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ORIGINAL: allthatjaz

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ORIGINAL: pompeii



And, some Doms (I, for one), are actually pleasure Doms (or whatever we're called). The whole thing, for me anyway, is about HER PLEASURE! So, it's weird that I'm tying her up more for her than for me (well, I enjoy it too, but, if she didn't, I'd not be doing it to her).

If I ball gag her, it's because she LIKES ball gags; were I to spank her, it's because she enjoys sticking her buns up for my palm; and when it comes time to firetruck her, I damn well make sure she comes first (I even have to think of my Mom or something else so as to "turn off", partially ruining all the fun for me as holding back is hard as hell for my overactive hormones), and then after she comes, about a millionth of a second later I allow myself the pleasure to come inside or onto her.

My point is that the Dom is actually, in some cases (well, all I know is one case), in "control" but the whole control is to engineer the orgasmic pleasure of the sub ... as there's nothing like watching and holding and kissing a pleasurably writhing wholly bound and gagged and blindfolded woman underneath you... yummy yummy ...

There, I've said 'enuf.
Ciao,
Pompeii

PS: Still smiling at the "and you worked this out all by yourself" astute observation ... :)

It sounds like an act of loving and I for one think that's a very sound way to be.
Many would mock, laugh and question your motives, especially Doms that believe that to be a Dom you just can't 'ever' be so giving. Personally I think your outlook is a healthy one and I also don't believe that many of the Doms that write to these forums are the full shilling.

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And when she's "doing" to me, I'd mostly call me ... well... lucky.