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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 6:14:56 PM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: kitriana
I am all for open mindedness, and I will consider people up to my sister's age (36), if we hit it off, but why do "sub" (been using that term loosely of late) men in their 50s and 60s constantly find it necessary to ask if i have a place for them? I mean, I am young enough to be their kid.


Ok to start with, your profile states:

quote:

f you are older than 30, do NOT waste my time by sending me anything.  As soon as I see your age, I will DELETE it!


That is on the bottom of you profile.. Assuming that only 1% actually read you profile I doubt that they get to the end.(I'm told it's hard to concentrate on reading when your jerking off....)

However I take issue in the way you wrote this......

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ORIGINAL: kitriana
THINK ABOUT IT.. My dad is in his 50s.. that's sickening to me. How would you guys feel if men your age were trying to get in with your daughters?


That is to me pretty offensive..and it could have been stated simply bysaying the oldest you are interested in is 36 as you say in your profole.. FYI I'm 61 in August. I have a kajira in a collar for 4 years untill 2 years ago. I collared her when she was 18. Yep I was 54 an she was 18..BTW My wike/Free Companion turned 31 in Feb so there is close enough to 30 years between us. her day is 5 years older and her mum is 2 years younger Our friends range from 22 to 50. So even if you dont like such age differences some do or atleast leave it out of the equasion regarding friendships or liking people.... Bestlearn to back off with such statements.. I'm not alone here in CM either in this..


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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 6:58:46 PM   
kitriana


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Status: offline 		it doesn't bother me to see others in such relationships. glad to hear things are working out for you. I am just saying for me, from my point of view, I dont want 50 year olds hitting on me. To be perfectly clear, no one should be hitting on me, as it isn't my station in life to be hit on in any sense of the phrase. When I want someone, I go out and find them.

And as far as that offending you, well, everything will offend someone. To be honest, the gorean lifestyle in itself offends me, but you don't hear me going on about it. Its an open forum on a BDSM site. Don't like it, move on. At this point I have my other points of view on the matter, and seeing people get up in arms about what I have written or how I have phrased this or that amuses the hell out of me.

I solved my problem.. re-did my mail settings. Now I don't even have to trouble myself with wondering the motives behind the ignorance.

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 7:32:36 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		What a rude and offensive girl you are.. I can guarantee you thatr unless yiou soirt out your attitude and start caring about not offending people with yout self centered and self serving attitude, your mouth will cost you dearly especially in careeres open to you.. Don't believe me? Good I and others here have seen it happen more than once..... 

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 7:42:48 PM   
kitriana


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Status: offline 		as I said, you can seldom say anything in this world without offending someone. personally, I think I was just being ambivalent and passive in my last reply, very much like I am off the net. No need to use the energy to be upset when taking the laid back stance can get your point across, if my reply was construed to be rude and with attitude then yours is just onery, possibly conveying some long pent up "short man syndrome" being malappropriated here.

< Message edited by kitriana -- 3/26/2006 7:52:30 PM >

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 8:43:02 PM   
MrDiscipline44


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I solved my problem.. re-did my mail settings. Now I don't even have to trouble myself with wondering the motives behind the ignorance.
Pure irony. LOL

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 8:54:49 PM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: kitriana

as I said, you can seldom say anything in this world without offending someone. personally, I think I was just being ambivalent and passive in my last reply, very much like I am off the net. No need to use the energy to be upset when taking the laid back stance can get your point across, if my reply was construed to be rude and with attitude then yours is just onery, possibly conveying some long pent up "short man syndrome" being malappropriated here.


At 6'4" I hardly think it is short man syndrome girl and dont try psyching out a psych.. you'd loose to me every time.. You are rude and unpleasant! Good day to you..

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 9:03:36 PM   
kitriana


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Status: offline 		glad I can get under people's skin like that.

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 9:31:58 PM   
JohnWarren


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ORIGINAL: kitriana

glad I can get under people's skin like that.


It's sad that you are proud of it

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 9:48:40 PM   
truesub4u


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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

quote:

ORIGINAL: kitriana

glad I can get under people's skin like that.


It's sad that you are proud of it


Sad and pathetic


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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 9:49:54 PM   
kitriana


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Status: offline 		its sad that people read so much into message boards and that sarcasm doesn't pass through the boundaries of the net.

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 9:50:14 PM   
Jasmyn


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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 10:05:50 PM   
BitaTruble


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Is it just me thinking this or is there some insight I am missing to put this in another perspective?


I, personally, enjoy being around people of every age group. Each step in life offers a differing perspective. Perhaps those who are 50 or 60 just want to recapture some of their youth by being with a much younger person. It could be a perception of vitality based simply on your age, or it could be they think you're just cute and want to be a part of your circle.  They might even think they could teach you a thing or two if you took them on. You may want to consider anwering a few of their emails and simply asking them why they are attracted to someone of your age.  If you view it as a compliment, you may make a few friends whose unique experiences can enhance your life. It's up to you what you choose to do with your various opportunities.

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 10:27:27 PM   
crouchingtigress


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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/26/2006 10:46:16 PM   
amayos


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THINK ABOUT IT.. My dad is in his 50s.. that's sickening to me. How would you guys feel if men your age were trying to get in with your daughters?


Au contraire...In my mid-twenties I was scolding and putting over my knee a bright and beautiful woman nearly twice my age and certainly old enough to be my mother. When I contemplated the aspect of she's old enough to be my mother (and trust that I often did), it tended only to make her slavery more sweet in my eyes.

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/27/2006 2:45:51 AM   
Level


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Status: offline 		Glad to see this thread going so well.
 
Do any of ya'll ever wonder how these conversations would go if we all were in the same room? lol


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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/27/2006 4:03:33 AM   
kitriana


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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

you get 30 emails a day?


on average

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/27/2006 4:09:43 AM   
kitriana


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quote:

ORIGINAL: amayos

quote:

THINK ABOUT IT.. My dad is in his 50s.. that's sickening to me. How would you guys feel if men your age were trying to get in with your daughters?


Au contraire...In my mid-twenties I was scolding and putting over my knee a bright and beautiful woman nearly twice my age and certainly old enough to be my mother. When I contemplated the aspect of she's old enough to be my mother (and trust that I often did), it tended only to make her slavery more sweet in my eyes.


that's cool. I think I may just be sticking to the ideas that you need to have trust and some sense of relationship with the person you are with to do this well, and for me, I can't do that with older people, older people and I do not really have that much in common, so I have found. The ones emailing me are what I would call "doormat" subs, and I am not looking for that sort of thing. Not saying every older guy on here is like that, but on the whole they just aren't my cup of cake.

The most popular argument for why I should take them on is they are more financially secure, but I am not looking for money. The next most popular argument is "older guys know how to please a woman"... but I'd rather train someone up. Just unappealing.

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/27/2006 4:36:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Level

Glad to see this thread going so well.
 
Do any of ya'll ever wonder how these conversations would go if we all were in the same room? lol




Yep and my take is that they would be completely different when you can look someone in the eye and assess how genuine they are. The internet is a form of entertainment and one should not take anything one says too seriously.

These forums are evidence enough as to how many people have been duped or disappointed by believing someone will deliver in r/l what they have said over the internet.

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/27/2006 4:45:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		The only insight that comes to me reading this thread is a cliche.

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RE: the 40+ subs who approach me - 3/27/2006 4:47:20 AM   
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