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Ladynslave -> RE: Take me..kidnap me..leave me no choice.. (11/30/2009 5:18:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

....But it DOES sound like a great weekend, does it not?? [;)]


Very much so...  nothing wrong with adding a little fantasy play to life.  Keeps it interesting.  Now I just need to replace the battery in that van... *WEG*



Drifa -> RE: Take me..kidnap me..leave me no choice.. (11/30/2009 6:43:00 PM)

You know, even some people who have been raped and understand that for the horrible assault it is still sometimes have rape fantasies.

I can't imagine a non-stop diet of rape scenarios, but I don't think a sub is out of line for liking the idea of an occasional play session with a rape theme.



Underumam -> RE: Take me..kidnap me..leave me no choice.. (11/30/2009 7:23:11 PM)

I think this type of thing will come into play in a place like this because W/we have shared our preferences/needs on our profiles. We attract this stuff to us because of this one fact alone. An unfortunate side effect of participating in an online public community. I don't have the same problem as You GM, but I have had a few sado-type Dominas approach me to see if I was interested in some "training"..lol. Finally for me, the good has outwieghed the bad.:)



CarrieO -> RE: Take me..kidnap me..leave me no choice.. (11/30/2009 8:17:27 PM)

Funny thing...not long after reading this thread, I got an email from a male sub asking why I hadn't kidnapped him yet given how close we were.

I told him I didn't do kidnapping, I'm more into the idea of hunting. To which he replied he would be willing prey and proceeded to suggest something gentle and too easy.

I came back with "I was thinking more like antlers strapped to your head, a paintball gun...or maybe a blow gun and dart...and a secluded woodland space"

He didn't reply....darn! [;)]

Oh well, back to reality...games are fun but life has a way of happening...daily.



ranja -> RE: Take me..kidnap me..leave me no choice.. (12/1/2009 1:56:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CarrieO


I came back with "I was thinking more like antlers strapped to your head, a paintball gun...or maybe a blow gun and dart...and a secluded woodland space"

He didn't reply....darn! [;)]



oh, give him the benefit of the doubt... maybe his computer crashed? it would be a pity to think he's a wimp... i'd go for a scenario like that anytime i'd be impressed with the suggestion... but then... maybe female subs have more balls?

i have to admit though... the being chained 24-7 and abused by my Dom is great wankmaterial for lil old me too... i actually do get those guys...



allthatjaz -> RE: Take me..kidnap me..leave me no choice.. (12/1/2009 2:37:18 AM)

I personally want a sub with imagination. Give me an idea and if I like it I will work on it.
A sub that wants to be chained 24/7 to a radiator needs to wake up and smell the coffee but its just a fantasy and he knows that in reality that's never really going to happen. A sub that has had fantasies about a weekend kidnap would interest me.
Yes its fantasy but as far as I am concerned its no more unreal than the fantasy I have of capturing earthling men and milking them for their sperm! There is no harm in it. It adds spice to ones mind and it gets me off from time to time!
Are we saying here that it all has to be 'real'? That having a fantasy that may be hard to play out is unreasonable? That having any fantasy is wrong and makes us unreal? if so all I can say is that all of what we do stems from what started as fantasy.



TazDevil -> RE: Take me..kidnap me..leave me no choice.. (12/1/2009 8:10:59 AM)

too submit 100% and be a true slave not what the lifestyles call a slave but a true slave, then yes they would have no chose at all! but the kidnap part it do's send off red flags in my head

and I do believe in giving chose I just saying what some few believe in



allthatjaz -> RE: Take me..kidnap me..leave me no choice.. (12/1/2009 8:29:26 AM)


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ORIGINAL: TazDevil

too submit 100% and be a true slave not what the lifestyles call a slave but a true slave, then yes they would have no chose at all! but the kidnap part it do's send off red flags in my head

and I do believe in giving chose I just saying what some few believe in



Pardon?



Hierodule -> RE: Take me..kidnap me..leave me no choice.. (12/1/2009 8:50:01 AM)

FR:

Is this a fantasy that they want to act out in a scene? Or something they want to pretend is real everyday? I willingly agreed to my relationship but I still have pursuit, take down, capture fantasies that I want to act out. Its not what I want to build my entire relationship on but feeling helpless and/or desired so much that I am am taken against my will really turns me on. 



Wolf2Bear -> RE: Take me..kidnap me..leave me no choice.. (12/1/2009 2:37:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

DAILY I get messages like this...and sometimes get messages like this after discussion for a while on line and even in person..
after on line...and a time period of knowing each other has passed.

A sub/slave that wants to "pretend"(in his mind) he has been kidnapped..forced..has no choice or was taken by the BIG D...is not a man I wish to have a relationship with.

Is he weak...unsure..and un-willing to look at his own process and WHY he wants to or feels he needs to submit..
- Not necessarily. Granted many men have this as a fantasy they want fulfilled and nothing more. Yes many men express this type of scenario with a hope that at some point it will be experienced, this is motivated by putting that out to be negotiated yet it isn't a prime fantasy. It is simply a fantasy which they want and need to experience without a hidden agenda. One needs to accurately determine that a man who wants this is not being selfish but being open about a desire to be a completely helpless and vulnerable which is contrary to a perceived notion that men are strong and shouldn't be vulnerable.

IS he in a fantasy...he may be unstable...or more..??
- No, he is expressing a fantasy. Whether he is unstable or stable can only be determined through in depth and careful negotiation and blunt open communication to see where his motives lay.

I feel this is a very  dependent man..

I feel he must CHOOSE in his mind and heart to submit and serve.
Simply my opinion

feedback?
your opinion...?
- When it has been determined that the man who expresses an HONEST desire for this type of fantasy, then I see that man being highly confident and quite stable to express and seriously discuss a situation such as you gave. Too often a man who is being open and honest and vulnerable; is looked down upon and considered less. That perception is often subtle on nature and commonly assumed to be a wanker who has nothing better to do than spout inane fantasies. As a result, this casts a very negative opinion to us who do have a deep desire to allow ourselves to be placed in a situation where we are as helpless and vulnerable as we possibly can place ourselves in.


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