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RE: Question of the Day - 12/17/2009 4:29:21 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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ORIGINAL: subtee

Oh yay oh yay! Whereas the party of the first part, herein the “punishee,” does verily earn and has previously abrogated rights to the party of the second part, herein “mean bastard,” a punitive and edifying “action” or series of actions deemed by mean bastard to be the stiffest penal offense of serious impacts and lingual francas he may imprimpataur on the punishee’s person no matter their ex parte nature and hurtyness.


LOL!!! 


OP: Punishment is not necessary to a good, fulfilling D/s dynamic. If you want to do "funishment" you don't need a reason other than the two partners wanting it in the relationship. But true punishment should not be necessary if you have an obedient servant, common goals, and clear communication.

In summation:

Funishment= YUMMY!

Punishment= not necessary

< Message edited by dreamerdreaming -- 12/17/2009 4:40:43 PM >

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RE: Question of the Day - 12/17/2009 7:13:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you have open communication and are well matched, punishment shouldn't be necessary. Figuring out what went wrong and finding a way to solve it so it doesn't happen again should be the goal, not the top getting to indulge his sadism without regard for how the bottom feels.

Lets say you order her to cook a complicated chicken dish and she's barely able to boil water. No matter how badly she's beaten, she still doesn't have the skill to do this level of cooking. The solution here is to teach her better cooking skills. Through cookbooks, through classes, through hands on doing it step at a time as you explain each step and repeat them as many times as necessary until she gets it. Beating her badly will not magically give her the needed skills, it will however give her an aversion to doing anything in the kitchen when she knows you're setting her up to fail.

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RE: Question of the Day - 12/17/2009 10:02:16 PM   
onlyfreelycaged


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Status: offline 		I know for me, it helps. It adjusts my headspace, and stops me from beating my self up over an issue again and again... it only works if it's physical. but no yelling. I don't like it, and it's not productive.

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RE: Question of the Day - 12/17/2009 10:06:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Master and i talked in the very beginning of Our relationship and He decided that since He enjoys spanking, beating, flogging, etc, and i enjoy receiving it, that He would just do that whenever He felt like it. Not because of a punishment. 

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RE: Question of the Day - 12/17/2009 10:11:05 PM   
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I like being able to sit...

You can always sit, it's just a matter of how many pillows you need.
A very wise sub said that on another thread

As to the OP, I think Merc nailed it pretty well.


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RE: Question of the Day - 12/18/2009 12:10:27 AM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

Sadists of the world, unite! 


Evidently you already have. At least I know he is currently snoozing and therefore not planning my destruction.

quote:


You can always sit, it's just a matter of how many pillows you need.
A very wise sub said that on another thread

Owww.... I hate being hoisted by my own petard. It always gives me a wedgie.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 12/18/2009 12:12:14 AM >

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RE: Question of the Day - 12/18/2009 12:48:45 AM   
WyldHrt


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quote:

Owww.... I hate being hoisted by my own petard. It always gives me a wedgie.

*smooches* I wouldn't play wedgie games if I didn't lubs ya!


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RE: Question of the Day - 12/18/2009 12:55:55 AM   
AquaticSub


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RE: Question of the Day - 12/18/2009 12:59:45 AM   
WyldHrt


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Status: offline 		*psst* That's me over there behind the video camera... and really, isn't that "up the ass" the point of a thong?

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RE: Question of the Day - 12/18/2009 1:01:01 AM   
AquaticSub


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And if you start selling videos of me again I want a cut this time. I need some new shoes.

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RE: Question of the Day - 12/18/2009 1:23:20 AM   
WyldHrt


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RE: Question of the Day - 12/18/2009 2:21:15 AM   
AquaticSub


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(Athough that new pic is delish... I could probably juggle two with the proper incentive! )

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RE: Question of the Day - 12/18/2009 3:42:57 AM   
antipode


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general question for opinions, not a research in past posts


The point was that those opinions are out there, they don't change. The other answer to your question would be "depends". It is highly personal, and as such not a question that can be answered, there isn't a rulebook...

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RE: Question of the Day - 12/18/2009 5:03:55 AM   
SirJ40


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Status: offline 		Ideally, true punishment won't ever be required.
And it wouldn't be physical (or "fun") if it were.. it would have to be mental, I believe, to really make an impression.
Now "funishment".. that's something many of us look forward to.


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