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Elizabeth666 -> RE: How do you tell someone (1/22/2010 3:20:29 PM)
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Stop calling the poor guy and leave him alone.
In the entire time we have been broken up for, I called him twice. The first time was in response to his numerous calls to me and then second was to ask about his and his daughter's holiday. I figured since 8 months had gone by, he would be over it. I do not make it a point to call him. I thought I was being friendly with the holiday call, and obviously, I was wrong.
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I could be completely wrong, but it reads as though this was a little bit of ego gratification for you, otherwise why would it matter that he had aged a little, and were you insinuating that this was due to missing you?
Absolutely not. I never thought that he was looking aged because of me. I was surprised as anyone else. One of my co-workers works part time at a mall near the Ex's work. My co-worker was surprised to see how the Ex looked because any other time he has seen him passing through, he always looked fine.
I was taken aback because he is the type of guy who cares about his appearance.
I had figured I was quite clear when I told him I was not interested. As far as the hug goes, obviously the wrong thing to do. I figured it was harmless, he was the one who tried to kiss me, not the other way around.
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I've always found that direct and honest is the best approach. Not answering your phone when he calls is simply leading him on with hope you may one day answer. From what i read you haven't been CLEAR to him, you are acting immature and instead of directly addressing the issue, you just don't answer your phone. Come on. That's just bullshit. Tell the guy directly to STOP CALLING YOU.
You created the situation and instead of directly addressing it, you are trying to get around having to be direct. You left it where you indicated to him he upset you and that you were upset. He could very well be trying to contact you to apologize or to make sure you are okay. Not answering the phone and making your wishes clear at all to me is playing games.
I haven't avoided his calls since he hasn't called. All this only happened a couple of days ago, so I don't think I'm being immature at all. As I stated above, I told him flat out that I did not want to be with him again. That's it, that's all.
I mentioned that I was nervous that he would call. I didn't want to have to have the same conversation again, with me telling him AGAIN that I do not want to be with him. He knows I was with someone else, I explained that I had NO interest in being with anyone either, whether it be him or someone else. But if it happens, I will just tell him again that I am not interested and to kindly lose my number.
Anyway, I see I should have re-typed what I originally had, which had explained things a bit better.
Either way, thank you everyone for your input.
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