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Acer49 -> RE: Bloody drama (12/13/2009 12:11:35 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Elisabella
Why are these boards so filled with bloody drama?
I don't mean drama between two posters, that's normal, I mean drama as in an OP posting some bilge along the lines of "OMG I QUESTIONED MY MASTER RIGHT BEFORE HE LEFT AND HE DIDNT SAY ANYTHING BUT NOW HES DRIVING HOME AND I CALLED HIS PHONE 10000 TIMES TO SEE IF HES MAD AT ME BUT HES NOT ANSWERING AND IT MIGHT BE BECAUSE HES DRIVING BUT IM PRETTY SURE ITS BECAUSE HES MAD AT ME AND I FEEL SO UNSUBLIKE FOR QUESTIONING HIM AND NOW MAYBE IM BEING MORE UNSUBLIKE FOR CALLING HIM SO MUCH AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO"
This post is generally followed by another one an hour later that says something along the lines of "Master told me he didn't answer because he was on the expressway and didn't want to crash and die, and he calmly reassured me that I did nothing wrong and that he loves me and I'm beautiful and wonderful and I feel so stupid but he's so wonderful and he always puts up with me and I love my Master soooooooooooooooooooo much <3<3<3<456789<0"
Seriously wtf. I have never, ever heard any of my vanilla friends freak out over a relationship like this. Oh sure they do the "he hasn't called in 2 days is he busy or is he avoiding me" thing but then they laugh and shrug it off, they never finish up with "he's so great I'm so stupid" so is there a reason these bitches have to freaking overthink everything and wonder if their actions make them "unsublike" (WTF is that? if you're a submissive in a relationship you are by default sublike)
In other words why is it all the hyperdramatic chicks are femsubs?
There are people, both male and female, who are attempting to enter into this lifestyle, to become involved in relationships who don't have their head together and who are under the misconception that their partner can "fix them" or that a relationship will solve their previous problems.
There are alot of people who have self esteem, self worth issues and I am assume there are alot more. If you can't look yourself in the mirror and tell the person who is staring back at you " Damn, I'm good and anyone would be lucky to have me" Then you need to talk to a professional and get your issues resolved, you partner should not be expected to deal with that, not because they are not willing or dont care enough, but because they do not have the knowledge or the training to do so. Your partner is not here to "complete you" or "make you feel whole" That is your job.
It seems to be comming a trend, people will come and post things like " Is it ok if I am soft and tender instead of hard" I am sorry, this is not dominate or submit by commitee? Instead of asking people who don't have the slightest idea about your situation, Go ask that person in the mirror. They are the only ones who truly know. Instead of wasting countless hours in these forums, go talk to your partner and start making decisions that will make you and your partner happy instread trying to get the approval of people in these forums. They are going to tell you what works for them, that does not mean it will work for you. Despite what some people seem to think, there is more than one way to do things, The only rule is to make make each other happy, not win the approval of other dominants, subs or whatever title you wish to be known by.
For those who have issues with things such as add, adhd, bi polar and whatever other mental issues that there are, need to have their medications working before attempting to enter a relationship. It is no fair and totally selfish to place your partner in that position of having to try to deal with something they are not trained to do, no matter how much they's love to try. Do not misunderstand I am not saying that because of your physical or mental issues, you are not entitled to have a partner or to seek fulfillment in whatever your needs are. You have an obligation to your partner to come into a relationship and give 110% and you can't do that if your head is not where it needs to be.
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