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If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/19/2010 3:06:29 PM   
NervousGrrl


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Status: offline 		Did you include any acknowledgment of the special nature of your relationship at your wedding? Either outright, or just in a small way only you two would understand? 
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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/19/2010 6:39:51 PM   
slaveluci


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Status: offline 		We had a simple wedding with family and close friends in the church I had gone to for years with my parents. We didn't exactly let our freak flag fly, if you get my drift. However, we did do two little things that meant alot to us. We made sure I would say the part about "obey"ing him. Secondly, I have never called Master by His given name. It's always been Sir, Master or just nothing at all. During the vows, I was to say, "I take you (His name) ..." I said, "I take You....(no name)" and waited for the preacher to continue. I think he was taken a bit aback and was waiting for me to say it but I outwaited him, acted like I was waiting on him to continue and he did. I don't think anyone else noticed a thing but it was important to us that I not call Him by a name I never do otherwise.

luci

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/19/2010 6:51:17 PM   
LaceyMadison


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Status: offline 		Personally I wouldn't...I'd have a seperate exclusive type of ceremony for the bdsm aspect of your relationship...kinda more special that way cos it's just between the two of you

Congrat's on your engagement : )

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/19/2010 8:05:26 PM   
Firebirdseeking


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Status: offline 		My Dom and I plan to marry. We discussed whether to include a small gesture in our wedding that acknowledges the nature of our relationship. I was thinking that in addition to a ring, he would place a necklace/collar on my neck. He was not comfortable with that.


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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/19/2010 8:09:27 PM   
VampiresLair


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ORIGINAL: NervousGrrl

Did you include any acknowledgment of the special nature of your relationship at your wedding? Either outright, or just in a small way only you two would understand? 


Yes. We reversed the vows. I took the typical "male" vows of love, honor and cherish. Fox took the "love, honor and obey". We had a simple family wedding, with plenty of kink friends as well. Some noticed, come didnt. My mother actually thought it was rather fitting because she couldnt see me obeying anyway. Our wedding bands also have engravings, mine says "Yours always" and his says "Mine always"


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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/19/2010 9:08:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		I suggest a wedding ceremony, and a separate collaring ceremony.  With different guest lists.

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/19/2010 9:12:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		It was unbelievable. The guests at the wedding would tap their wine glasses with their gift vibrators if they wanted me to fist her.



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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/19/2010 11:14:36 PM   
Bayn


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Status: offline 		My girl and I were just married 2 weeks ago. It was a VERY small gathering of family (our kids, My sister, a couple others).  My vows included promises to care for her and keep her best interests always in mind (as I am her Daddi Dom). her vows included "to Love, Honor, and Submit." We also made sure to get a couple of photos of her kneeling in her wedding dress. :)

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/19/2010 11:22:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NervousGrrl

Did you include any acknowledgment of the special nature of your relationship at your wedding? Either outright, or just in a small way only you two would understand? 


We don't tend to see our relationship as "special" regardless of how unusual it may be. For us, it's just the dynamic that works for us so everything in the wedding that symbolized us and meant something to us was a symbol of our relationship and our lives together - from the music we picked to the style of clothing to the location of the ceramony to the band on his finger.

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/19/2010 11:40:12 PM   
GinoVega


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveluci

We had a simple wedding with family and close friends in the church I had gone to for years with my parents. We didn't exactly let our freak flag fly, if you get my drift. However, we did do two little things that meant alot to us. We made sure I would say the part about "obey"ing him. Secondly, I have never called Master by His given name. It's always been Sir, Master or just nothing at all. During the vows, I was to say, "I take you (His name) ..." I said, "I take You....(no name)" and waited for the preacher to continue. I think he was taken a bit aback and was waiting for me to say it but I outwaited him, acted like I was waiting on him to continue and he did. I don't think anyone else noticed a thing but it was important to us that I not call Him by a name I never do otherwise.

luci

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/20/2010 5:13:50 AM   
leadership527


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ORIGINAL: NervousGrrl
Did you include any acknowledgment of the special nature of your relationship at your wedding? Either outright, or just in a small way only you two would understand? 
Heh, we were married first. You can bet my collaring ceremony mentioned the marriage though. We absolutely would've included some reference to our M/s relationship had it gone the other way around. That reference, however, would've been too obscure for anyone else to really pick up on. This is one of the few cases where I would've chosen to hide some of the truth from strangers. Weddings serve a social purpose that goes beyond the couple being married.

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/20/2010 5:39:43 AM   
ForeverOwned


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Status: offline 		We, left the word "obey" in there, but other than that we saved everything for our collaring ceremony a few years later. Mostly, because I was not deserving of his collar as our D/s relationship was still new.

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/20/2010 5:49:05 AM   
RuffneckandHis


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Status: offline 		We included the obey in ..."Love, Honor and Obey"...my very feminist sister was not happy with that but oh well, such is life.





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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/20/2010 6:53:35 AM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		Yes, the one time I did marry a slave, I acknowledged the nature our relationship at the wedding. And, made the preacher use "obey" in thevows even though they had taken it our years ago.

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/20/2010 7:55:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		"Love, honor and cherish" said it all for both of us.

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/20/2010 8:26:46 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		We wrote our own vows...and we vowed different things to each other.

this slave promised, among other things, to be His "faithful servant".

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/20/2010 8:34:55 AM   
leadership527


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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
this slave promised, among other things, to be His "faithful servant".
Yeah yeah, wonderful. But did you promise to be his "Mary Poppins Perfect in Every Way slave"?

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/20/2010 8:39:06 AM   
Mercnbeth


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ORIGINAL: leadership527

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
this slave promised, among other things, to be His "faithful servant".
Yeah yeah, wonderful. But did you promise to be his "Mary Poppins Perfect in Every Way slave"?


no...that was implied...
Merc: (Missed beth's post as I was out on the front deck watching Air Force One take off from LAX. I was waving to the President.)

Originally the 'Mary Poppins' reference was an attempted insult; similar to being accused of 'living in Merc-land'. After thinking about it, Merc-Land isn't a bad place to live, its our personal Disneyland; with beth as my personal, fun, E-ticket Mary Poppins ride.

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/20/2010 8:39:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy

It was unbelievable. The guests at the wedding would tap their wine glasses with their gift vibrators if they wanted me to fist her.





oh fuck. Our plans include a slap at the alter, then instead of a champagne toast, watersports for all.

Oh and the vows...something about filthy gash and yes oh yes Master, and worthless meat. I am having Jefff help with the details. He's good with prose you know.

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RE: If you are married to your dom/master/sub/slave.... - 4/20/2010 8:57:09 AM   
SirJ40


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Status: offline 		My tala wore a simple necklace that is related to her submission in a special way to us. The wording of our vows was such that the D/s relationship was gently alluded to, but completely invisible to those "not in the know". We enjoyed it, and that's what matters, and the vanillas remarked on our "wonderful, unique vows".. when in reality, they were barely different from the standard service suggested to us by the JP for non-religious types. It just worked out that way. 

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