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UniqueRaven -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:11:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

UR?,  I was going to disagree with you, but this proves your point. This is from dictionary.com

1.
profound dedication; consecration.

2.
earnest attachment to a cause, person, etc

3.

an assignment or appropriation to any purpose, cause, etc.: the devotion of one's wealth and time to scientific advancement

I copied all three, I think we can probably leave the third out..:

I always thought that only the first was devotion. Technically I am wrong. For me personally I would want the first.:)

Jeff


Yes, the feeling i have is very much like the second definition - but i would add that the first is very present as well - dedication, at least.  Not sure i know how to consecrate my Owner, but that's a different thread.

Really, the emotion of the second definition leads to the action of the first definition.  Does that make sense?




Icarys -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:13:17 PM)

Hell I know females that would devote a year of their time to me with not so much as a bit of love.

Loves got nothing to do with it.




wisdomtogive -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:15:06 PM)

My apologies, Prinsexx
My tired eyes read your OP wrong. If he wants to know how a submissive is devoted compared to easy submissive, i agree with the rest. He needs to know this and inform you.

To early for bed, and my mind is tired :(
blessings




Jeffff -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:15:06 PM)

Yeah I get it. It makes perfect sense.


I still think it is a bullshit thing to ask someone you just met though...:)


Jeff






UniqueRaven -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:16:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

Hell I know females would devote a year of their time to me with not so much as a bit of love.

Loves got noting to do with it.



i would agree with this.  There is a reason, however, that the devotion occurs - it could just be because you're a great guy and they enjoy spending time with you.  Or for those devoted to their job, the rewards that they gain from that devotion.

i should clarify that for me, in a relationship context, devotion does come from love.  It is a feeling.  And i'm fully at peace with the fact that the semantics are going to vary widely, as others have said.




littlewonder -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:17:17 PM)

I give devotion to Master for one simple reason...I love and care for him. It would be the same for anyone I care and love. I give them my love, my devotion, my time because that's what people do for each other who care and love each other.

Has nothing to do with d/s, nothing to do with bdsm, nothing to do with experience but everything to do with love and caring.




Icarys -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:21:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

Hell I know females would devote a year of their time to me with not so much as a bit of love.

Loves got noting to do with it.



i would agree with this.  There is a reason, however, that the devotion occurs - it could just be because you're a great guy and they enjoy spending time with you.  Or for those devoted to their job, the rewards that they gain from that devotion.

i should clarify that for me, in a relationship context, devotion does come from love.  It is a feeling.  And i'm fully at peace with the fact that the semantics are going to vary widely, as others have said.



For me as well. BTW you have the biggest most beautiful and peaceful eyes I've seen in awhile.

Slight derail....




theGuideGoddess -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:21:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

Hell I know females that would devote a year of their time to me with not so much as a bit of love.

Loves got nothing to do with it.


If you don't want their love then that is fine.....if you do.....you got a problem.




wisdomtogive -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:22:20 PM)

I love my cat and am very devoted to her, Some people i do not love in a romantic way and am very devoted to them as well. Devotion without attachments or conditions is a good thing.............




Icarys -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:22:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: theGuideGoddess

quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

Hell I know females that would devote a year of their time to me with not so much as a bit of love.

Loves got nothing to do with it.


If you don't want their love then that is fine.....if you do.....you got a problem.


Yeah I'd say so lol.




UniqueRaven -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:26:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

For me as well. BTW you have the biggest most beautiful and peaceful eyes I've seen in awhile.

Slight derail....



Thank you - maybe it comes from all the yoga.  [;)]




Icarys -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:28:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

For me as well. BTW you have the biggest most beautiful and peaceful eyes I've seen in awhile.

Slight derail....



Thank you - maybe it comes from all the yoga.  [;)]



Your welcome..Whatever it is..it's working [:D]




ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:32:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

I was recently told by a dominant that he did not want easy submission. He wanted devotion.
So my questions....
What responsibilities, what expertise, what experience does a dominant need to have in order to 'get' devotion?
When is it not devotion but easy submission?
What defines submission (easy or not) distinctly from devotion?



Hi, Prinsexx. Welcome back from wherever you've been.

For me, this is an easy question. For me, submission is how I express love, and devotion is a major component of how I express submission. If i love a woman, submission flows automatically from that, and devotion is a big part of how that manifests. Absent the love, there is no genuine submission (at least, not  any consistent, meaningful level), and anything approaching devotion is pretty difficult to muster.

By the way, the last time you were posting regularly, I said some pretty harsh things to you in one of your threads. I want to apologize for that. A lot of us obviously had pretty strong feelings in that thread, but i could have expressed mine more respectfully than I did. And i wish i had. I'm sorry. Welcome back.




