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inconsiderate Dommes - 3/19/2006 12:45:32 AM   
liks2plzlf


Posts: 390
Joined: 7/21/2005
Status: offline 		I constantly read posts of dominants complaining about subs sending one liners or failing to show for a meeting. I have written to several with several paragraphs revealing what I hope for and what I will settle for, and never even get a "not interested" reply. It would be nice to know the message was received and that the profile's are real. It seems to me there are just as many inconsiderate dominants as there are subs
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RE: inconsiderate Dommes - 3/19/2006 1:17:29 AM   
upherass


Posts: 31
Joined: 9/30/2005
Status: offline 		Sadly, there are more fems than men here...and being that there are so many male sub, and so few Domme's, you're in for a difficult time at best.

They can afford to be choosey...so make sure you stand out, have something to offer.

That said, there is never an excuse for rudeness.
Inconsideration here, doesn't have a gender, or title.

In my profile, I state that I won't answer certain types of mail, so if someone doesn't hear back form me, they can examine their own words.
Cause normally, even if not interested, or the distance is too far, I will send a "thanks but no thanks, and good luck" reply.

Good luck to you, liks.


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RE: inconsiderate Dommes - 3/19/2006 5:17:19 AM   
QueenKimberlie


Posts: 13
Joined: 1/1/2006
Status: offline 		I always apply to ones that send me mail one way or another some guys want different things then I am into so then I send them mail saying sorry I dont do that
And I reply to rude ones before I block them

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RE: inconsiderate Dommes - 3/19/2006 5:24:37 AM   
LadyShoshin


Posts: 492
Joined: 7/19/2004
From: Burlington, Ontario
Status: offline 		Surprise! Dommes are human! There are good ones, bad ones, indifferent ones, fake ones, disorganized ones, extremely busy ones and even rude ones, just like the rest of humanity.

In the best of all worlds everyone would be polite and considerate, in the best of all worlds I wouldn't get mail here that starts "My God....you are hidious...horrible...take that picture down, shit take the whole profile down.if my dogs face was like that.i would shave its ass and make it walk backwards" or 'Note: This user has no profile' "how may i serve Mistress " The list of frustrating types of email contacts goes on and on.

People will be people, good, bad or indifferent, how we choose to react to that is up to us.




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ORIGINAL: liks2plzlf

I constantly read posts of dominants complaining about subs sending one liners or failing to show for a meeting. I have written to several with several paragraphs revealing what I hope for and what I will settle for, and never even get a "not interested" reply. It would be nice to know the message was received and that the profile's are real. It seems to me there are just as many inconsiderate dominants as there are subs



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RE: inconsiderate Dommes - 3/19/2006 5:26:06 AM   
scratchingpost


Posts: 231
Joined: 11/16/2005
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there is never a good time to be rude. dom or sub. i do my best to answer as many as i can sometimes its easier than others. i do clearly state in the profile i am only accepting males for pro work and looking for a personal female so if they choose to want something i already said no to and i dont reply well its only because they didnt read what i said in the first place. if they are polite to me i generally answer back politely one way or the other. i believe in community and respect to all who deserve it

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RE: inconsiderate Dommes - 3/19/2006 5:41:51 AM   
artglfr


Posts: 235
Joined: 4/8/2005
Status: offline 		It is unfortunate you replied to Dommes who failed to reply back. These Ladies often recieve over 100 posts per day, perhaps they wil still reply but yours hasn't come up yet. If interested , go to read mail and look at sent mail and it will show if you have been read yet.

If you capitalized your posts to them the same as your Profile they may feel you are a bit self centered or unknowing or rude because the only personal capitaization was "I". Dominant Women(notice capitalization) notice when They(capitalization again, hint :-) )are referred to as "dominant woman" "female" in the World most Dommes I know live in there are NO "dominant women" or "females" but many Awesome and Wonderful Dominant Women and Females. A polite "Ma'am" thrown in occaisionally may also help get you noticed.

Keep trying but remember you have to be more than Polite these Ladies do NOT owe you anything. They did Not ask you to reply but I am certain if you Capitalize Everyrthing having to do with Them you will have a much better chance. Proofread, proofread, proofread.

Good luck.

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RE: inconsiderate Dommes - 3/19/2006 5:51:18 AM   
MHOO314


Posts: 3628
Joined: 9/26/2004
Status: offline 		As long as there are people, there are variations on a theme--after all, we walk into a stadium filled with chatting, laughing people and don't expect all of them to acknowledge us---

Please don't use a label, as LadyShoshin said, it can be said of submissives as well--it is a fact of humanity---and it is more frustrating when it is something we want--I personally respond to every email I get, it may take Me a few days, but I at least acknowledge them.

