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First experiences... - 12/7/2009 4:15:29 PM   
MasterMagnus321


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I have only come here seeking knowledge; things they would not teach me of in college... 
So please, I beg of you, share with all of U/us your first experience, so we all may live and learn together through each other's acts and subsequent reflections.  Thank you.

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RE: First experiences... - 12/7/2009 4:29:55 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		Are you asking BDSM experience or about the 1st time you are collared?

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RE: First experiences... - 12/7/2009 5:11:05 PM   
Hawkwindblues


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quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone


quote:

or about the 1st time you are collared?


Breatheasone,

judging by his name, i would not think he was collared or is striving to.

....
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RE: First experiences... - 12/7/2009 5:15:42 PM   
Hawkwindblues


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Status: offline 		Nice start of the post MM.

My first experience, would be as a leadress (is there an english word for a female leader or have i to stay with leader?) of the one of the 2 village Ums groups.

As the leader i had to show that i could endure pain better and with a smiling face, still talking, than the 2 boys who tried to rob me of my hard earned position.

And later on we catched often the boys from the other gang and had to tie them to trees, to get certain items back or something else the other group had stolen from us.

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RE: First experiences... - 12/7/2009 5:29:25 PM   
breatheasone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hawkwindblues


quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone


quote:

or about the 1st time you are collared?


Breatheasone,

judging by his name, i would not think he was collared or is striving to.

....
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< Message edited by breatheasone -- 12/7/2009 5:31:48 PM >

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RE: First experiences... - 12/7/2009 5:39:06 PM   
Hawkwindblues


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Status: offline 		OH breathasone,

i had hoped you notice that it is me and get the joke:-)...

Anyway i hope all is good.

But,

i really love your seriousness.
PS

You got mail on the other side.

< Message edited by Hawkwindblues -- 12/7/2009 5:42:33 PM >

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RE: First experiences... - 12/7/2009 5:40:45 PM   
Wolf2Bear


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Status: offline 		Can you please clarify what you want, I had many firsts over the years?

My first affair with a married man?
My first plunge into BDSM?
My first experience as a slave?
My first experience mentoring another?



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RE: First experiences... - 12/7/2009 5:42:29 PM   
breatheasone


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ORIGINAL: Hawkwindblues

OH breathasone,

i had hoped you notice that it is me and get the joke:-)...

Anyway i hope all is good.

But,

i really love your seriousness.


got me! LMAO


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RE: First experiences... - 12/7/2009 5:45:53 PM   
Hawkwindblues


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Status: offline 		I do not know about MM,

but i would really like to hear some of your starting stories, because i have the impression you belong like me to the leatherfolk.

So i choose b) and d).

If you would like to share.


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RE: First experiences... - 12/7/2009 6:24:28 PM   
sinandhoney


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Status: offline 		My first experiance with bdsm was a spanking from an ex-girlfriend. My first scene was at a play party, I was tied to a wooden scaffold and blind folded. I was then flogged then low and behold the Dom I was playing with was standing in front of me wispering in my ear, I was still being flogged and someone else was running nails up and down my thighs. I was being told that a line had formed and everyone was watching me, then I was being flogged and whipped on my back, him still in my ear telling me he was going to cut off my clothes did I know how many people where working me over. Telling me the line was getting longer and so on and so forth. I was able to figure out 2 of the people, assuming that one was the Doms submissive who will sometimes Top in a scene and I knew the person in front was a Domme I had talked to earlier because she stuck my face in her tits and she was the only one wearing a leather vest. It was 2 months before they would tell me who the other Domme was. It was great!!

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RE: First experiences... - 12/8/2009 5:17:02 AM   
Elizabeth666


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Status: offline 		My first expereince, real experience, was with Sir.

I won't go into all the details, but it was fun. I was tied up while standing, my arms tied in front of me and one leg tied up behind me. There was a crop (which was lightly used) a flogger and a pinwheel thing. It was a very light scene, with those insturments and His fingers. We had spoken about limits earlier on, but He was experimenting, as was I since I was new and had never experienced anything like that before. It was great, onr of my favorite times with Him.

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RE: First experiences... - 12/9/2009 11:01:06 AM   
TimrehIX


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Status: offline 		My first flirtation with BDSM was many years ago. I was on the couch with my boyfriend and we had been talking about master slave play. He expressed interest in being a master and I said that for one night I would be his slave anything he wanted I would do. 

He stood up and told me to kneel in front of him. I did. I remember looking up at him as he towered above me; he looked down at me and uttered the words I will remember for the rest of my life. “Um… Can I have a blow job?.” 

I also have a record of my first simi - successful foray in to BDSM. But it’s very graphic so I am not sure if it would be appropriate.

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RE: First experiences... - 12/9/2009 11:35:34 AM   
HisSweetElysium


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Status: offline 		At 19 I met an older man at a party and we ended up in a private room, kissing and such.  Without any preamble, he flipped me over his knee and started spanking me. I was shocked, horrified, confused, and very turned on!  ;) This went on to be my first BDSM relationship. I wish he had talked to me more about it all though, given the age difference I just followed him through most of the experiences, there was no processing, debriefing etc.  I ended up getting really attached, and when he moved across the country, I was really confused...

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RE: First experiences... - 12/9/2009 12:03:25 PM   
MsMillgrove


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Status: offline 		Gosh all these late starters.

