Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Hope Chest


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> Hope Chest Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 3:45:30 PM   
Hierodule


Posts: 597
Joined: 9/22/2009
Status: offline 		One more month until I move in with my Master and become, essentially, a house wife/servant/kept girl! I have been thinking about collecting a sort of hope chest. You know, a collection of things that will help me take care of his house and make it a warm and inviting place for him to come home to. I think traditionally they contained mostly linens and china. In mine I want to put things like lingerie and toys, recipes I have collected, a couple of books on entertaining and housekeeping and a beautiful duvet cover I found second hand. I am also an age player so I will have some little girly things like the locking pink satin dairy that he gave me (he has one key I have the other) some ribbons and my baby doll and teddy.

What do you think belongs in a BDSM/power exchange hope chest? Has anyone else ever made a hope chest to prepare them selves for future ownership or marriage? If so what did it contain?

< Message edited by Hierodule -- 11/28/2009 4:02:22 PM >
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 3:56:03 PM   
Llyren


Posts: 637
Joined: 3/5/2007
From: Illinois
Status: offline
What funny is that I was just looking at my small toy collection I've acquired over the years yesterday, and thinking I bought them in the hopes of having them used on me. 

I have a couple of plugs of various sizes, a suede flogger, and a leather riding crop.  And some other toys, all 100% silicone.  I have some velcro restraints I've never gotten to use as well.  Someone mentioned here that the toys should go with the sub, and that really resonated with me. 

You might want to look into getting a few cute ruffly aprons, and some with bibs.  That would suit both the housekeeping status, and the ageplay interest.    I wish you much happiness.  =)


_____________________________

I'm not perving. I'm compensating for my myopia. So nyah.


Member of Cock-Suckers for World Peace

"Character is what you are in the dark."

- Lord John Whorfin

(in reply to Hierodule)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 4:01:50 PM   
Hierodule


Posts: 597
Joined: 9/22/2009
Status: offline 		Oh yes! Frilly apron for sure! I think the toys should go with the sub too. Its cleaner that way   and its a good way to show what you are into without being pushy. Thanks Llyren!

(in reply to Llyren)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 4:03:09 PM   
UniqueRaven


Posts: 1237
Joined: 9/30/2009
From: Austin, TX
Status: offline 		For aprons, you might want to look at these - too cute!

http://www.jessiesteele.com/catalog.php

For me i think two things most appreciated by men (without them normally specifically asking for it) are good quality towels, and good quality sheets.  And when the time comes, a good quality mattress as well.  Nothing says "home" like comfort.....so get high thread count, 100% cotton sheets and towels.  They're pricey but last a long time and are worth it!  And when he's comfy and had a good night's sleep he's going to be just that more inclined to treat you sweetly - or not, as the case may be, hee hee! 

Good luck to you, my best,
julie

(in reply to Llyren)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 4:09:11 PM   
Llyren


Posts: 637
Joined: 3/5/2007
From: Illinois
Status: offline
Yes, always get good sheets.  Save up and pay the extra for real silk, and don't buy the polyester "satin" ones.  Good quality Egyptian cotton and flannel sheets will last you for years.  I have a set of flannel sheets I've owned for fifteen years, and they just keep getting softer and nicer with each washing.

Invest in about a dozen plain white floursack dish cloths.  I think they dry things the best, and they're also good for covering your bread dough, and letting cookies cool.  You can bleach them in the wash, and they're fine. 




_____________________________

I'm not perving. I'm compensating for my myopia. So nyah.


Member of Cock-Suckers for World Peace

"Character is what you are in the dark."

- Lord John Whorfin

(in reply to UniqueRaven)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 4:11:37 PM   
UniqueRaven


Posts: 1237
Joined: 9/30/2009
From: Austin, TX
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Llyren

You can bleach them in the wash, and they're fine. 



