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How do submissive males expect to be treated by their D... - 11/27/2009 10:09:49 PM

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If you are a submissive male and you have a female Domme, how do you expect her to treat you? What exactly are your expectations and what are your limits?

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/27/2009 11:35:59 PM

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Are you asking subbies, or slaves?

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 12:00:55 AM

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Kevin?

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 12:08:34 AM

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Are you asking subbies, or slaves?

I'm asking both.

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 12:39:11 AM

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Kevin?

my thought as well...

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 3:20:48 AM

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OP, if you check out the Ask a Mistress forum, you'll find all kinds of Dommes complaining about do-me subs - men who contact them demanding fulfillment of their particular kink. For example, a year ago, two men posted separately wanting to know why it was so hard to find women to kick them in the balls.

The general interpretation of the dynamic is that if the Domme caters to the sub, it's topping from the bottom. In its purest form, a Domme should be getting served, not t'other way around.

If you simply cater to sub men's fantasies, you'd be what's called a service Top. If you like that, you might as well hang up a shingle and collect some money for it. One pro Domme gave her rates as $230/hour.

I will assume that you've been contacted by plenty of sub men who will be forthright about telling you what thsy'd like. As far as hard limits go, the usual (both genders) are scat, children, and animals. Some also have pee play, very heavy play and blood as hard limits.

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 5:29:40 AM

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I think it important to move away from the stereotypical answers you have received remembering the slave is first and foremost a human being, That a grounded balance in every power exchange is not the product of what others foundation their relationship on, but more what you and the one serving you have agreed upon . Never lose sight of the fact that with the acceptance of another’s subservience comes a responsibility and you are charged with measuring up to the challenges of everyday life and dominance simultaneously. Both dominance and submission require a lot of effort, its not all fun and games and if its rooted strictly in kink its ending began at the beginning of the relationship.

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 5:47:54 AM

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As human beings. We are men first, play comes after mutual respect is given and rules are established. Give me all your money merchants, you are a worthless slave who cannot live without my control drill is just such a turn off. Its boring silly and if anything reflects a person's immaturity. Definite red flag for me, dont want to be a servant to anyone like that
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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 6:22:35 AM

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 8:39:52 AM

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As human beings. We are men first, play comes after mutual respect is given and rules are established. Give me all your money merchants, you are a worthless slave who cannot live without my control drill is just such a turn off. Its boring silly and if anything reflects a person's immaturity. Definite red flag for me, dont want to be a servant to anyone like that
Kevin

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 8:51:16 AM

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery
As human beings. We are men first, play comes after mutual respect is given and rules are established. Give me all your money merchants, you are a worthless slave who cannot live without my control drill is just such a turn off. Its boring silly and if anything reflects a person's immaturity. Definite red flag for me, dont want to be a servant to anyone like that

i agree completely.

i expect to be treated with respect. Submission is not synonymous with lack of self-esteem or self respect. Submission has to be earned.

Once i've agreed to submit to someone, then they can treat me as they choose, but prior to that, treat me with respect. i hate it when random Dommes contact me and begin their initial correspondence by saying things like "On your knees, bitch boi!!" To me, that doesn't prove that they're dominant, it proves that they're stupid.

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 8:54:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

As human beings. We are men first, play comes after mutual respect is given and rules are established. Give me all your money merchants, you are a worthless slave who cannot live without my control drill is just such a turn off. Its boring silly and if anything reflects a person's immaturity. Definite red flag for me, dont want to be a servant to anyone like that
Kevin

Who are you, and what have you done with Kevie?

Seriously, Kevin.. this is the absolute BEST, most reasonable post you have ever done.

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 9:02:25 AM

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Dammit....now I have to withdraw my earlier statement that Kevin had added nothing to the boards.

Good post Kevin.

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 9:41:58 AM

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Thank You
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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 10:46:12 AM

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Here is a real truthful correct response....You expect to be treated in exactly the way you WANT to be treated. I whole idea in relationships, regardless of what kind, is to find someone that will fulfill YOUR needs. The other expects the same and if you can both fulfill the other you can have a lasting rich relationship.

If not then it is time to look elsewhere.

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 11:06:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: QueenPenelope

If you are a submissive male and you have a female Domme, how do you expect her to treat you? What exactly are your expectations and what are your limits?

Until such time as a collar has been offered and accepted, both need to treat one oneanother with respect, common courtesy and dignity and after one is collared, they should treat one another in whatever way that has been mutually agreed upon. Sadly, I have seen many a dominant making demands that are uncalled for pror to any such agreement of submission and I have seen many submissives who try to throw their submission to anyone that might have them.

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 11:30:20 AM

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"As human beings. We are men first, play comes after mutual respect is given and rules are established. Give me all your money merchants, you are a worthless slave who cannot live without my control drill is just such a turn off. Its boring silly and if anything reflects a person's immaturity. Definite red flag for me, dont want to be a servant to anyone like that "

Baffles me why so many men approach ME with this attitude? Very annoying and not likely to get them far..at least not with me.

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 1:50:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Kevin?

is he that guy??? that.....you know.....?

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 4:17:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Kevin?

my thought as well...

No I'm not Kevin. Nor do I know a Kevin.

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RE: How do submissive males expect to be treated by the... - 11/28/2009 9:31:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery
As human beings. We are men first, play comes after mutual respect is given and rules are established. Give me all your money merchants, you are a worthless slave who cannot live without my control drill is just such a turn off. Its boring silly and if anything reflects a person's immaturity. Definite red flag for me, dont want to be a servant to anyone like that

i agree completely.

i expect to be treated with respect. Submission is not synonymous with lack of self-esteem or self respect. Submission has to be earned.

Once i've agreed to submit to someone, then they can treat me as they choose, but prior to that, treat me with respect. i hate it when random Dommes contact me and begin their initial correspondence by saying things like "On your knees, bitch boi!!" To me, that doesn't prove that they're dominant, it proves that they're stupid.

Not to mention, trashy and ungraceful!

I think you have the right expectations Rochsub.

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