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ORIGINAL: lally2

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ORIGINAL: osf

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ORIGINAL: lally2

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I've had a lot of submissive personality type of men become interested in me but can't say I"ve ever gone out with anyone. It was obvious from the start they weren't my type and we'd be incompatible.

in my defence i had no idea about any of this and he was zany enough for me to find intreaguing. he was a rebel in lots of ways and totally his own person in others, but looking back he was either switch or s'type. whichever, he was in a turmoil with it all.

sometimes it's just you have a cunt and they have a need

go on, lower the tone why dont you - tsk!!

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i think one of my relationships was with a male sub. he used to wake me up by licking my feet every morning -
he used to get all 'melty' and puppydog eyes whenever he saw me, kinda nauseatingly love struck.
his emotions were all over the damn place half the time, i think maybe cos he really was having a problem with his orientation towards women.

wow.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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i think one of my relationships was with a male sub. he used to wake me up by licking my feet every morning -
he used to get all 'melty' and puppydog eyes whenever he saw me, kinda nauseatingly love struck.
his emotions were all over the damn place half the time, i think maybe cos he really was having a problem with his orientation towards women.

wow.

Wow is right! I never ever dated a male sub that matched that description even remotely!

- LA

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ORIGINAL: lally2

so here comes the question, ...... have any strong female sub types here attracted male sub types and if so were you aware of it at the time or only on looking back, like i am right now -.

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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

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ORIGINAL: lally2

so here comes the question, ...... have any strong female sub types here attracted male sub types and if so were you aware of it at the time or only on looking back, like i am right now -.

Eh... story of my life. Sexually, it's something I've adapted to, to the point of enjoying it. At the more emotional/relationship level it's been a serious problem for me. I've known some really high quality guys whose near-blatant desire to submit to my will in a larger sense was an absolute deal breaker. Like, the penis might as well just shrivel up and fall off, so quickly has the manifestation of such a desire turned me off. As I've gotten older, I've grown more comfortable with my inherent dominant streak. And I'm exploring how to deal with it, because I've pretty much concluded that suppression of it is unhealthy.

From my current (and evolving) perspective, submission remains the apex of intimacy. But thinking about long term prospects, I think I'd do best with a nice Switch, or a Dom in a poly set up where I get to have a boy toy. Really... as long as I can get away with effecting the formation of handsome young men in their mid 20s, I'm gonna do it. It's very enjoyable and satisfying, but it's not the most intimate to me, because, well, I'm in charge. That probably doesn't make much sense. But there it is. :)

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ORIGINAL: MissJennMB

I started out as a submissive and I did really enjoy some of the experiences, but every time I turned around I had another sub wanting me to top them.  I even had a 'dom' collar me (online, spent 1 weekend with him in RL) and then have me find 'us' a slave, and run off, leaving her begging me to be her Mistress.  I stayed with her a year, and have never sub'd to anyone since.  That was 9 years ago.  I guess in my case I'm pleased that people saw me for who I was, on the inside, even when I was trying to fill the role I mistakenly thought I was meant to fill. 

Miss Jenn

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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

Lally, Yes
My first Dom was always submissive till he met me. i do not have it in me to be a Domme, so he switched for me. We both went in this with that knowing. I think the intensity and energy shared before we even started to play was enough for it to begin.

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ORIGINAL: kdsub

I'm just attracted to some women...it makes no difference to me if they are domme or submissive...now it does to them of course but that is out of my hands....I just love people....even if it seems otherwise at times.

Butch

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i have a 'kink' in my kink, where if i think .....

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ORIGINAL: lally2

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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

Lally, Yes
My first Dom was always submissive till he met me. i do not have it in me to be a Domme, so he switched for me. We both went in this with that knowing. I think the intensity and energy shared before we even started to play was enough for it to begin.

hi

yes i remember you telling me that now. maybe that was his problem all along. feeling at odds with himself and unable in the end to give you the guidance and focus you needed from him.

i can relate to that a little. whatever it is that drives D's to be and do what they do comes from something within them that subs dont generally have. therefore to try and be D when youre natural orientation is to sub is drawing something out of youreself that isnt normally there. you can contrive for a while but not forever.

anyway youre now happy and thats so great. two weeks and counting?

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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

Yes lally he did struggle for a bit, but as of today, he hasn't switch back to being a submissive either. life is interesting to say the least. i hope your day is promising and the woods inspiring...i want to visit your woods:)

id love to show you my wood too, specially during the blue bell season

A little over 2 weeks and needliless to say i am so excited:)

i am too - its wierd, im so excited for you... big smoochy hugs. xxxx

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ORIGINAL: lally2
i think one of my relationships was with a male sub. he used to wake me up by licking my feet every morning -
he used to get all 'melty' and puppydog eyes whenever he saw me, kinda nauseatingly love struck.

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I have had a couple of sub types in my life long before I knew what I did was kinky. Puppy dog eyes, willingness to do anything for me at the drop of a pin, ect.. I found it very endearing.. in a friendly sort of way. I never could get into the idea of parting my legs or lips to them so they always stayed in the friend catagory no matter how hard they tried for more. I could not bring it in me to hurt them though it never occured to me I might be hurting them to allow them to believe they had a chance with me.
Since finding out this stuff I have always done is kinky, more male subs have wandered my way. But I tend to believe it is not so much attraction as the desire to get their needs met by anyone who will.

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ORIGINAL: lally2
i think one of my relationships was with a male sub. he used to wake me up by licking my feet every morning -
he used to get all 'melty' and puppydog eyes whenever he saw me, kinda nauseatingly love struck.