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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 12:04:28 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		LOL... yeah and if handled the wrong way... could lead to wearing depends!

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 12:21:53 PM   
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I'd be interested to hear views as to how far you take to protecting the submissive... I think I know the two types of answers there will be, but I'll keep schtum for now!


Millions of people vanish each year... what's one more?



Yes they do. AWESOME TO SEE YOU ON THE BOARDS!!! Missed You Dude, still have to drink some tasty Mead together!!!! U F'in ROCK Dude!!

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 1:32:04 PM   
HisSweetElysium


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Status: offline 		little different perspective here.  First, I would not want my Dominant to do anything more than give a cutting glare and keep walking.  As others said, it is not worth us getting into a physical altercation over the jealousy of someone else.  Thankfully, this never has happened, I used to be with a man who would jump out of the car and start with a guy who looked at me when I walked into a store. That made me very uncomfortable.

However when I go out with my girlfriends, we often get snarky comments and it's a different story.  One of my girlfriends is a gorgeous exotic looking woman, and often gets ignorant comments about her appearance and ethnicity.  I am the first one to get up in someone's face in her defense, or anyone's defense who I am with really.  I don't tolerate disrespect for those I care about, ever.  I won't start a physical fight, but I will verbally put someone in their place in a new york minute.  Maybe this is an advantage to being female, usually they're so taken aback by being called out on their rudeness that they stammer an apology.  At worst we go a couple of rounds verbally, I flip the person off and walk away.  I live in Boston, that's how it goes. 

Even with this "feisty" demeanor, I've been in all of one fight in my life and that was with a guy, when I had to jump in when he was punching his pregnant girlfriend in front of me. And yes, I lost.  For some reason, even at 5/5 and 125, most people are intimidated by me, especially other females.  Whether it's the attitude or the tattoos, I don't really care, I don't take ignorant crap from anyone, end of story. 


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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 2:04:19 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Ha, you must not live in NYC. Here it is standard operating procedure for people to stare and comment on anything and everything.
If you walk down the street in public dressed in fet wear or really anything, expect this.

If something like that bothers you, ignore it or beat the crap out of the person. Unless they are really big guys or have a gun. Then just run like hell.


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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 4:13:09 PM   
itsmeinLV


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Status: offline 		We both laughed it off.  It's nothing to either of us so no reactions stems from those kind of actions.  However, if the actions were to be threatening, that would be a different story.  He protects me from the men, I protect myself from the women, unless they pose a dangerous threat.  

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 4:33:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

Yes they do. AWESOME TO SEE YOU ON THE BOARDS!!! Missed You Dude, still have to drink some tasty Mead together!!!! U F'in ROCK Dude!!


Whip, are you just addicted to the little handcuff sign? I mean, damn dude, you been here for years an always bail when it is no longer the cuffs...

*eyes you suspiciously*
Good tae ss ya


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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 5:10:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Ha, you must not live in NYC. Here it is standard operating procedure for people to stare and comment on anything and everything.
If you walk down the street in public dressed in fet wear or really anything, expect this.



But fetwear isn't odd enough to get stares in NYC. I walked into Grand Central to catch a train one day and there was a girl dressed as Batgirl coming down the steps. Hundreds of people there and I was the only one who stopped and stared. Everyone else just kept on walking.

What I would expect out of him is to get me out of the situation before the drunk decided to escalate things because we didn't react. And then after we were safely away to tend to my emotional needs. Which means asking me if I'm all right and hugging me.

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 5:38:59 PM   
DFW4All


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Status: offline 		Facts and circumstances dictate response to a "situation" - one would be protective in that the physical safety of his date was tended to. Certainly one would plae them selves in a position to be between the offending party/creep and his date, and to otherwise manage space issues. Beyond that, one would control the situation as appropriate to the circumstances. An incident can be diffused in a variety of ways, most of which are peacful. I have observed some people who were very polite that you would not want to mess with. The "Doc Holliday" types.

Anecdote: I once had a strange sort of situation like this where a person accosted us while on a public street in broad daylight. You watch, observe, manage placement, and take it from there. I my case I spotted the local Gendarme coming around the corner and aggresively hailed him. The offending party, a mentally deranged person of sorts with warrants got to spend some time learning the joys of "Official Restraints" which I suspect are not nearly as fun as some other forms. Sometimes our good friends in blue come in handy.

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 5:41:56 PM   
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So, you're out on a friday night with him / her, walking to a venue, in clubwear, fetish, smart vanilla, whatever, and someone walking past on a busy highstreet seems to make a passing snarky remark about your submissive and continues walking on. What do you do?


Roll my eyes and keep going (if I even bother to put that much effort into it)

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How about if this person is up infront of you / them - maybe at a taxi rank, and saying something hurtful towards the submissive, maybe drunk? As the Dom/me What would you do then?


Sticks and stones, man.  What do I care what some idiot on the street says?
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submissives - what would you'd prefer to happen, or what would you do?