Prinsexx -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:40:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lally2

maybe what he is referring to is the tendency for submission to occur simply because the sub wants to submit, the dom provides the right soil conditions for the sub to just sink into role and off they go. it has little to do with his influence on the sub atall, she is submitting to submission itself.

devotion suggests that the sub has gone through a mindful process where she is tuned into the dominant and is responding to him through that knowledge. it is relationship specific to them, entirely dependent on what works for them and isnt down to learned protocol, reactive responses, acquired preconceptions.

possibly.........

and hey there prin, smoochy hugs, good to see ya xxxx

Hi Lally...hugz bakatcha
you know you have helped.
There I was being my usual cynical..well-fuck-you self and yes I agree with you in part. Beautifully put.
I might even apologise to him (?).




Prinsexx -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:49:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ThatDamnedPanda

quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

I was recently told by a dominant that he did not want easy submission. He wanted devotion.
So my questions....
What responsibilities, what expertise, what experience does a dominant need to have in order to 'get' devotion?
When is it not devotion but easy submission?
What defines submission (easy or not) distinctly from devotion?



Hi, Prinsexx. Welcome back from wherever you've been.

For me, this is an easy question. For me, submission is how I express love, and devotion is a major component of how I express submission. If i love a woman, submission flows automatically from that, and devotion is a big part of how that manifests. Absent the love, there is no genuine submission (at least, not  any consistent, meaningful level), and anything approaching devotion is pretty difficult to muster.

By the way, the last time you were posting regularly, I said some pretty harsh things to you in one of your threads. I want to apologize for that. A lot of us obviously had pretty strong feelings in that thread, but i could have expressed mine more respectfully than I did. And i wish i had. I'm sorry. Welcome back.


I'm seeing how powerful submission is for you.
And as to the other stuff..t.hank you. It was the powerful opposition in that thread that helped me the most.




Icarys -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 6:55:19 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

maybe what he is referring to is the tendency for submission to occur simply because the sub wants to submit, the dom provides the right soil conditions for the sub to just sink into role and off they go. it has little to do with his influence on the sub atall, she is submitting to submission itself.

devotion suggests that the sub has gone through a mindful process where she is tuned into the dominant and is responding to him through that knowledge. it is relationship specific to them, entirely dependent on what works for them and isnt down to learned protocol, reactive responses, acquired preconceptions.

possibly.........

and hey there prin, smoochy hugs, good to see ya xxxx

Well put.




osf -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 7:04:35 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

maybe what he is referring to is the tendency for submission to occur simply because the sub wants to submit, the dom provides the right soil conditions for the sub to just sink into role and off they go. it has little to do with his influence on the sub atall, she is submitting to submission itself.

devotion suggests that the sub has gone through a mindful process where she is tuned into the dominant and is responding to him through that knowledge. it is relationship specific to them, entirely dependent on what works for them and isnt down to learned protocol, reactive responses, acquired preconceptions.

possibly.........

and hey there prin, smoochy hugs, good to see ya xxxx

Well put.



catalylist




Prinsexx -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 7:08:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: theGuideGoddess
 Devotion while overt is a definite emotional response involving loyalty and dedication.  Submission could happen without the same feelings.  Submission is to be humble or compliant, to submit to the control or authority of another. 
 
The Guiding Goddess

Thank you for this. I tend to agree.




osf -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 7:10:47 PM)

i think submissives are compelled toward submission by their own drives

so are doms




BitaTruble -> RE: Devotion? (1/2/2010 7:19:56 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

I was recently told by a dominant that he did not want easy submission. He wanted devotion.
So my questions....
What responsibilities, what expertise, what experience does a dominant need to have in order to 'get' devotion?
When is it not devotion but easy submission?
What defines submission (easy or not) distinctly from devotion?
Responses from both sides of the whip appreciated.
Prin



Happy New Year, Prin! Thank you for the thread. It sparked an interesting conversation between Himself and I and such is always appreciated. :)

My devotion and loyalty stems not from submission but from the love and respect that I have for him. I had no such devotion to Master A all those years ago nor loyalty to him although I was always obedient. When I first got involved in BDSM and a D/s dynamic, I was satisfied with simply scratching the itch for power exchange. Now that I've had a long drink of the whole package, I don't think I could go back to only having a quasi-relationship in which BDSM was the soul component of a dynamic in which I might become involved. Devotion and loyalty has made me greedy to 'always' have that devotion and loyalty in a relationship even though I'm well aware that, for me, it's something that comes with time and consistency. Himself has proved worthy of my devotion .. as I have proved worthy of his and it is one of the elements which makes something like poaching non-existent in our world.

I can submit and not feel devoted .. as was the case with Master A .. and I can be completely devoted to someone without any submission involved, but the two are holding hands in the relationship that I share with Himself and it is very fulfilling on a variety of levels .. much more so than if there was only one or the other.

Being devoted to him doesn't make the submission to his desires any harder nor does it make them any easier .. it's a side benefit that allows us to maximize longevity, continue to communicate under pretty much any circumstance and to believe we have a chance to grow even older together walking the same direction. So far, so good. :)




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