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It's just a compliment - 12/28/2009 5:09:55 PM

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In real life, and online, I compliment people if I like a certain thing about them. It can be anything - shoes, clothes, their smile, a certain hair-do. I like to compliment people, because I always feel really good about myself when someone compliments me, so why not 'share the love'?

I've noticed recently that men that I compliment have taken it as a come on.
I complimented the gas station attendant on his shirt (it was a joke, it's a uniform and I've seen it before and yellow is my fav color) and he laughed and made a joke back, and then asked if I 'had a man'. Yes I do, but he's still rockin the yellow.
A guy at another gas station at the pump had a Jeep exactly like mine, and I struck up a convo about how nice his looked compared to mine, and he offered to come over and help me work on it. Joke or not, that was creepy.
I sent a quick email to a guy on CM and told him I liked his jaw line and he wrote back saying 'Too bad you're so far away, or I guess it's only a three hour drive.'
I also complimented an older man on his profile and he wrote back asking if I'd ever wanted to submit to let him know. That question kind of weirded me out, and didn't really fit with the personality his profile had projected.

When I compliment women they never see it as a pick up or something. Or if they do, they aren't obvious about it. 'Thanks' 'You too' or 'Well I love your shoes!' is usually what I hear.

So why do men see a woman talking to them as a come on? It kind of makes me wonder if they're desperate and they think anything a female says to them must mean she's interested. Although I kind of like the idea that they think I'm so damn cool that they want to know more about me :P

Most importantly, I've run into lots of males into BDSM who take a compliment or a joke as me expressing interest in them. It just might be me, but why is the concentration so high in the kink world?

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RE: It's just a compliment - 12/28/2009 5:31:46 PM

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i dont think it is concentrated in the kink world.

but it does seem to be concentrated around petrol stations

i have to be so damn careful what i say to the guy on the checkout because he ends up embarrassing himself and the guy next to him with lewd comments about my bum - he cant seem to help himself. maybe its the petrol fumes.

walking my dog the other day i just smiled and said 'hi' to a guy walking past, just being friendly and he went all bashful and hid under his hat.

its a guy thing definitely - why i dont know, hopefully some guys can explain this.

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RE: It's just a compliment - 12/28/2009 5:36:22 PM

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It might help if you post pics of said "bum".

Probably a lot of the guys are desperate. Or horny. Or maybe they just feel a bit down, and the compliment brings up their confidence a tad.

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RE: It's just a compliment - 12/28/2009 5:49:45 PM

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I dunno about gas stations...but if I were unattached and a woman complimented me on CM, I'd certainly take it as a sign she might be interested. An easy way to break the ice without being too overt.

I realize potential relationships are just one reason to be here, but I suspect it's a prime consideration for many male Dominants.

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RE: It's just a compliment - 12/28/2009 6:24:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirJohnMandevill

I dunno about gas stations...but if I were unattached and a woman complimented me on CM, I'd certainly take it as a sign she might be interested. An easy way to break the ice without being too overt.

I realize potential relationships are just one reason to be here, but I suspect it's a prime consideration for many male Dominants.

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RE: It's just a compliment - 12/28/2009 6:25:31 PM

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I cant count how many times I've cmailed someone a compliment (nice hair, great profile, whatever), and gotten a reply to the effect of "yeah, thanks" (which sounds a bit arrogant in the not good way though I admit I just may have read into it in some cases). That is most often followed by "so, what are you looking for" or similar.

WTF...

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RE: It's just a compliment - 12/28/2009 6:29:53 PM

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In real life, and online, I compliment people if I like a certain thing about them. It can be anything - shoes, clothes, their smile, a certain hair-do. I like to compliment people, because I always feel really good about myself when someone compliments me, so why not 'share the love'?

I feel the same way! We should always be nice to each other, or as nice as we can possibly be. Then again, I'm also a real smartass! But it's all in good fun, though, I suppose I should be nicer. I called someone an idiot on here not too long ago. Ok, I'm very sleepy, I think I should go lay down after all. 2 glasses of cab isn't helping either. Night! But really was glad to hear that someone else likes to give people compliments, knowing that it makes people feel so good!

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