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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

You are my idol DesFIP -- i find it so hard to conform to the speed limit - so i join all the others with the same issue.(where is a good matter transmitter when you need one?)

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For a time, if there was a flow, I swam against it. Then I turned 20

Like anything else, it's a balancing act. There's merit in going with the flow, given the right time and place, but there's also merit in not not joining the herd and asserting your individuality. Problem is, nobody I know really gets individuality. They pin their colours to a certain mast and think they're being rebellious or nonconformist when really they're just taking a different route along the same path as everyone else.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP


Are you saying you won't do anything that anybody else ever does because you want to view yourself as a noncomformist? Limiting your options, that, since in a world this large there's damn little you can do that hasn't been done before.

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ORIGINAL: Underumam

Conforming is something I've never done well at, from childhood to adult life. I've tried to get a grip on being rebellious and going against the grain just for the sake of doing so. It profited me nothing, and got me into a crap-load of trouble. lol.

I have however, had to accept the fact that I simply am not like the majority of other people, and that's just fine with me. If what the majority of the people in the world call "normal" is truly normal, then I'm glad/proud to be a bit different. I believe that each person needs to be true to themselves, and have the courage to live their own truth.

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In some circles one is a non-conformist by spelling the word you correctly.

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ORIGINAL: Kyoki

I have an idea. How about doing something because it's something you like doing?

*GASP* The nerve of this young man! Posting that he does things only because it suits him!

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ORIGINAL: Roselaure

In reading posts on another thread, I began thinking about "normalcy" and "conformity".  Conforming for the sake of conformity is not something I am into.  Conversely, though, neither is not comforming for the sake of non conformity.  People who shock to be shocking, who are different just to be different, don't hold any more appeal to me than the George Babbitts of the world who are determined to conform to society's rules at all costs.

So how do you view conformity? When up against it, conform or not conform, that is the question.

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ORIGINAL: Roselaure

So how do you view conformity? When up against it, conform or not conform, that is the question.

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ORIGINAL: JudasButcher

My lucey are very far from "conforming" or "being the norm", no matter how anyone looks at us.

We are barely out of the suburbs, and grow a big garden, raise chickens, rabbits, turkeys, and have filled the "lawn" with fruit tree's and plants while everyone around me manicures their lawn for the obvious upcoming feature in better homes and gardens. We don't own a television, microwave, coffee pot, or other electric gadgets that peopole rely on. We wash clothes in a wringer washer and hang them on a line. After 10 years here, people still stare. I'm a huge metalhead,and always have been. It's nothing to see me on a warm summer day out working the gardens with Slayer cranking from the garage, wearing bib overalls with a concert shirt underneath. Just because I am 44 doesnt mean I have to stop listening to my music and take up a Carpenters collection any more than luceys sisters think its not normal for a woman to have long hair over 40. We're also pagan, which even in this day and age is still "not normal' with a large majority of people. Then toss in kink, and we're as odd as they get to most people.

We don't do anything we do for the attention or shock factor, we just are who we are. Do I care what others think? Not at all. Our interests run far and wide, and we embrace every one of them. We have kink friends, gardening friends, pagan friends, homesteading friends, music friends, and others we have known our entire lives. Those who don't accept us for one aspect of our lives aren't around long. I don't have time in my life to try to conform, or do I have time to explain why I do this or that. I'm just me, take it or leave it.

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ORIGINAL: JudasButcher

That we are Underumam, and we are very content.

Not to hijack the thread, but I can honestly say that we have grown much together by living the way we do. We garden together, we harvest together, we cook/bake bread/can together, nearly everything we do together. Even laundry with that old wringer washer is time spent together. One washes, the other rinses,and we go out together to hang them. The evenings are spent around a home cooked meal, usually all from our own property, and followed by reading, talking, or playing board games. (when we aren't in the playroom of course lol) Without the idiot box as a distraction, we discuss every aspect of our daily lives, from her day at work, to my job search, to that very cool flogger I saw for sale last night. It's a wonderful life with a wonderful woman to share it with. I've yet to see another one that will gladly bake bread when shackled to the kitchen counter. :-)