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LadyPact -> Starting threads (2/1/2010 9:29:48 AM)

I've been reading over the responses here http://www.collarchat.com/m_2198831/tm.htm and something keeps coming back over and over.  It's not really the same topic, so I'm starting this one.

There are lots of questions out there under that whole umbrella of wiitwd.  There's even more if you want to include D/s and M/s dynamics.  Questions about rope, needles, canes, or just about anything else you could think up.

My question here is two fold. 

1.  If you can't find something in the search feature (example, which is bigger a 23 gauge needle or a 25 gauge?) how hard is it to ask that particular question?

2.  Are you more or less likely to try to do the research before starting a new thread?




EbonyWood -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 9:45:10 AM)

LP,
 
1. Not difficult at all.
 
2. I've never started a thread, not because I'm not inquisitive or care about issues. But because so much ground is covered in existing threads already and an existing thread can often tangent into newer issues.
 
(I also thought the best way to deal with scammers, spammers etc when I first posted was to ignore them rather than start a thread and piss everybody off. Then again, I'm observant and read my environment first.)
 
And if a radically different issue arises, thats great, I'm sure someone will start a thread.
 
Plus of course, these fora are not the only source of information.
 
Nice new thread by the way. [;)]




Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 9:54:28 AM)

1. It isn't difficult to ask the question but in my own personal experience here, it may be difficult to receive replies. I asked a question quite a while ago about chasity devices and it went unanswered. No, it wasn't that I didn't get the answer I wanted, I didn't get ANY responses...lol. That was quite discouraging for me.

2. Yes, I do try to research my inquiries in other venues before posting them here.




RumpusParable -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 10:00:04 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I've been reading over the responses here http://www.collarchat.com/m_2198831/tm.htm and something keeps coming back over and over.  It's not really the same topic, so I'm starting this one.

There are lots of questions out there under that whole umbrella of wiitwd.  There's even more if you want to include D/s and M/s dynamics.  Questions about rope, needles, canes, or just about anything else you could think up.

My question here is two fold. 

1.  If you can't find something in the search feature (example, which is bigger a 23 gauge needle or a 25 gauge?) how hard is it to ask that particular question?

2.  Are you more or less likely to try to do the research before starting a new thread?



For me?  All Hail Google!

THEN, if I can't find my info I'll start a thread here.  Hasn't happened yet (not being able to find the answer on google).




Missokyst -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 10:07:30 AM)

I dislike the search function and refuse to use it. Why? LOL try bringing up old threads in this place! Let's say I would like to further explore something said in an old topic.. at first people would leap on it, then before long someone would mention bringing up the dead. No thanks!

If I have a question, I am going to ask for fresh material. Times change, people's ideas change, new people arrive.. and sometimes even though we have seen the question before there might be something you might not have thought of prior.




ForeverOwned -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 11:43:25 AM)

i agree with you Miss. Besides if there weren't repeat questions there would be no board. There are already very few new people that come on anymore. This board is not as busy at it was when i first started on it.




persephonee -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 11:48:37 AM)

i perform a search....but in general, i am asking a question of the current occupants of our lil boobie hatch....if i cared what dom4urass had to say in 2007, i would go find him where i left him, all balled up on the floor of that motel room, cryin for his mama....

If it is indeed something like needle gauges or some technical question that has one answer....ill def search it out as opposed to asking.

If im too lazy to search for something, i ask Sirsholly on her thread...last time it was whether or not Gary Sinese was, in reality, a double amputee.....so, do we really want perse starting threads?[:D]




LillyoftheVally -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 11:50:26 AM)

I start threads a lot, on anything I am interested in, I have been told of for doing done to death topics. To be honest the only times those threads annoy me is when there is one still going at the time of asking and the OP worte about one word and then fecked off clearly not really caring what came up.

I find the search feature hard to use for more obscure or specific themes. And specific such as needle things I would probably do a google search.

I like reading the responses from people I respect, so the search can be crap for that.

I try when starting threads to ask something new or ask something in a new way, I don't start them for drama or to brag or any of that. To be honest I would rather have a board of a few interesting threads than a board full of controversy seekers.




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 11:52:22 AM)

I'd like to see some Perse threads.  Seriously.  After seeing some of your play pictures, I'd bet you have some pretty interesting threads.

PS - miss chatting with you,  Call me!

WinD




Miyani -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 12:43:59 PM)

1) It is extremely difficult for me to ask that particular question. This is because I look at that question and go "I don't need to ask anyone this, I have a great wide Internet at my disposal." I simply cannot make myself ask a question that Google can answer in less than ten seconds. However, when it comes to a question that involves human perceptions of events, actions, stimuli, I ask the group, and find it very easy to do so.

2) I'll always do the research. If someone has asked something similar, though, and I have a new spin on it? Or if the question hasn't been answered in a good long while and I think I'd benefit from further discussion? I'll ask again anyway.




lovingpet -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 1:02:21 PM)

When I first joined, I used the search feature and kept quietly to myself.  I was intimidated to post a question or even a response.  Reading some of the stuff within the threads didn't help that feeling either, by the way.  I didn't start really LEARNING until I began asking my own questions.