So if patience is a virture, here it is a skill set--<smiles> good luck and Welcome to CM and the boards.

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RE: inconsiderate Dommes - 3/19/2006 8:28:57 AM   
GoddessDustyGold


Posts: 2822
Joined: 4/11/2004
From: Arizona
Status: offline 		I am not sure who you are writing to. Perhaps you might take a look at the the profile pattern you are attracted to for a possible answer.
I would respond to you, provided you appeared to have put some thought and sincerity into your introductory letter. Your profile is short but nicely written and sincere. You even have a photo posted!
I respond to most email. The ones I don't are just the typical one liners.
I see you joined the site last July, but this is your first post. Have you at least been reading the message boards, if not participating? There is lots of great information and discussion here on this side. Here's a hint...It is true and fair to say that your value increases exponentially with the Dominas who post on these boards, with every *intelligent and respectful* (whether you agree or disagree!) post you make.
So welcome, and I hope you choose to hang around and join in.

**edited to add: on this site you can see when an email has been read. If not read, *shrug*...if read and no reply, move on.

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 3/19/2006 9:01:35 AM >

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RE: inconsiderate Dommes - 3/19/2006 8:47:48 AM   
upherass


Posts: 31
Joined: 9/30/2005
Status: offline 		Correction:
More men than fems here.
I wrote that backwards, in the middle of the night.

Sorry!

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RE: inconsiderate Dommes - 3/19/2006 8:59:25 AM   
justatoy2


Posts: 163
Joined: 6/20/2005
Status: offline 		i don't understand why so many people get so upset about the whole not responding to an intitial email. I don't respond to every email i get. There is no way i could possibly respond to every one. I don't think the men on here realize sometimes the sheer volume that alot of women get. Especially for a fem dom. Heck im not even a fem dom and i must get 10-20 letters a day asking if someone can serve me. Lets be realisitic. I don't consider it to be rude. Especially when there have been times i have responded with a very kind no thank you, and then proceded to be blasted as not a real submissive because i rejected them. You can't win. I respond to emails that either interest me or i have time to answer. Some will see that as bad manners, i see it as practical.

< Message edited by justatoy2 -- 3/19/2006 9:00:33 AM >

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RE: inconsiderate Dommes - 3/19/2006 9:36:30 AM   
KarbonCopy


Posts: 779
Status: offline 		what I dont understand is why people have this attitude that the Dommes dont owe us anything.

we dont owe them anything more than they owe us.

They're here too.


Its nou like you're applying for a job. You're looking for a partner.

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RE: inconsiderate Dommes - 3/21/2006 8:14:03 AM   
Driver1961


Posts: 459
Joined: 9/8/2005
Status: offline 		He enters, dips His lid to ALL...........

Like how childish some of the replies are here,  Really.. you have numerous emails and can't work out who is worthy of replying to?...........
To those 'applicable' Dommes posted or too frightened to post  here..............   You class yourself as a Dominant?   You are looking for your "Precious" yet because of numerous replies you choose to be that selective to not reply to most even if they have not offended you?    You do expect your Slave/submissive to represent you correctly?   The least you can do is represent yourself correctly...  Is this not the point of the oringinal OP?..............He has  a disenchantment with genuine approaches made to Doms? 

Mate, accept that too many of the Dommes here consider themselves above giving the respect they expect you to reflect upon their play/collaring to you.   Are they experienced?  Maybe they are,   with thrashing, abuse and limited (very limited) dynamic connection. 

A diamond in the 'rough' is to be polished to perfection- that is their repsonsibility!   Every Dom/me has different expectations (numerous threads indicate this) yet they refuse to acknowl;edcge approaches politely?    Ask yourself- is that what you wish for?   Too many female subs complain of Male Doms not giving them they respect they believe they deserve-  why set yourself up for this also- partic when Dommes appear to be willing to justify their lack of respect to others.   A ying/yang dynamic is clearly not evident here- humiliation, thru duality of D/s or M/s begins at this stage.   Move on to Ladies (yes One's with civility are ladies) and be lucky rather than sad that you have exposed by their inaction/lack of civility as being their lack of worthiness to submit to.  

Well thanks for the rant- I'll come back here in coupla days to see who justifys their holes in their woodwork!

Warm regards and best wishes in your search,


Driver1961,   Sir to His Wild Child  (redheadedfire4u)

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