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Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 4:35:41 AM

pantslessmale

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I have recently made contact with a fabulous Mistress here on collarme.com but we have run into a training issue and we wonder if any others have run into similar problems and if so, maybe someone has a solution.

The problem is that She wants to control access to my penis and initially wanted me to buy a chastity device and wear it 24/7. However, it was quickly realized that is not possible since I am married and although my wife and I do not have a sex life to speak of she nevertheless still sees me naked and we do sleep together.

Is there anyway that my Mistress can exert Her control in a less obvious way?

Also, I should mention that my Mistress is about 650 miles away but we are hoping to meet real time later this year.

Any help that can be provided would be much appreciated.

steve

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 4:56:18 AM

BlackTigerDragon

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Does your wife know about your relationship with this domme? If you are worried about your wife seeing this chastity device then it sounds like she doesn't know anything.

If wife doesn't know or is against this relationship with the domme then I don't think it is a very good idea unless you are planning to end your marriage anyway.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 5:21:15 AM

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Your married and cheating. You've been here 10 days and are involved in a fantasy relationship. You, for whatever reason, feel we think this is ok and want us to tell you a way to lie to and cheat on your wife right under her nose. Gee man, do you think the whole world has your dirtbag morals?

It also occures to me his online Mistress is playing him for a fool by telling him to wear a chastity devise. If so I thik that's hysterical.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 5:26:11 AM

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even if the wife did know and even if their sex life is 'not much to speak of' from that statement its clear they have some sort of sex life and so the device would anyway be an incursion on his marriage and a no no. so it was a non starter long before it was ever considered IMO.

just promise not to touch i guess and she'll have to trust youre word.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 5:40:50 AM

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-You've been here for 10 days.
-Your profile, where you make no mention of being married, says as of 4/27 you are "owned" by your current online mistress, who,according to her profile, offers financial domination among other activities.
-One day of "ownership" has passed and she wants you in chastity.
-You don't plan to meet her until later this year, perhaps due to the 650 miles that seperate you.
-You're married and although you and your wife don't have much of a sex life, you're concerned she might question some sort of device on your dangly bit.

Do I have all that right? Did I miss anything?

My suggestion....turn off your computer and get a grip....on reality, not your dick.

< Message edited by CarrieO -- 4/28/2010 5:43:29 AM >

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 5:41:51 AM

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The very first thing you need to do is step back and figure out where you want to end up. Right now, you're looking to end up with a pissed wife at best and a divorce at worst. I'll give you a hint - your marriage sounds very poor. I'd either end it or else work on it.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 5:59:44 AM

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i agree with DS, but people have ellucidated just a little bit on the ridiculous idea that you should wear a chastity belt at all. for a Domme to come up with such a suggestion to a married man is ludicrous. i would like to softly suggest that you consider very carefully putting youre marriage at risk for a woman who hasnt achieved even a basic understanding of youre situation. LDR isnt an easy way to go and they dont always last too long. be very aware of what youre potentially risking here and for what - an obsession that takes you even further away from youre wife and into the pyschological minefield of LDR

if you want to submit to a Domme you really have to be able to trust her decisions on things and not be waiting for the next potty idea that youre going to have to question.

you have to think of those days when she doesnt get back to you, it happens. you will worry about it, be thinking about it, how is that going to impact on youre wife (and kids?)

its horny fun and a distraction from the tedium of life, but unless youre actually going to make a real go of finding a Domme id put youre wifes wedding ring in the forefront of youre mind and remember the promises you made when you slipped it on her finger.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 6:21:33 AM

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It would appear our OP's profile is hidden/not found.
Which really is neither here nor there seeing as my profile is hidden.
Just an interesting observation.

I wonder if he got the answer he was hoping for.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 6:38:02 AM

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Shove a bottle of super glue into the tip of your penis and glue it shut. You won't be able to cum and you're wife will never know your cheating on her. Make sure your life insurance is paid up first. I bet your mistress will just love this. Be sure and take pics of your face as your dick swells up, so you can send them to her to show what a good little boy you are.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 7:00:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CarrieO

I wonder if he got the answer he was hoping for.

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I'm sure he did not but he sure got the right answer.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 7:02:47 AM

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I'm always amazed that cheating dipshit men come on here expecting positive responses.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 7:02:51 AM

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Mail her your cock.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 8:58:32 AM

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Dear steve,
What you face is quite common. I have seen it a million times. You must be patient. I promise you things will eventually change. However, I can help you bring this to a quick and fruitful conclusion putting an end to your worries.

