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RE: what is your concept of d/s? - 12/30/2009 8:49:16 AM

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I would want to jump becasue that is what would please my Dom, to me it would be that simple.

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RE: what is your concept of d/s? - 12/30/2009 9:11:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: osf

i'm not against adapting words to fit, but lets all use the same word the same

Unfortunately, this is a hard ideal to obtain. Everyone may know what the official (whoever may dictate that) definition of a word is, but different experiences will cause the word to mean something different to different people. The concept of happiness, for example, may mean a positive emotion derived from a feeling of contentment, but it can also simply be the absence of pain, fear, anger. Although understood to mean a positive emotion or state of mind, one person's happy will not be another person's happy.

As for the original question... Definitively, dominance and submission:

DOMINANCE: noun 1 power and influence over others.
SUBMISSION: (from verb, submit) 1 accept or yield to a superior force or stronger person. 2 subject to a particular process, treatment, or condition.

(from the Compact Oxford English Dictionary, 2009)

The everyday person, though, is not very likely to admit that they are submitting to some dominant power when they succumb to advertisements, marketing schemes, political manipulation, etc.

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and i don't think you'll find any associated kink mentioned and that's the way i use them

Clearly, this is true, but it's also fairly certain that asking a D/s community about what D/s means is going to get a certain, structured answer. Why on earth would you ask the community what its concept of D/s is, then criticize it for thinking too narrowly about it?

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RE: what is your concept of d/s? - 12/30/2009 9:12:41 AM

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i'm curious about the many concepts of what d/s is

My concept is that each person lives his/her life as he/she wishes. As to what concepts I have with my own life, sorry, but I'm too busy having fun and living to take the time to figure out concepts. I guess it works without a formal concept.

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RE: what is your concept of d/s? - 12/30/2009 9:17:39 AM

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i'm not intentionally criticizing , just stating my position

if there is a common definition of a word/concept and mine is different then it is i that should bring mine into agreement with the common

i'm just trying to find what that is

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RE: what is your concept of d/s? - 12/30/2009 9:20:32 AM

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ORIGINAL: osf

i'm not intentionally criticizing , just stating my position

if there is a common definition of a word/concept and mine is different then it is i that should bring mine into agreement with the common

i'm just trying to find what that is

None of that really matters in the long run...matching your words and definitions to that of a group. It's probably impossible to do.
The only thing that really matters is that you and whomever you are entering into a relationship with are on the same page.

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RE: what is your concept of d/s? - 12/30/2009 9:22:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

i'm not intentionally criticizing , just stating my position

if there is a common definition of a word/concept and mine is different then it is i that should bring mine into agreement with the common

i'm just trying to find what that is

None of that really matters in the long run...matching your words and definitions to that of a group. It's probably impossible to do.
The only thing that really matters is that you and whomever you are entering into a relationship with are on the same page.

that's true

but i like the mental exercise

i enjoy finding different angles to see things

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RE: what is your concept of d/s? - 12/30/2009 9:23:26 AM

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We have been informed you dismiss the provenance of total power exchange or TPE; so....we are understandably doubtful that the etymology of d/s is going to be acceptable.

just sayin.

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RE: what is your concept of d/s? - 12/31/2009 11:30:33 AM

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Simple...
He dominates....
I submit.
I mean honestly...that's all there really is to it.
He leads, I follow.

Yup, that about corresponds to what I think, especially the part I bolded. In the end, it's not that complex.

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RE: what is your concept of d/s? - 12/31/2009 11:39:52 AM

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D is one role; s is the other. If we both play them well, there is something wonderful for each of us.

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