I probably have a bit of a strange posting style.  I don't ask questions expecting a certain response, looking for validation, etc.  Generally, if I post a question, I am working through the issue in my own head.  It may or may not be an issue directly affecting me.  Often it is something I am seeing played out before me in others' relationships.  Regardless, however, I don't know quite what I think or feel about something.  If it looks like I am wrestling with the subject matter or changing my views throughout one of my threads, it is likely because I am and is quite genuine.  I can't follow any kind of internal process reading old threads from people who were thinking or feeling whatever was in THEIR heads at the time.  I was able to glean some rather rudimentary information, ideas, etc, but nothing that addressed the specifics of me.

Additionally, I'd rather see a new post on an old subject simply because there is fresh perspective out there.  Like has been mentioned, people evolve in their perspectives and beliefs over time, folks have new experiences that are now useful, there are new posters, and so much more.  I have yet to go back and ask a question I have asked before, but I can well imagine that, if I did, the answers and insights I would get would be very different from what I got the first time.  Some people would answer much the same, but many would not and some contributions would take the thread in directions it never went before.

Research is fine for canned factoid type information.  Relationships are dynamic, however, as are personalities and need exploration on a more individual basis.  Even those factoids likely need a bit of prodding and examining from time to time.  Long story short, I'd much prefer someone ask what they need now and let it go where it may.  I may get bored answering the same questions over and over again, but every once in awhile things will take a direction that allows me to explore my own conceptions.  Though my answers are much the same as they have always been in most cases, I also know that there have been some shifts that have occurred over time and can be visible in a lot of these repeat subjects and possibly even the impetus for those changes can be found there as well.  Message boards are like living documents and need fresh perspectives even on old material. 

lovingpet




LadyAngelika -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 1:05:54 PM)

I don't start threads to ask technical questions. I start threads to discuss ideas.

- LA




imtempting -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 1:13:04 PM)

When I was at my most active, I used to start threads on any thought I had at that time. Now, at times, this would get me into trouble (the fun times we had Mod11 and Mod1). or my replies would get me into trouble as I had much different ideas to a lot of people out there. So, since I was basically getting banned everyweek, I stopped posting.

Most questions would of been asked on this and many other boards, in theory, you could close down most boards if people just use the search function but the fun of the forums are that people will post the same questions but with new views. Except, when their views were like mine and did not go with the "statues quo" of what a submissive should be.




MrMister -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 1:23:47 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned
There are already very few new people that come on anymore. This board is not as busy at it was when i first started on it.


Perhaps this is true since you first signed on here in 2008, but I have to say in my observation the population here has clearly increased during the time that I last posted in 2006 (I believe) up until now. There are a myriad of new folks here and it sure seems to be greater numbers of people logged in at any given time as opposed to 2005/2006. And by all means, I haven't done a definitive study on this, it's just how it appears to me.

And in regards to the OP's inquiry, I say post whatever thread you wish to, if in fact it is of importance to you, honest, and done respectfully.




LaTigresse -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 1:25:31 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

I don't start threads to ask technical questions. I start threads to discuss ideas.

- LA


This, and what RumpusParable said about Google. Or I simply ask someone I know for a fact, is an expert.




lally2 -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 1:42:40 PM)

i dont tend to look at search that much. usually when i have in the past, im either overwhelmed with pages and pages of waffle to wade through to reach a salient response or the question posed isnt exactly worded in a way to ellicit the answers im seeking.

with youre own thread you can redirect it back to its OP if it starts to wander off its path. you can discuss points and thoughts salient to youre topic more effciently without risk of hijacking it and i can honestly say that any thread i have put up has helped me to understand and alter my perceptions primarily because it has been case specific to the question in my head.




juliaoceania -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 1:48:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I've been reading over the responses here http://www.collarchat.com/m_2198831/tm.htm and something keeps coming back over and over.  It's not really the same topic, so I'm starting this one.

There are lots of questions out there under that whole umbrella of wiitwd.  There's even more if you want to include D/s and M/s dynamics.  Questions about rope, needles, canes, or just about anything else you could think up.

My question here is two fold. 

1.  If you can't find something in the search feature (example, which is bigger a 23 gauge needle or a 25 gauge?) how hard is it to ask that particular question?

2.  Are you more or less likely to try to do the research before starting a new thread?



After taking a long break from this site I have found it disconcerting that old threads from three years ago get resurrected. I would rather have fresh conversations with new people posting here. It seems people are searching for old threads and contributing new ideas to them...

I am not likely to search for topics, I took part in them when they were new[:D]




littlewonder -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 3:05:53 PM)

I personally never research old threads.

If I want an answer to a question I want current answers from current people...not answers from 3 years ago from people who probably no longer exist here.





DomImus -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 3:17:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst
I dislike the search function and refuse to use it. Why? LOL try bringing up old threads in this place!


You use the search function to research and read - not resurrect.






DomImus -> RE: Starting threads (2/1/2010 3:20:13 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
2.  Are you more or less likely to try to do the research before starting a new thread?


Doesn't starting a thread here and asking others who might be more knowledgeable constitute research?






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