax and smile, relax and smile, relax and smile.
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