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RE: Intiation - 3/19/2006 10:45:35 AM

ExistentialSteel

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ORIGINAL: ExistentialSteel

Dincubus, I'm not clear from your post if this gang ownership is current or is this something from her past that bothers you?

it is something in her past that bugs the hell out of me. she does live local to me, we have had a relationship vanilla before it grew into BDSM

That is what I thought and it is a classic problem many have. The older you get the easier it is to not let the history of someone bother you. Life has to start when you two meet. All the dramatics aside about gangs, what this is about is your indecision because of things she did in the past. She has changed from what you say. Many have done stupid things and changed when they found someone who cared for them. Ask yourself if you believe she will be loyal with you and start to look at things in a new way. I’m not saying forget her past because it is a fact, but give her the benefit of the doubt that she is starting over. You will know if she isn’t soon enough. I truly wish both of you luck.

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RE: Intiation - 3/19/2006 10:47:39 AM

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If this is something in her past, it is exactly that the past. We all have pasts and it will effect you only, as much as you allow it to. Now, if she is still running around "banging" then she should be dumped because she is still gang affiliated, which could prove to be a fatal mistake.

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RE: Intiation - 3/19/2006 12:54:28 PM

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Deleted because I should read full threads before I post. Apoligies.

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RE: Intiation - 3/19/2006 1:11:42 PM

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She still involved in the gang? Dunno much about gangs, always steered clear myself.. always thought they were an unproffesional version of the mafia and if i'm gonna do something, i'm gonna do it right = ) Plus when they were in my neighborhood growing up, i could never remember which colours were for which gangs (ever walked into a neighborhood with the WRONG colour) and WAY too many too choose from!

All half joking aside. From what i know once you're in, your in for life. Another poster said they take serious offense to you messing with a member. Gots to remember that gangs are in a messed up way a family.

If i were you and its said its in the past. i'd make damn well sure it WAS in the past. Keep a close eye on that one. Check out the friends, the activities. Lack of trust maybe, but i'd view it as a past "addiction" something that i'd need to keep an eye on to make sure they had control of it. If everything checked out.. no more affiliations at all.. ect ect.. i'd put it in the past. Then check out the person with half opened eyes to watch body language, attitude, moral code, thinking pattern, ect to make sure the person that was in the gang is long gone from the person i am with now.

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RE: Intiation - 3/19/2006 3:28:32 PM

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So you're saying that she WAS in a gang, not IS in a gang, right? In that case I'd want to know the complete story and I'd want to be VERY sure that there are no ties or affiliations left. If there are, then run don't walk to the nearest exit and bail out. You don't need and probably don't want to get mixed up with some chick that's a gangbanger. Not unless you have a death wish.

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