Yes!  i recommend white everything - sheets, towels, etc.  You can bleach them if necessary, and clean, white, and fresh smelling linens and towels are such luxuries. 

julie

(in reply to Llyren)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 4:16:05 PM   
lovingpet


Posts: 4270
Joined: 6/19/2005
Status: offline 		I don't know how fancy you're union is going to be, but hope chest were often filled with special items from the ceremony and eventually with other keepsakes as life progressed. If you are going to do a contract, having a special holder for it, a box for such things as handfasting cords, ceremonial chain, or other very symbolic items from the event. Other more modern things might include a scrapbook and photo albumn. For the little in you, maybe a very nice volume of bedtime stories. As far as kinky stuff, candles (especially if you enjoy wax play), different oils, potpourri, incense, a matching set of cuffs et al, small vials of yours and his blood, your tears, and other such things (some like them for rituals of various sorts). As far as household stuff, consider a book on simple sewing repairs, kit, and maybe even a small machine, a collection of spices, gather up his family's special recipes. Those are just a few ideas. This is a really sweet idea. With your own special touches I know it will be much treasured.

lovingpet

_____________________________

If you put your head into more, you'd have to put your back into less. ~Me

10 Fluffy pts.


(in reply to Hierodule)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 4:18:39 PM   
chiaThePet


Posts: 2694
Joined: 2/4/2007
Status: offline

Ohhhh, thought Suzanne Somers had come up with a Breast Master.

Not that he isn't.

chia* (the pet)



_____________________________

Love is a many splendid sting.

You can stick me in the corner, but I'll probably just end up coloring on the walls.

(in reply to Hierodule)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 4:50:07 PM   
MasterSlaveLA


Posts: 3991
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Hierodule

What do you think belongs in a BDSM/power exchange hope chest?



A lawn chair, red licorice, and jumper cables... if I say anymore I could be arrested.




_____________________________

It's only kinky the first time!!!

(in reply to Hierodule)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 5:07:13 PM   
Llyren


Posts: 637
Joined: 3/5/2007
From: Illinois
Status: offline
I'd get a pretty little notebook with matching pen, that you can use to make notes on things he likes.  The way he likes his coffee, or if he mentioned enjoying how you'd arranged some flowers.  Not only will you have a record to refer to if you have an absentminded moment, but if you're feeling down, you can go back and read how you pleased him in the past.


_____________________________

I'm not perving. I'm compensating for my myopia. So nyah.


Member of Cock-Suckers for World Peace

"Character is what you are in the dark."

- Lord John Whorfin

(in reply to MasterSlaveLA)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 5:23:34 PM   
kiwisub12


Posts: 4742
Joined: 1/11/2006
Status: offline 		A good set of pots and pans. I have noticed that they seem to be low on the average males list for spending more money than necessary on. And also good quality cutlery - knives and forks - i hate the cheap stuff that cuts into your hands. You can get both of these fairly cheaply if you know what you want at places like Tuesday Morning or ebay.

I bought oil paintings to my Sirs house - another thing that i have noticed that some men don't pay a lot of attention to. There is something about art work on the walls that makes a house a home.

Another thing that a house looks good with but would be hard to keep in a hope chest are plants. They soften the hard angles of a house. I also hung a quilt on the wall that i made.

I realise that none of these things are specifically bdsm, but you also serve in your relationship.

< Message edited by kiwisub12 -- 11/28/2009 5:25:35 PM >

(in reply to Llyren)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 6:05:10 PM   
Hierodule


Posts: 597
Joined: 9/22/2009
Status: offline 		Hey whatever you want to do in the privacy of your own home... ;-)
quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA
A lawn chair, red licorice, and jumper cables... if I say anymore I could be arrested.




kiwisub You gave me a great idea...we are both Italin American and have talked about how our families grew tomatoes and the world of difference in taste between homegrown and store bought. I will have a balcony at Master's so I can  have a little garden again in spring. It will be small, probably just tomatoes and herbs because they do well in pots, maybe some peppers.I think some seeds would be a good thing to bring

I also like the notebook idea Llyren. Thanks everyone. I'm getting all girly and happy. Way more girly and happy than I was for my marriage actually.

(in reply to MasterSlaveLA)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 6:14:02 PM   
kiwisub12


Posts: 4742
Joined: 1/11/2006
Status: offline 		Oh yes - i grow tomatos in pots - and Sir loves the results!!!!! Make sure you get the potting mix that has the stuff that retains moisture - you will get less blossom end rot.

(in reply to Hierodule)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 6:50:07 PM   
AquaticSub


Posts: 14867
Joined: 12/27/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Hierodule
What do you think belongs in a BDSM/power exchange hope chest? Has anyone else ever made a hope chest to prepare them selves for future ownership or marriage? If so what did it contain?


Well I wouldn't so much call it a hope chest to prepare myself for ownership/marriage but when I was 18 I started collecting the toys that I like being used on me to make it simpler to play. It makes the scene pre-talks go faster and I usually hate those talks.

