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Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 12:22:20 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I know, I know.....  I'm going to disappoint a bunch of folks who are reading this instead of the latest fake or moderation thread.  I'm not going to ask in sixteen different ways about how do you determine what a scammer is or how to get other basic information that has been done to death.  It's not a question about why people disappear or how do you know someone is a player.  Instead, I'm going to take five minutes of your day for something else.......

Do you remember rope?  Not just one kind, but a hundred kinds.  Do you remember talking about what types of rope you like and why talking about how one kind feels better on your skin?  Do you remember talking about how to dye it or the lengths that you prefer to have the pieces cut?

Do you remember floggers?  All kinds of those, too.  Ones that have a thud sensation and the ones that sting?  Everything from a long whip to those silly little ones that might have made for a good keychain, but then you found out it had a little bit of bite to it, so it ended up in your bag instead of the keyring.

Oh, and needles.  Remember those?  They come in all kinds of sizes.  Feeling the cold metal under your skin or watching them sink under the flesh while you guided them.  The designs that can be made or the different ways they can be applied.

Then there are the things that most folks would think about connected to BDSM at all.  You found them at the dollar store or laying around the house.  Who knew they could be such fun!  Or the BDSM that didn't need anything at all, other than the mind?  What about impact play without implements or primal play?

Do you remember the fun you had?  Having control of another and how that power was like an aphrodisiac?  Do you remember how that in bondage, you felt free?

Do you remember what it was about this thing, this BDSM, that brought you to where you are in your life today?  Do you remember what formed your preferences about play?  Your hard limits?  How you best soar?  That inner top or bottom in you.  The one who had something in this world of BDSM that took you someplace and reached you in a way that it never had before and it spoke to you so loudly that it's impossible to ignore.

Believe it or not, those things can be here.  Sure, there's a lot of white noise about the fakes, and the crap, and the outright bullshit, but it really is still here.  The thing is, you can't stop being excited about it.  If you do, it stops being fun and amazing, or wonderful and exciting. 

Do you want to lose that?




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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 12:32:45 PM   
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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 12:33:38 PM   
osf


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Status: offline 		actually it wasn't the bdsm that attracted me, it was the dynamics of the d/s relationship that was my interest

there's a whole lot of bdsm i've never done and would probably be dangerous with it if i attempted it, but what i do do i do with gusto

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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 12:41:53 PM   
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Berating Dismissive Snippy Monologues?

No? Um...

Bawling & Demanding Superior Moderation?

Still no? *taps fingers, thinking*

Boobs, Dildos, Snatches & Marsupials?

Just give me bit longer. It'll come to me...


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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 12:44:13 PM   
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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 12:44:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know quite how to feel about this, but I kinda gotta go with osf on this. It was the relationship dynamic first and foremost that caught me by the imagination. Of course from there, things ran wild and I now have a bag full of random stuff that only someone with the perverse mind I have would ever really put together was a bag of bdsm toys. I don't have a whole lot of "real" toys. I have had to make my own fun for the most part. Then there was the whole shivering sensation at thinking of that very first time... top AND bottom... and how it might be and what might happen.

Fortunately for me, my imagination is a scary beast to let loose. It doesn't seem to ever stop with all the ideas, questions, fantasies, and more. I doubt it ever will. It also makes me a little prone to excessive anticipation and fear though. Balance and focus are key in this I think. But yeah, I think I've said it a few times. Why all the serious sallies and downer dougs? This is supposed to be FUN!!!! And it still is for me!

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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 12:53:32 PM   
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Fortunately for me, my imagination is a scary beast to let loose. It doesn't seem to ever stop with all the ideas, questions, fantasies, and more. I doubt it ever will. It also makes me a little prone to excessive anticipation and fear though. Balance and focus are key in this I think. But yeah, I think I've said it a few times. Why all the serious sallies and downer dougs? This is supposed to be FUN!!!! And it still is for me!



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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 12:59:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have forgotten because I am really a fake and never knew in the first place!

Okay... I do remember... omg... and while I am not into a lot of things other's are into... yes... I want to remember, I want to do and I would like to talk about it.

