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subtoFemDommes -> RE: Symbiosis - A Reality (4/5/2006 11:58:37 AM)
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Well, i tried to post to this yesterday, but a server choked on my entry and sent it down a wormhole. i'll reconstruct from memory and join in with everyone else to thank you for the thought provoking post, Owned.
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie
As a slave, my focus is my Master. i am about pleasing him. i am about serving him, and submitting to him in all things. my fulfillment comes from submitting to Him. i need to submit. He fills that need. He provides a place for me to be who i must be In turn, my Master finds fulfillment and enjoyment with my submission. The more deeply i submit, the more power he feels. The more power he exercises, the more deeply i submit. i am his pleasure. He is my need. We are yin and yang, imbalanced if separated.
i've always been one to feel the strong desire to be of service, to help others; doing for those who couldn't do for themselves, fixing, informing, figuring out ways that what people need can be accomplished in a better way with less wasted resources. That's an intrinsic characteristic, and i grew up in an environment that promoted that.
What depths that can reach in a relationship of intimacy and trust is quite another thing and so difficult to find. As the trust to do so with Mistress developed, it was very obvious that She thrived on my desire to serve, and obvious to me from each interaction, how much love She needed to know i felt from Her as She took more control. That has rewarded me so much and fuels my desire give Her as much as i possibly can.
Every element of submission has been rewarded in so many ways: The pleasure i see and hear in Her reactions, the many needs met that i have and the continuum of trust and love that builds.
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He inspires me to develop, grow, and evolve. i inspire him to develop, grow, and evolve. There are things i never would have experienced, or even wanted to try, without Him. There are things he had no desire to experiment with until he owned me.
This is something i've had in every relationship, D/s or vanilla, that had any chance of lasting. i've learned that one of the greatest joys of an intimate relationship (or even a good friendship) is that the real person we are with has so many elements and interests that the two-dimensional fantasy we entertain about who we want to be with can't possibly anticipate. Growth is essential for any relationship to last.
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A great definition for symbiosis that i saw is: “the intimate living together of two dissimilar organisms in a mutually beneficial relationship.” Is that not what we are? (i say “we” collectively).
Dissimilar in some ways, but so similar in others; both the D and the s have needs not easily met. Both are uniquely vulnerable in being outside accepted modes of behavior and both have, in my observation, an extraordinary need for affirmation and verification of trust. To me, the needs are more similar than dissimilar, but then i have had both perspectives during my life and this reflects the insight that has given me, not just from my own modes of orientation, but from the feedback one gets when perceived as D or s by others.
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And if that is the case, while we continue to say D/s and M/s is all about the Master or the Dominant…it is ultimately about both, is it not?
Treading carefully here, i'll just say that in the year 2006, i'd hope that only the very recently initiated, the naive or the very limited human being would come to any other conclusion. In my not so humble opinion, anything else is fantasy, delusion or at worst, sociopathic.
Again, thanks for the great OP.
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