I'd be interested to hear views as to how far you take to protecting the submissive... I think I know the two types of answers there will be, but I'll keep schtum for now!


You've yet to supply an instance where someone needs to be protected.


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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 6:07:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Walk away.  There are about 5 people in the world whose opinion of me I value.  The rest can think what they like.  Would I prefer they not shout their negative opinion of me at me on the street?  Sure.  But it really has no effect on me.  I don't spend my life keeping track of slights and trying to control the behavior of adults.

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 6:10:22 PM   
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That is a situation where I would think someone should respond. They touched you - physical contact was made. A situation was already created


I agree. It really depends on the circumstances. If its just some idiot drunk shooting his mouth off, i'd just tell him to keep it to himself and walk away. However, if said drunk crosses the line and does something like grab ahold of her or try to hit her, or becomes threatening thats a different situation. I don't take too kindly to anyone doing anything like that to any woman in my presence. He would be leaving the bar right then and there, either using common sense and leaving by choice or on a stretcher if hes stupid enough to become threatening. Most people are smart enough to leave well enough alone. At least around here.

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 6:18:20 PM   
masterjimm


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Status: offline 		hey hurcules maybe yr ass woul be leaving by stretcher

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 6:18:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

Yes they do. AWESOME TO SEE YOU ON THE BOARDS!!! Missed You Dude, still have to drink some tasty Mead together!!!! U F'in ROCK Dude!!


Whip, are you just addicted to the little handcuff sign? I mean, damn dude, you been here for years an always bail when it is no longer the cuffs...

*eyes you suspiciously*
Good tae ss ya



Ssshhhhh.. now now, everybody knows I'm just a trolling newbie with a cheap pair of handcuffs that's been trying to get laid for the last sex (ummm six) years.

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 6:27:39 PM   
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I have been in many fights in my life and I have never thrown the first blow. Not once have I lost control of my emotions. my advice is just walk away. Only raise your hand in self defence.

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 6:29:08 PM   
DomImus


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Status: offline 		My submissive is a babe. Snarky comments from the peanut gallery would probably be along the lines of "Hey honey, what's a beautiful girl like you doing with a tired old man like that?" which wouldn't bother me a bit. I'd take it as a compliment. Seriously, idle comments from a stranger aren't worth my time especially from a drunk stranger. If they escalate things above snide remarks I'll respond appropriately.


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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 6:45:30 PM   
Whiplashsmile4


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Status: offline 		Stock up on Mace, buy a Tazer Gun, take Martial Arts lessons, Learn to talk like Police Officers do, Carry a Gun (don't forget to make it legal with permits and such), Hire Body Guards, Be good friends with the Owners of the Establishments, have 911 loaded up on speed dial, Carry a Cell phone that does video recording (evidence to show to the judge later if need be), Oh yeah... don't forget to invite your Mafia or Biker Gang friends along to hang out with you for the night.

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 7:09:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would hope he would just laugh and keep on walking and I would prefer that is what he does since I would see it as immature to approach the person or make a federal issue out of  it. I get remarks all the time as I'm walking. I don't find it all that big a deal and I just continue on my way.

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 7:12:02 PM   
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What would you do if someone made a snide remark about your mother or child while they were next to you?



Been there more than once.
We kept walking and ignored the person or persons.

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/20/2010 7:18:16 PM   
Rhodes85


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hey hurcules maybe yr ass woul be leaving by stretcher


I doubt that very much. I don't get involved with fights without a very good reason. Both because I rarely have to and because I am well aware of how badly I am capable of injuring someone in a fight. Thats why I avoid it. Thats not to say there are not people that could beat me. I'm sure theres plenty. But not some drunken jackass in a bar.

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Stock up on Mace, buy a Tazer Gun, take Martial Arts lessons, Learn to talk like Police Officers do, Carry a Gun (don't forget to make it legal with permits and such), Hire Body Guards, Be good friends with the Owners of the Establishments, have 911 loaded up on speed dial, Carry a Cell phone that does video recording (evidence to show to the judge later if need be), Oh yeah... don't forget to invite your Mafia or Biker Gang friends along to hang out with you for the night.


I realize you're joking but just to point a few things out for people that might actually consider some of those...mace doesn't always work, can end up working against you if you use it wrong and in some places is illegal. Tasers aren't the best idea either. Martial arts....No. Unless you're talking black belt level...basic martial arts will probably make you overconfident and get you hurt or killed. DON'T CARRY A GUN. Or a knife for that matter. It only makes it tempting to use it in a stupid manner. It also gives the other guy a legitimate reason to kill you 'in self defense' if he sees it or you make a threatening move with it. Also don't pull a knife on anyone if you don't know how to use it anyway. Just saying is all.

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RE: Protecting your submissive - 1/22/2010 11:08:58 PM   
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In my experience, there just isn't anything of value to come from arguing with a drunk.


Likewise, never argue with an idiot. The idiot will bring you down to their level. And, then, they'd likely win due to their experience at it.

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