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allthatjaz -> RE: release (1/10/2010 2:54:12 PM)
It could be as simple as him just going off her or her just going off him It could be that they never actually fell in love and so all they ever had was the outer shell of D/s with no core It could be that she broke his trust or he broke hers It could be that he found someone else whilst sitting at his computer while she cleans his boots It could be anything but then its a bit like asking why do vanilla relationships break up.

littlewonder -> RE: release (1/10/2010 2:56:57 PM)
I don't think there is any one reason..the same reason any relationship fails... broken trust unrealistic expectations incompatibility finances Nothing different from any other relationship really

lizi -> RE: release (1/10/2010 4:10:12 PM)
I can only speak for myself so I don't know what the number one reason is but I'm going with broken trust in one case and incompatibility in others.

GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: release (1/10/2010 4:17:22 PM)
OP: #1...not enough commanalities ,compatability or respect D-s relatingusually* for the same reason any relationship ends..* dishonesty lack of integrity betrayal assumptions before hand that were not talked out unclear boundries and expectations and good old money,relatives and sex.. If it is a casual/binding or on-going PLAY relationship* it may end due to incompatibility as others have said as well as lying,misconceptions, job loss,initmacy issues and on and on...just as for any relating-ship COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY!! GM

breatheasone -> RE: release (1/10/2010 4:51:53 PM)
i would think it would be trust.

windchymes -> RE: release (1/10/2010 5:04:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetboundesire quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Failure to eat pussy. lmao! you beat me to it. that and definitely trust. It's everything. [;)]

OsideGirl -> RE: release (1/10/2010 5:13:43 PM)
My first D/s relationship ended because it became obvious that we were good friends but not good in a relationship with each other. My second D/s relationship ended after 6 years because he wanted more committment but a possibility of failure scared him. I couldn't take the hot and cold any longer and ended it. Third D/s relationship is still going stong after 10 years.

masterlink65 -> RE: release (1/14/2010 6:05:04 PM)
i agree. with Drifa

itsmeinLV -> RE: release (1/14/2010 7:34:38 PM)
In my opinion, incompatibility. Then again, that's in any type of relationship.

juliaoceania -> RE: release (1/14/2010 7:37:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 what is the number one reason a D,s relationship ends? I can only tell you why mine ended, which was too many stresses, illnesses, and not the right time to take on a live in arrangement... we should have waited.

PrimalConsonance -> RE: release (1/14/2010 8:47:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetboundesire quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Failure to eat pussy. lmao! you beat me to it. that and definitely trust. It's everything. That's what I hear... or "you are what you don't eat" in this case. Other than that trust and communication failings have a lot to do with it as well.

Acer49 -> RE: release (1/15/2010 7:54:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 what is the number one reason a D,s relationship ends? For the same reasons any other relationship would end I suppose. Lack of honesty, integrity,trust and compatability would be a few

lally2 -> RE: release (1/15/2010 11:11:55 AM)
trust is a big one for me. relying on telepathy rather than bog standard communication

Prinsexx -> RE: release (1/15/2010 11:55:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 what is the number one reason a D,s relationship ends? There’s a model that suggests that there are predisposing personal factors: within individuals, (true for all relationships not just kinky) and that these are distasteful personal habits, change in interests, poor previous role models and poor social skills. That there is a precipitating factors: such as: deception, boredom, relocation, conflict. (I experienced a relationship where there was a habit which I just found nauseating and revolting. It was nail biting which he had managed to hide from me and I released myself and chucked the guy out of my house). This model of the breakdown of relationships illustrates that this is a staggered process (Duck 1988) and follows the following stages. Intra-psychic phase – one of the partners becomes increasingly dissatisfied with the relationship. If they carry on being dissatisfied, they move on to the next stage. The other person becomes involved. They discuss it. If it’s not resolved, the sorry situation moves on to the next stage. Social phase – here the warring couple air their grievances to their friends/ /familycommunity. The social implications of a potential breakup are negotiated (who gets what etc). The relationship may be saved here (e.g. by the intervention of a trusted other), but if it is not, they move on to the next stage. Grave-dressing phase – the ex-partners begin the organization of their post-relationship lives. The publicise their own accounts of the split, and what the nature of their relationship with their ex-partner is. They may well try and make themselves look good – or else potential partners may be scared off! I believe within this process there is the unrealistic belief that just because two people (or more) have kink in common that this alone is going to maintain the relationship, when in actuality any two people could do kink and come together with false expectations of a long term relationship especially via a social networking system. And further that given the entire range of kink and fetish possibilities finding a match wherein one partner does not find fault in the other is exceptionally difficult. Often when when is the only thing in common (ie there are no kids/house projects/joint financial commitments) then the entire process can be swift and brutal, often looking to others and feeling as if the process had no stages whatsoever and happened suddenly.

SailingBum -> RE: release (1/15/2010 12:18:07 PM)
she was a no good life sucking bitch and those are her good points. Any questions. smirkle BadOne

Prinsexx -> RE: release (1/15/2010 12:30:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum she was a no good life sucking bitch and those are her good points. Any questions. smirkle BadOne None. I understand completely.

MarcEsadrian -> RE: Release (1/15/2010 2:10:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Knighthunter862 What is the number one reason a D/s relationship ends? - Incompatibility - Lack of personal accountability - Unrealistic expectations - Poor decision making There are more, but the above are what I would call the Four Horsemen where any relationship is concerned. It's fruitless to calculate a "numero uno reason" why such relationships fail, as it's most likely a mixed recipe. From what I have gleaned in life, this seems true.

RealSub58 -> RE: Release (1/15/2010 6:34:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian - Incompatibility - Lack of personal accountability - Unrealistic expectations - Poor decision making oh how so very true, thanks for listing it. There are more, but the above are what I would call the Four Horsemen where any relationship is concerned. It's fruitless to calculate a "numero uno reason" why such relationships fail, as it's most likely a mixed recipe. From what I have gleaned in life, this seems true.

NuevaVida -> RE: Release (1/15/2010 10:39:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian There are more, but the above are what I would call the Four Horsemen where any relationship is concerned. It's fruitless to calculate a "numero uno reason" why such relationships fail, as it's most likely a mixed recipe. From what I have gleaned in life, this seems true. Your reference to the Four Horsemen had me recalling John Gottman's (PhD, marriage counselor for 30+ years, author) list of "The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" (of marriage). This guy is able to predict with 95% accuracy, which marriages will fail, based on these four issues: Criticism: "You're such an idiot!" for example Contempt: Responding to each other with sarcasm, mockery, eye rolling, hostile humor, cynicism, etc. Defensiveness: "I'm not the problem, You are!" for example Stonewalling: Shutting down and disengaging I'd imagine these issues occur in M/s & D/s relationships as much as any other. People often say "communication problems" are the root of a relationship's demise, but narrowing it down to what kinds of communication problems (such as above) is more specific. That said, I completely agree with your list, too! Maybe there are actually 8 horsemen and we just didn't know it. [:)]

transensualist -> RE: release (1/16/2010 10:13:54 AM)
Failure to provide goods and/or services.

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