_____________________________

Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

(in reply to Hierodule)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Hope Chest - 11/28/2009 7:23:04 PM   
Llyren


Posts: 637
Joined: 3/5/2007
From: Illinois
Status: offline 		You can buy hanging tomato planters, that would increase your growing space.  I even found a link on how to make your own, and you can grow herbs in the top half.  Basil and tomatoes grow well together.  This summer I had a grape tomato plant and several basil plants in a pot on my porch.  I pinched off my basil as it grew and stashed it in a bag in the freezer. 

http://www.curbly.com/diy-maven/posts/1620-how-to-make-an-upside-down-tomato-planter


_____________________________

I'm not perving. I'm compensating for my myopia. So nyah.


Member of Cock-Suckers for World Peace

"Character is what you are in the dark."

- Lord John Whorfin

(in reply to kiwisub12)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Hope Chest - 11/29/2009 6:05:49 AM   
aldompdx


Posts: 538
Joined: 10/24/2004
Status: offline 		One who identifies as a BDSM "slave" should not ask others here to validate your hopes. Instead, you should engage in open and transparent communication with your partner and ask him what is appropriate or permissable to bring into the mix.

Remember, the surprise is usually for the one giving it.

(in reply to Hierodule)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Hope Chest - 11/29/2009 6:51:14 AM   
CaringandReal


Posts: 1397
Joined: 2/15/2008
Status: offline 		Nice new av!

It seems strange to do a hope chest in an age where everything you'd ever need is available within a few days with a few clicks of a mouse. But it sounds like fun. :)

You've got a good general idea. I assume you've been to his house?

Think about what's absent, what his place or your place together will need. Stay away from decor, get practical stuff.

Think about what you'll need to serve him better. Have you cooked dinner for him there before? Then you probably know what sorts of untensils, spices, things that make cooking easier that he is missing. Is the house drafty? Get some of those things you put at the bottoms of doors and windows, etc. Are there things you know that make him physically uncomfortable that might be relieved with a thoughtful gift or two?

Of course BDSM toys are a good idea, too. Get some for his interests, as well as your own, maybe a hot dvd or two.

_____________________________

"A friend who bleeds is better" --placebo

"How seldom we recognize the sound when the bolt of our fate slides home." --thomas harris

(in reply to Hierodule)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Hope Chest - 11/29/2009 9:30:29 AM   
Hierodule


Posts: 597
Joined: 9/22/2009
Status: offline 		With all due respect, I'm not asking others to validate my hopes. I was more curious as to what others would put in it. I don't really care if they approve of my choices or not.

I don't understand how anyone can see putting together a hope chest as "unslavely." Also, you assume this is a surprise, why? As if my partner and I haven't talked about my putting it together. Its a way for me deal with the anticipation of moving in with him and to get into "housewife space." For me collecting the hope chest is a symbolic transition from single and self determined to owned servant.It shows what I bring of myself to offer him and his house. He has told me many times that he wants to own ME. He doesn't want me to stop being me so that I will be owned. Because then he would be losing the thing that he desires to possess.

It isn't so much a dowry or a box of thing I am offering him as a "hope" to be pleasing and tools to help me do that. I am bringing femininity into his life. If he felt I needed him to dictate exactly what form that femininity would take he probably wouldn't want me to move in.

quote:

ORIGINAL: aldompdx

One who identifies as a BDSM "slave" should not ask others here to validate your hopes. Instead, you should engage in open and transparent communication with your partner and ask him what is appropriate or permissable to bring into the mix.

Remember, the surprise is usually for the one giving it.




< Message edited by Hierodule -- 11/29/2009 9:54:56 AM >

(in reply to aldompdx)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Hope Chest - 11/29/2009 9:37:57 AM   
CarrieO


Posts: 2432
Joined: 1/27/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Hierodule

It isn't so much a dowry or a box of thing I am offering him as a "hope" to be pleasing and tools to help me do that.



I love this quote.  Very pro-active and, for me, it shows your desire to bring what will please both of you to this relationship.  I really have nothing to add that hasn't already been said, I just wanted to say best of luck in your move forward.

_____________________________

"No matter what happens in the kitchen, never apologize"~Julia Child~


(in reply to Hierodule)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Hope Chest - 11/29/2009 9:44:12 AM   
Hierodule


Posts: 597
Joined: 9/22/2009
Status: offline 		Thank You

quote:

ORIGINAL: CaringandReal

Nice new av!



(in reply to CaringandReal)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> Hope Chest Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.109