I love the dollar store and Home Depot... I love finding things around my house and thinking... oh, what I could do with that and then maybe trying it on myself to see how it would feel to another and what I really might be able to do with it. Hell... even my daughter has come up with things that surprised me! Because she too was out there looking for things and thinking of buying me things to use for my... er... fun!

Have I lost interest in things... oh yes... many times... but I always work my way back! I didn't arrive here in this place in life to give it up, walk away or become discouraged. One day I will find my place/space/person and then... the party is on!

You all have given me some really wicked things to think upon and I do believe... that even though I am not all that sadistic... the sadist is rising! lol

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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 1:00:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: osf

quote:

Fortunately for me, my imagination is a scary beast to let loose. It doesn't seem to ever stop with all the ideas, questions, fantasies, and more. I doubt it ever will. It also makes me a little prone to excessive anticipation and fear though. Balance and focus are key in this I think. But yeah, I think I've said it a few times. Why all the serious sallies and downer dougs? This is supposed to be FUN!!!! And it still is for me!



a terminator submissive


I am scared to even ask exactly what this reference is to mean. LOL So what does it mean?

lovingpet

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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 1:04:31 PM   
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am scared to even ask exactly what this reference is to mean. LOL So what does it mean?


The submissive woman the terminator.


A submissive woman’s sexuality is unceasing in it’s appetite and need. That sexual need is there. It can't be bargained with. It can't be reasoned with. It doesn't feel pity, or remorse, or fear. And it absolutely will not stop, ever.

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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 1:08:05 PM   
lovingpet


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ORIGINAL: osf

quote:

am scared to even ask exactly what this reference is to mean. LOL So what does it mean?


The submissive woman the terminator.


A submissive woman’s sexuality is unceasing in it’s appetite and need. That sexual need is there. It can't be bargained with. It can't be reasoned with. It doesn't feel pity, or remorse, or fear. And it absolutely will not stop, ever.


LOL!!!! Though this mayhaps be an apt description of me, it isn't all from a position of submission. My toybag is for use on OTHERS!!!! Mwuhahahaha!!!!!

Though it is only a part of the great beast that is lovingpet. I am much more the sum of my even steamily insaitable parts!

lovingpet

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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 1:11:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: osf
The submissive woman the terminator.


A submissive woman’s sexuality is unceasing in it’s appetite and need. That sexual need is there. It can't be bargained with. It can't be reasoned with. It doesn't feel pity, or remorse, or fear. And it absolutely will not stop, ever.

And... you have a problem with this? I would think that as a dominant you would have found a way or two to use this sexuality against the submissive for the purpose of enhancing her submissiveness towards you, entrenching her to your will even more.

Just because some women may seem to be controlled by their animalistic sexual urges (though I've not yet met any that truly are) doesn't mean they can't be used towards the dominant's ends.

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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 1:15:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sappatoti


quote:

ORIGINAL: osf
The submissive woman the terminator.


A submissive woman’s sexuality is unceasing in it’s appetite and need. That sexual need is there. It can't be bargained with. It can't be reasoned with. It doesn't feel pity, or remorse, or fear. And it absolutely will not stop, ever.

And... you have a problem with this? I would think that as a dominant you would have found a way or two to use this sexuality against the submissive for the purpose of enhancing her submissiveness towards you, entrenching her to your will even more.

Just because some women may seem to be controlled by their animalistic sexual urges (though I've not yet met any that truly are) doesn't mean they can't be used towards the dominant's ends.


there was more to it i din't post

and to me sexuality and fucking are two separate but related things

< Message edited by osf -- 1/6/2010 1:17:57 PM >

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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 1:30:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Agreed. Sexuality and fucking can be mutually exclusive. But how do either mesh with your idea of dominating? Do you not use either, in some fashion, to help bring about more eager submission?

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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 1:35:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Do You Remember BDSM?



I thought this was going to be a sneaky dig at those of us who haven't been tied up and flogged in almost a year now.

I think I still remember though, just about. It's hard to forget a rush like that.

And my housemate did tie me up on New Year's Eve when he wanted to watch The Oriental Nightfish for the 4th time and I wanted to go to bed. Most action I've had in ages...

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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 1:42:53 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero
Just give me bit longer. It'll come to me...


In your case, NZ, if you've forgotten, I'll give you a pass. 

