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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan



Do I view female dominance as different?  Yes.  However, Different = Good, in my opinion.  Men and women are different and, though we are equally capable of dominance, we are not required to employ the same devices to achieve it.  In many ways, I view female dominance, including the use of "feminine wiles," as superior because it is often more subtle and, therefore, more effective.  This is not to say that I believe in female supremacy, only that I recognize the superiority of subtlty over brute force in some circumstances.
 
Do I use my own feminine wiles on subs?  Absolutely!  I'll use any tool that will accomplish my goals, whether it's neurolinguistic programming or dressing up in a corset and 5" heels.  If it gets the reaction I want, when I want, then it's valid.  For me, feminine wiles are any tactics a woman is able to employ for her own benefit.  They aren't limited to flaunting her tits and ass. 
 
Does this attitude carry over to my life outside the bedroom?  You bet.  My kink is control and want to be in control everywhere, not just the bedchamber.  Although there is a momentary control involved in manipulating a person in a particular situation, that isn't the sort of control I'm talking about here.  I define control, as it relates to dominance, as a lasting effect on a person's psyche -- when you're picking up around your house and find yourself putting things away in places I've instructed you to put them in mine, or when you see someone on the street who resembles me and hurry after her, hoping I'll turn and smile at you. 
 
Do I feel the expectations for female dominance are different?  Sometimes, depending on who you ask.  I bolded some key phrases in the OP that illustrate the paradox.  Even the OP seems to equate feminine wiles with a manipulative, grasping sort of control.  If the emphasized phrases are read together, they can easily apply to either male or female dominance. 
 
When I think of a woman using feminine wiles as part of her leadership, I think of Cleopatra, who protected her country from invasion and secured the power of her throne for years by becoming the mistress first of Caesar and then Marc Antony.  Was she manipulative?  Probably.  Politics are all about manipulation and men are just as manipulative as women in this arena.  Was Cleopatra passive-aggressive?  Possibly.  However, once again, men are just as passive-aggressive as women, and whether or not the man is considered dominant has little to do with this. 
 
In any case, I have no qualms about using my feminine wiles if it means putting myself in the same category as one of the greatest queens of all time.  I don't have to deny my femininity, like Hatshepsut, or make myself a virgin queen, like Elizabeth I, to rule. 

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*My questions for the women..... Do you view female dominance different from male dominance? Do you use feminine wiles to achieve goals within your relationship with your sub? How do you define these wiles? Do you feel the expectations attached to female dominantion are different from male domination and if so, how?

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO
Not in a manipulative or passive-aggressive manner, but with determination and integrity tempered with grace and compassion.

All that being said.....the comment made on the other thread by the OP that he thought "passive-aggressive and manipulative are definitely more towards the "controlling" side, and hence dominant."

*Questions for the men/male subs.....Do you agree with the statement I quoted above from the OP of the other thread I linked to in regards to passive-aggressive/manipulative behavior being controlling and therefore dominant?  Do you see the use of feminine wiles by a woman to be dominant?