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online training..... - 11/21/2009 2:57:03 PM

nickthefilmguy

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Hi,

My Mistress is away for a period of time, and she is very busy with her family. she as ask me to find some sort of training manual. some sort of manuel that will keep me busy while she is busy. is there any such thing? i book of exercises, games, ideas all about training a sub from across the ocean.

Is there a website dedicated to online training?

Any help would be great!

many thanks

nick

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RE: online training..... - 11/21/2009 4:03:42 PM

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Not really my kind of thing, but hey, who am I to judge? I came across this site a while ago, don't know if it is any good for what you want: http://www.virmst.eu/

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RE: online training..... - 11/21/2009 4:16:56 PM

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I'm sure there are several books you can pick up, I know I've perused a couple at my favorite "toy" store but the titles escape me. I would also confirm the training step-by-step with your Mistress - it's entirely possible.she will disagree with the author at some point.

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RE: online training..... - 11/21/2009 4:18:50 PM

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she as ask me to find some sort of training manual.

Interesting. *I* would have found the one that I wanted my boy to read.

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RE: online training..... - 11/21/2009 4:37:45 PM

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I think your time would be better spent in a self improvement project. Go check out your local junior college. Many offer classes in massage, cooking, or something else you can learn to better serve her. You won't know what is offered until you go check out what is available in your area.

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RE: online training..... - 11/21/2009 8:50:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: nickthefilmguy

Hi,

My Mistress is away for a period of time, and she is very busy with her family. she as ask me to find some sort of training manual. some sort of manuel that will keep me busy while she is busy. is there any such thing? i book of exercises, games, ideas all about training a sub from across the ocean.

Is there a website dedicated to online training?

Any help would be great!

many thanks

nick

I've never heard of the teacher expecting a student to come up with their own homework.

Sounds like you have two options, ask your mistress to assign a specific manual or book that she would prefer you learn from or take the bull by the horns and do what peppermint suggested

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I think your time would be better spent in a self improvement project. Go check out your local junior college. Many offer classes in massage, cooking, or something else you can learn to better serve her. You won't know what is offered until you go check out what is available in your area.

If she, your mistress, isn't willing or wanting to explain what she wants you to learn, you'll need to do some research yourself.
Maybe the resources listed on THIS thread will help.

Good luck.

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RE: online training..... - 11/21/2009 9:18:03 PM

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OP:
for some reason this feels very sad and neglectful to me..

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RE: online training..... - 11/22/2009 6:20:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: nickthefilmguy

Hi,

My Mistress is away for a period of time, and she is very busy with her family. she as ask me to find some sort of training manual. some sort of manuel that will keep me busy while she is busy. is there any such thing? i book of exercises, games, ideas all about training a sub from across the ocean.

Is there a website dedicated to online training?

Any help would be great!

many thanks

nick

what makes her think that while she's busy, you aren't as well? you have a life don't you?

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RE: online training..... - 11/22/2009 7:00:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: nickthefilmguy

Hi,

My Mistress is away for a period of time, and she is very busy with her family. she as ask me to find some sort of training manual. some sort of manuel that will keep me busy while she is busy. is there any such thing? i book of exercises, games, ideas all about training a sub from across the ocean.
Is there a website dedicated to online training?
Any help would be great!
many thanks
nick

Anyone who is that busy needs to avoid starting new relationships, on or off line.
The risk of vague suggestions (“oh, just go learn something and leave me alone”) is that you might learn she really doesn't have a clue. And wouldn't that be just too bad....for her?

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RE: online training..... - 11/22/2009 7:31:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: catize

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ORIGINAL: nickthefilmguy

Hi,

My Mistress is away for a period of time, and she is very busy with her family. she as ask me to find some sort of training manual. some sort of manuel that will keep me busy while she is busy. is there any such thing? i book of exercises, games, ideas all about training a sub from across the ocean.
Is there a website dedicated to online training?
Any help would be great!
many thanks
nick

Anyone who is that busy needs to avoid starting new relationships, on or off line.
The risk of vague suggestions (“oh, just go learn something and leave me alone”) is that you might learn she really doesn't have a clue. And wouldn't that be just too bad....for her?

Could you point me to where you got that they just started this relationship? And do you know exactly what he means by she's 'busy with family'? It could be something life threatening, how do you know? Do you really expect the dominant to always 'perform on command'? What if she has zero energy because she's 'busy with family'? There are way too many what if's to beat someone down for whatever may be happening in their lives.

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RE: online training..... - 11/22/2009 10:53:09 AM

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Could you point me to where you got that they just started this relationship?

So let's assume then it isn't a new relationship. He doesn't know where to find a training manual and is unsure what exactly he is to be trained in. His quest for a rather eclectic book list (“exercises, games, how to be trained on line”) indicates to me he doesn't know what she wants from him. And if it is not a new relationship, he doesn't seem to know her very well

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Do you really expect the dominant to always 'perform on command'?

As the dominant is in charge of the relationship and the decision maker, I expect him/her to be clear about any task they set for me. I expect that if they are going to instruct me to pursue an avenue of learning while they are away, that they will make sure I understand what it is they want before their absence.

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how do you know?

There certainly are times when life events supersede all else. But if that is the case, then go take care of what needs attending to, and skip the vague instructions for busy work.

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RE: online training..... - 11/22/2009 2:29:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: nickthefilmguy

Hi,

My Mistress is away for a period of time, and she is very busy with her family. she as ask me to find some sort of training manual. some sort of manuel that will keep me busy while she is busy. is there any such thing? i book of exercises, games, ideas all about training a sub from across the ocean.

Is there a website dedicated to online training?

Any help would be great!

many thanks

nick

Everyone has an opinion on training. I must say I would not send a sub off to find out how anther trains a sub. as this is the dominant's responisibility to train them as they desire them to be

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RE: online training..... - 11/22/2009 5:52:36 PM

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I certainly think it's interesting to see what others consider necessary training for a submissive; especially if you are a new dominant, it helps to see things like that to get some perspectives and perhaps start one down some trains of thought. But that's something a dominant does, and doesn't involve the submissive in.

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RE: online training..... - 11/22/2009 6:05:35 PM

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I suppose I see it like this......

If I were to have a furry, four legged creature, no matter what happened in the rest of My life, I would see to it that said creature would be fed, watered, nourished in My absence. Even if My time was taken away from it, I would make sure that it didn't starve. If the time should come that I can not, or will not fulfill that responsibility, I should relinquish My rights as owner of such creature, and put it in the hands of someone who can.

In other words, if My father should die on the other side of the country, I would absolutely find someone to feed My dog while I am away. I would not leave him just wondering about until someone, out of the kindness of their heart, would offer him a meal. That has nothing to do with external circumstance.

With that said, if you can't see fit to kennel your dog should your presence be needed across the country, why in the hell are you taking full responsibility for another human being?

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