While you're working on your memory, we can talk about that flash cotton in your pic.  I'm sure I could find a good home for it.  LOL.


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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 1:57:26 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

I don't know quite how to feel about this, but I kinda gotta go with osf on this. It was the relationship dynamic first and foremost that caught me by the imagination. Of course from there, things ran wild and I now have a bag full of random stuff that only someone with the perverse mind I have would ever really put together was a bag of bdsm toys. I don't have a whole lot of "real" toys. I have had to make my own fun for the most part. Then there was the whole shivering sensation at thinking of that very first time... top AND bottom... and how it might be and what might happen.

Fortunately for me, my imagination is a scary beast to let loose. It doesn't seem to ever stop with all the ideas, questions, fantasies, and more. I doubt it ever will. It also makes me a little prone to excessive anticipation and fear though. Balance and focus are key in this I think. But yeah, I think I've said it a few times. Why all the serious sallies and downer dougs? This is supposed to be FUN!!!! And it still is for me!

lovingpet


The great thing about topping and bottoming is that we all get to do it in the ways that make the experience the most for us.  Some only do it within the context of a dynamic.  When two people decide that is the best option for them, what fits them best, I'm all for that.  It even makes Me a bit happy on this side of these screen.  They found a compatibility that nobody can argue with.

In that dynamic, there are still (at least) two people who are enjoying this thing.  One is creating a sensation, the other is receiving it.  There is still a top and there is still a bottom.  Hopefully, whatever sensation is being given and received is something that they both want to share.  Maybe, it will even bring them closer together in their bond.  Maybe it's something that they have found that rocks their world in a way nothing else does.

But if that's the case, I can't be the only one out there who gets excited about it. 


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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 2:06:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Do you remember what it was about this thing, this BDSM, that brought you to where you are in your life today?  Do you remember what formed your preferences about play?  Your hard limits?  How you best soar?  That inner top or bottom in you.  The one who had something in this world of BDSM that took you someplace and reached you in a way that it never had before and it spoke to you so loudly that it's impossible to ignore.

Believe it or not, those things can be here.  Sure, there's a lot of white noise about the fakes, and the crap, and the outright bullshit, but it really is still here.  The thing is, you can't stop being excited about it.  If you do, it stops being fun and amazing, or wonderful and exciting. 

Do you want to lose that?



*grinz*  Quite the post Lady P  lol.

Let me answer your OP in this manner. I always remember all the things which drew me to this world of kink and all the temptations it holds as I am constantly reminded of it every single day. Each time I walk into a dollar store, Walmart or a hardware store, I see all the items which can and will be used as pervertables and my mind automatically wonders what the sensations it produces would feel against my skin. I read through many of my old journal entries since I first started out and prior to being a collared slave then comparing it to how I am today and I see the changes; sometimes painful and sometimes drastic, yet I keep exploring-experimenting and ultimately finding one who I need/want and desire as a partner and as my dominant.

Granted my first foray into BDSM was shaky and not the most wisest way of doing things yet I learned and found what was better for me and what wasn't. I remember and also get painfully reminded each and every time I talk with friends in this lifestyle and who I respect and look up to when they recount their experiences and I find myself wondering when my time will come? Yes I do remember what it is like when I submit to another and how I am physically/emotionally and mentally where I am supposed to be....where my place is and where I am meant to be.

Yes there is an influx of people here on CM that are 'fakes' or 'scammers' though in the end, the inane idiocy they throw put just reinforces my own commitment to be as honest with not only myself but with the people I interact with as I don't know if one of those I do interact with may be one who takes a special interest in what I have to offer.


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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 2:07:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sappatoti

Agreed. Sexuality and fucking can be mutually exclusive. But how do either mesh with your idea of dominating? Do you not use either, in some fashion, to help bring about more eager submission?


the eagerness/need is hers i just foster it and use it to my ends, yup i know sounds selfish, and wanna know what, it is

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RE: Do You Remember BDSM? - 1/6/2010 2:22:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you Lady Pact for a well written post.

There is so much for me to learn that i will be coming back and back. I am just fortunate to have found people who think somewhat like me and those who do stop me to ponder and stretch my mind.

As a whole CM is good and it would be sad to not focus on that...

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