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RE: edge play - 1/10/2010 3:45:17 AM

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I know that some people define edge play in a personal way, as something that crosses their own boundaries, over the edge, but for me generally I take it to mean anything that comes with a very real danger so blood,knives,fire,breath etc etc

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RE: edge play - 1/10/2010 3:45:40 AM

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Edge play is as individual as the nose on ones face. Like others here have said, one persons edge play is another persons slap and tickle!
For me personally, edge play is nothing to do with endangering myself because I have no wish to endanger myself... not ever and yet I regularly partake in edge play!
For me its about the mind, the trip, the endorphins and the space I hit during certain types of play.
I find fear play edgy because my mind goes into full alert. That fight or flight adrenaline kicks in and all my instincts to survive become very focused but then I find cutting and hook pulls edgy too. In cutting and hook pulls I feel no fear but with this sort of play I have (what I like to think of) an out of body experience. I walk a fine edge between this life and a virtual life. I feel as though I am walking on the very edge of my existence and I am often reluctant to come back.
When Stephen takes me to the edge then it is as my mentor/guide. He will allow me and guide me to that place and he will know when to bring me back.

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RE: edge play - 1/10/2010 4:51:07 AM

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There's lots of stuff that isn't potentially dangerous that would be edgy for us simply because we don't do those things and it would be difficult for me to handle. So for me, the edge of my comfort zone is a good definition.

We do erotic bondage, not s & m, so anything involving serious pain would be edgy for me.

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RE: edge play - 1/10/2010 5:01:39 AM

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Same here Celeste. He is an emotional sadist. His palate, so to speak, holds all the colors of that thrill. I am his canvas. If someone asks me how often do we play, my answer would be all the time - truly. ALL the time. What to others is unacceptable, to us, are the varied aspects of his sadism.

In the beginning, it didn't take much to hurt me - to drive me to the edge, so to speak. And I spent a lot of time in tears and wondering what he was doing. The pain was tremendous and certainly like nothing I'd ever felt before. And each time I rose to meet that pain and overcame it was more and more exciting to me. That was our "edge play."

As time went on though, I realized what he was doing and the things he did stopped hurting - for the most part. And edge play began to be commonplace or "that's just the way he is."

So... he upped the ante and I hurt again - this was our new "edge."

And it's gone on like this throughout the last 7 and a half years. Him upping the ante, me rising to meet it and conquering myself through it and him upping once more.

It continually amazes me the number of "edges" we have and how each of those "edges" can be broached, overcome and a new "edge" found.

The trick is in doing this without damaging the person you're doing it to.

And pretty much, every day, I see just what a Master of this he is.

Taken as a whole, it can be pretty terrifying. Taken in steps, it's pretty thrilling.

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RE: edge play - 1/10/2010 5:33:52 AM

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If you're defining edge play as whatever pushes you out of your comfort zone, then it depends on circumstances, how you do things, and who you're with.

My ex was a trainee surgeon, we were fairly paranoid about blood borne diseases, got checked out every once in a while and always used precautions when playing with others. So honestly I was quite comfortable with knife play (or razor play, scalpel play, etc) with him. That would only really be edge play to me if it was with someone/something new that increased the level of risk, although I usually call it (and the other standard edgy activities) edge play for the sake of convenience.

Ditto with needles (I spend a few hours most days sticking them in people, I know how hard it is to cause any real damage), fire, electricity. You would have to seriously up the ante beyond the normal on any of those activities to worry me (get a car battery and some bare wires or something slow burning, maybe a needle for bone marrow harvesting?). Breath play is the exception I guess, there's always a degree of risk there.

On the other hand, gags, blindfolds and masks tend to push me out of the comfort zone no matter who I'm with or what the situation is, despite not being likely to cause any physical harm. So I guess the moral of the story is the regular one, make sure your partner knows what you mean by any particular term.

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RE: edge play - 1/10/2010 12:34:27 PM

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Hmmmm
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RE: edge play - 1/10/2010 12:43:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: MargueriteV

Edge play: If there is a slip up and it can physically/mentally damage some one so they have to seek help or if slipping up can kill someone.

That is my take on things at least.

I agree. And one time it did slip up for me and resulted in having to go to the hospital. Not fun at all. Seemed so while doing it, but not so much after.

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RE: edge play - 1/10/2010 12:43:52 PM

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Atthe moment my edges are scat (physical) and becoming a Mommy (mentally edgy).
Although simple submission is hitting me hard in an edgy way again.

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