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OP: When you're "constantly" getting that message,
1.) What are the reasons given, by the people who say it?
and:
2.) WHO is "constantly" telling you this?
Are we talking a lot of people, here? How many? Do they know you well?
If you're getting this reaction from just a few people in person, or from a bunch of people online, it may just be the way you're presenting. Youthful exuberance is GREAT! I hope you don't lose it. Just understand that some people don't react well to it. You can change how you present, if you want to- or you can find someone for whom your youthful enthusiasm is a perfect fit.
*tousels johmey's hair* 
I was just like you, once. I was slave, from before I could even remember. That's just what I was. But back then, there was no internet. It was a lot harder for likeminded people to connect. So its good that you're making use of the resources available to you now. Better late than never!
ENJOY this time of learning and growing!
Explore, and have FUN!
You can't please everyone, so just do the best you can to find your bliss. Everything will flow from there.
Some parting thoughts:
I'd like to second those who've brought up the fact that letting your hormones lead you can be the wrong way to go about things. You don't appear to be saying this is just a kink for you, but rather, that you want D/s as a way of life. So then to act on that, its good that you're getting out to meet people. But also realize that you've got to grow and educate yourself, so that you can be a well rounded companion. Your dom is going to need a LOT more than just a sex slave.
"Real life intrudes upon the dream." There's sooooo much more to 24/7 than just the bedroom. There's the whole rest of your life. To start with for example, all the same kind of "normal" considerations are applicable, whether you're seeking a strictly vanilla girl, or the dom of your dreams. Your life goals, philosophy of life, sense of humor, etc. should match up well with your partner's. Do you want children? Where do you want to live? How's your credit? Can you: Manage your money and your time well? Communicate well? Handle fear, anger, and other "negative" emotions in a productive manner? Set, work toward, and achieve both short and long term goals in your life? Cultivate talents that will attract and keep someone's interest, outside of sex? Would the people who know you best say you're dependable and trustworthy? What would they say you could improve on, to be a better prospective partner? How do you identify and begin to work on areas that you can improve on? What are your strengths and better qualities, and how can you build on them? Do you embrace challenge? Do you know when to quit? How do you know when you've reached the point of diminishing returns? What kind of PERSON do you want to be with, long term? Not dom, person. Because we're all people, first (except me- I was slave first  ). We're not fetish delivery systems, and as much as you might dream of living that way, just trust me: you'll want to be appreciated as much more than just the sum of your kinks, over time.
That's enough for now. Those are just some things to think about, to get you started. Its okay if you don't have all the answers now- you're not supposed to. Youth is a time for growth, exploration and change. Although it is a time when some careful planning and effort is needed to set the stage for the rest of your life to go as you'd like, it is also a time for laughter, playfulness and FUN! So don't be too self-conscious, don't worry too much, and don't let (well meaning?) people rain on your parade. ENJOY this precious, wonderful time in your life.
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