1. Print a copy of your chat/email & record the cams of you and your Mistress then give them to your wife. That way you won't have to worry or wait for her to find them which happens 99% of the time. Now that you don't sleep with your wife anymore, you are free to wear that cock and ball cage to bed at night.

2. Make a copy of gift receipts or any tribute payments for your wife's new divorce lawyer. This should help speed the divorce along so you can make travel plans to visit your Mistress sooner . . . if you can still afford to travel after the divorce.

3. You might as well call a cab right now and head to the nearest cheap motel with weekly rates because that is where you will be living after you give the car and house to your wife.

4. On the way to the cheap motel, stop at the XXX adult shop and buy the BIGGEST ass dildo they have. Then shove it up your ass because you're fucked and that's what your Mistress was gonna' do anyway.

I have been in the lifestyle since 1971 and I hope my 39 years of experience has shown you how to put your worries to rest and reach the end of the path you have chosen as quickly as possible.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 11:10:00 AM

pompeii

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CarrieO
-You've been here for ... Your profile says ... You don't plan to meet her until ...You're married and ...You're concerned she might ..."
... ... Did I miss anything?

Wow. You're good at this investigative stuff. You should be a PI!

I love the way people are looking at the situation and, without the OP saying so, telling it like it really is (not what a fantasy would wish it to be).

Kudos to you all ... As for the OP ... what she said ...

Ciao,
Pompeii

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 11:16:22 AM

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Hopefully, the "profile not found" means we scared the daylights out of him and he faced reality.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 12:14:16 PM

LaTigresse

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Dear steve,
What you face is quite common. I have seen it a million times. You must be patient. I promise you things will eventually change. However, I can help you bring this to a quick and fruitful conclusion putting an end to your worries.

1. Print a copy of your chat/email & record the cams of you and your Mistress then give them to your wife. That way you won't have to worry or wait for her to find them which happens 99% of the time. Now that you don't sleep with your wife anymore, you are free to wear that cock and ball cage to bed at night.

2. Make a copy of gift receipts or any tribute payments for your wife's new divorce lawyer. This should help speed the divorce along so you can make travel plans to visit your Mistress sooner . . . if you can still afford to travel after the divorce.

3. You might as well call a cab right now and head to the nearest cheap motel with weekly rates because that is where you will be living after you give the car and house to your wife.

4. On the way to the cheap motel, stop at the XXX adult shop and buy the BIGGEST ass dildo they have. Then shove it up your ass because you're fucked and that's what your Mistress was gonna' do anyway.

I have been in the lifestyle since 1971 and I hope my 39 years of experience has shown you how to put your worries to rest and reach the end of the path you have chosen as quickly as possible.

I love this! It's hysterical but so true. Sad......but ragingly funny none the less.

Another funny thing........when I read the title of the OP......the first thing that popped into my head was marathon running. Oye...

< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 4/28/2010 12:15:05 PM >

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 8:42:23 PM

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Sadly, his profile did come up...so maybe he did not get scared back into reality.

ResidentSadist...I loved your post. It made me giggle inside, which is saying a lot on a day like today.

OP...I agree with the others. Come clean with your wife and/or face reality sooner rather than later. It has a nasty habit of biting you in the ass at the end anyway.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/28/2010 8:48:24 PM

Aylee

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~Fast Reply~

Stop sleeping nekkid. Problem solved.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/29/2010 12:26:23 AM

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It does not matter a jot if the Domme lives next door or on Alpha Centaurii, the issue is that you are not honest in your relationship and you ought to address this before you wind up alone. If you and your wife asre no longer having sex then you should let her go anyway. Seems like there are no winners in this.

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RE: Long Distance Training - 4/29/2010 12:36:00 AM

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quote:

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It does not matter a jot if the Domme lives next door or on Alpha Centaurii,

I disagree strongly with this statement. If the domme were on alpha centauri, the OP probably wouldn't be able to afford the tribute after paying the phone bills. In addition, you gotta figure the 4.4 year time delay would really mess with the dynamic..

Her: I want you to get a chastity belt.
.... wait 4.4 years...
Him: Any particular kind?
... wait 4.4 years

Edited to add a more positive note though. Conveniently enough, she would always be 4.4 years younger in his time frame than in hers... what a great way to shed those unwanted wrinkles.

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