I began my serious career in kink around age 8. A voracious reader and movie goer, and an only child, I had a very active imagination. In these old days (my gosh 50 years ago)... kids could do whatever they wanted. My play was SSC meaning i didn't break any bones and it was essential that the victims be willing so there'd be no fear of anyone reporting back to parents. No one ever did. Here's the secret words that will get nearly anyone into a scene--at any age--they still work: "Let's pretend..."

Because I went to a Catholic school at age 4 with a Mother Superior who was absolutely terrfying and I read some book about the process of becoming a nun, many horrific stories of the saints... my favorite scenes involved me as Mother Superior and my friend(s) as the postulant. It was necesary to lie on the floor, flaggelate with a rope with knots tied in it.. and for a finale, i usually tickled the willing victims until they pee'd themselves. I did not consider a tickling a success unless i got them to pee. After care consisted of giving them candy and reasurring them that we'd had so much fun. hehehehe who knows how many people carry memories hidden in the distant past...of the dark hall (convent chapel) of my childhood house.

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RE: First experiences... - 12/9/2009 12:52:24 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		My first experience was.  I shot out the womb like a PEZ dispenser and started barking orders....

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RE: First experiences... - 12/9/2009 1:37:28 PM   
Justme696


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Status: offline 		Holidays in Germany. I was 19 or so,. (Before I only had online "experience".)
a group of people..
a bottle of wine...letting it flow from a nice blond girls legs...licking/drinking it up.
Kissed her..dragged her by the arm to the cemetery which was near.....
she undressed and kneeled ( and I was like wtf!! and liked it). Obeyed and followed me the whole holidays. Gladly she lived closeby in the NEtherlands and we stayed to gether.
She was my first submissive in real life...although more a bedroom one.
Afther that I wanted more.

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RE: First experiences... - 12/9/2009 9:23:40 PM   
jennileigh8182


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Status: offline 		I wish my first experience were as positive as all these others!  I was...19? 20?  Something like that, and I met him on alt.com.  He was 32, I think, divorced *coughs* and lived an hour or so away.  We talked for a bit, decided to meet.  He collared me, we saw each other as often as schedules permitted, which was typically only every couple weeks....and then i found out that he wasn't divorced.  His wife still lived with him and was trying to work things out.  I was upset...and further upset when he said he showed his wife a pic he'd taken of me in a sexy outfit he'd bought for me to wear, and she said that i wasn't even pretty enough for him.  He grew very upset when I told hi that I did not want to progress the relationship ina sexual way until he was divorced.  We ended up splitting up because he didn't move ahead with leaving his wife, and i couldn't be the girl on the side.....he called me like 10 months later on my birthday, to tell me he'd found a "good little girl" (also about 19) who had defied her family and been disowned by them to move in with him.  But...unlike me...she was a "real" sub and a "good girl."  I was convinced for years that i was a bad sub, unworthy of a Master's attention, and undeserving of what I craved.  It also led me to get involved in a disastrous marriage with a very UNdominant man.  It was only about a year ago that someone i met through my gor r/p took the time to get inside my head and convinced me that i was not at fault for the situation, and pushed me to accept what i wanted and needed.

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RE: First experiences... - 12/10/2009 4:52:34 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears;
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Submissives, Dominants, Switches, lend me your years...
Why?  Why would I do this?  I don't know you from a can of paint. 

I have only come here seeking knowledge; things they would not teach me of in college... 
Is that right?  Have you seen the book list?  Search button is right up there... lil gold button.  Have you checked it out yet? It would be a good place to start for "knowledge".

So please, I beg of you, share with all of U/us ,
*Who is "U/us?  You and U/uther P/pendragon? 

your first experience
As noted, first experience of what?
And why don't you start the ball rolling and share with US.  Or do you just take?

so we all may live and learn together
I'm living and learning pretty good here without you, Bub.

through each other's acts and subsequent reflections. 
Ok.  You start, and I will learn from your acts and will subsequently reflect upon them and get back to you.

Thank you


You know, I'm rarely bitchy.  *Although it does seem to be happening more frequently these days.  I'll have to look at that.  hmmm.  Anyway.  are you kidding?  Look, we are not a bunch of role players here.  We're just some regular folks having a lil chat.  Would you seriously talk to us like this?

And seriously, you want something from me?  You gotta ante up.  We're not here for your amusement.  Honest.
 
Good luck in your quest to slake the thirst of knowledge.
sunshine

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RE: First experiences... - 12/10/2009 7:04:15 AM   
sweetsub1957


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Submissives, Dominants, Switches, lend me your years...
I only have thirteen and a half months to offer anyway.
I have only come here seeking knowledge; things they would not teach me of in college... 
In the right upper corner of the Forums pages there is that word "Search."  Use it and search for booklists.  That'll work, You'll come up with lots of them.
So please, I beg of you, share with all of U/us your first experience, so we all may live and learn together through each other's acts and subsequent reflections.  Thank you.
I seemed to learn just fine from my past experiences, but mostly from my last Sir.  Now why would I share my first experience with Someone I don't know at all?  How do I know this isn't just wank material?  (I'm surprised no one has asked that yet.)  It would make good wank material by the way, it was quite involved and lengthy.  lol

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RE: First experiences... - 12/11/2009 12:12:18 AM   
Rednekcol


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hawkwindblues

...leadress (is there an english word for a female leader or have i to stay with leader?)


I know this post has nothing to do with the topic, simply an answer to Hawkwindblues' question about English.  Hope no one minds!

Hawkwindblues, there is indeed no equivalent to the German word Leiterin.  While we do often change the -er ending on words to -ress to make it feminine, the word leader does not change that way.  I am afraid English leaves you with just the word leader, with no gender attached.

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